Update. Thanks again for all your responses.
I did meet him on Saturday. We had a booze free discussion about his comments and my 'recent behaviour'.
He did apologise for using the term 'project'. But. He also said that it had been a bit of a shock to him that I'd turned out to be so 'sparky'. Apparently, with previous girlfriends he has been the decision maker, the one in the driving seat, and he presumed that my age in relation to his, and my 'build' (I am quite short and petite) meant that he thought It'd be the same.
Could I adapt slightly, did I think? Be a little quieter at times, let him have the floor more often? Because he really finds me attractive, he says, and we've been having fun, apart from this blip, and the best things are the things that you work hard for. You should be able to 'improve' yourself if needs be and if a relationship requires it. He can tell me this, apparently, because at 28 I will have little concept of this. But he at 32 has a wealth of experience, and can truly 'tell it like it is' .
I should add, just for detail's sake, we have DTD, several times, prior to all this, and it was great, on both sides, no indication about him being overly dominant in that department.
I sat, bemused. When it was finally my turn to speak I informed him, icily, that no one I had encountered thus far in my life had ever made me feel like I need to 'adapt' or that I was an acquired taste, and what he had said was actually making me feel quite sick. I told him that despite his completely fucked up views on relationships, I wished him well as I am a decent human being, for all my 'shortcomings'.
I turned on my heel and walked out.