To report a mother to the head

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bit of a rant here but AIBU to have reported a mother who shouted at my child to the head. I was absolutely livid! She even had the audacity to shout at me!

There wasn't any contradiction in OP's story. The first post was very short, then she elaborated more about it. But nothing was changed, just expanded.

And she said very clearly if the mother had calmly approached me i would of made him apologise as this is what i normally make him do

unlucky83 if you shouted at my son (9yo, sometimes walks part of the journey by himself), I would be thanking you, and.....telling him off myself when I pick him up from school.

I have always said to the other parents in the school, that if they see my DC misbehaving, tell them off.

the head then called me into her office and said she was appaled by the womans behaviour and would talk to her.
Was this before or after you 'reported' the shouty woman?

ThatBloodyWoman, please tell me you're joking and I've misinterpreted the irony.

Yes no contradiction. Depends how you read it.

This thread has all the classic ingredients for a Mumsnet bun fight!

Mothers fighting over the rights of their children - one of whom is eventually revealed to be autistic - drip-feed by OP, OP's story resembling a shifting sands, OP's posts even possessing a certain grammatical idiosyncrasy normally pounced on by MsNetters...! Oh, and a first-time poster!

You'd almost think someone had a check list.

it does not depend on how you read it, they are two different and incompatible things. If I say you phoned me and then I say I phoned you, they are 2 different and incompatible things. Same as if I went to the head and reported someone or the head saw the incident and called me in to comment.
Both things can not be true, and it is not a matter of interpretation.

Shifting sands, Grockle, shifting sands! Just to add to the fun of the fair!

I didn't understand what she shouted, so I just went to the head

and

the head then called me into her office and said she was appaled by the womans behaviour and would talk to her.

Are not two different and incompatible things.

She could have found the head in the corridor....told her...then the head called her into the office.

Woe betide anyone who fails to provide a perfect narrative with every single detail, every word verbatim, in the absolutely correct order, in their very first post.

I dunno, I just can't understand a single word of such garbage otherwise

the head is an authority figure

to the children, she's not going to be giving someones Mum lines y'know.

That's right Bialystock threads like this make me think some people must have low self esteem to CARE so much about other people's crap...to keep coming back like it's a court of law and picking holes and being mean.

want yes but when we feel upset for some people it's natural to seek out someone "in charge".

I used to work in a West End Theatre and we had a man come in from the unrelated theatre next door to rant about getting thrown out!

The manager nodded sympathetically...he listened and calmed the man down...why? Because though this man was not his problem, he knew he had come to him as an Authority Figure. He wanted someone in a suit to complain to....and he got it.

It seems contradictory to me (and I have just pretty much RTFT). Did the Head witness what happened or not? Original version, not. Second version, yes. Did the Head really call another parent's behaviour 'appalling'? (Seems unlikely from even the most unprofessional of HTs).

My ds2 got shouted at by a parent when he was in first term of Reception for kicking another (Y2) boy in the playground. The boy's Dad shouted at him and made him cry. My friend was taking care of my ds when it happened, as I was in another part of the playground supervising my dd. It turned out ds2 and this boy have this 'game' where they kick each other at lunchtime and ds2 was very confused because they do it to each other all the time. I was a bit annoyed at the Dad but I didn't have a go at him.

This thread is beginning to remind me of a hamster and frozen EBM.

I've been wondering what happened to that poor little fella

I think complaining to the head is OTT ClapHands and I'd guess that she had lots of other things to be getting on with rather than having to deal with parents' squabbles.

I would need to know the mothers side.

I and my little children have been knocked forcefully out of the way by a child within AsD. It hurt and was quite a shock and very rude.

Pud yes so do I but I still think people are unnecessarily mean on here.

Oh fgs.

I think that you were both in the wrong.

claphands me too.

Flipping hell, just came back on and realised that I'm down as the devil incarnate all of a sudden!

I think some of you have bigged me up to spitting out the words with a knuckleduster pressed into her back.Or tackling unknown hardcore gangsters on the street, risking headbutts or worse...

This was a little incident where a schoolmum decided to shout at a child.
Thats not acceptable to me.
I would tell her so.

If me saying (calmly) there would be consequences if she shouted at me or my child again is threatening behaviour, so is shouting at a child in the first instance!

If I thought she was totally ott and might deck me on the spot, I would be concerned about her tbh.
Your average schoolmum isn't going to do that, but if she did, well, so be it.

I don't get how its ok to shout at another persons child but its not ok to take them to task?

I won't let people shout at my children unchallenged in this sort of environment, but its up to others what they do.

I'm not running to the teacher or police, or creating a mountain out of a molehill in my response -but I'm advising I might take further action if it happens again.And a repeat episode, imo, would warrant further action, such as school involvement.

What's this about a hamster and a frozen EBM? (Sounds much more believable interesting than this incident!)

I'm also intrigued about that Better - was the hamster frozen?