To report a mother to the head

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bit of a rant here but AIBU to have reported a mother who shouted at my child to the head. I was absolutely livid! She even had the audacity to shout at me!

One of DS's best friends is on the autistic spectrum so I have some limited experience - your child apologising isn't the issue. The other mother may have been unreasonable, but I'm almost certain you were.

Why did the head call you in?

Worra - I actually thought "Well that's 15 minutes of my life I won't get back"!

I think you need to let this go. You are not going to get an apology from the other mum clearly. She thinks you are wrong, you think she is. She shouldn't have shouted, you should have apologised and asked after her child. Forget about it, move on and avoid her in the future. It will blow over and be old news in a week or two.

Same here Kew

This is the longest drip feed ever though. ...

If you want people to be kinder to you and have more patience and understanding towards your son I think you need a massive attitude adjustment.
Maybe she just got fed up with dealing with your son and 'that' mother who does nothing.
highly doubt the head actually stepped in. Nice try.

How weird and unprofessional of the head to tell you that she though the other mother's behaviour was 'appalling' that's not conducive to good relationships or going to help de-escalate the situation!

I would sidle up to her and whisper in her not to ever shout at me or my child again, or she will find there are consequences to her actions.
Calmly -like talking to a mardy toddler -which she apparently behaves like.

Sounds like you were both unreasonable and need to learn some playground etiquette. However you can only be responsible for your own behavior.

the head then called me into her office and said she was appaled by the womans behaviour and would talk to her.

Well, that's a complete turnaround from your OP

Seriously ThatBloodyWoman, that's how you resolve these things! What are the consequences, telling the head again or petrol bombing her house?

the head then called me into her office and said she was appaled by the womans behaviour and would talk to her.

Nope. That didn't happen.

Yes, what 'consequences'?

That could easily be misconstrued as a thread.

*threat, not thread!

And welcome to MN, OP :)

If your ds hurt her dc then she is likely to be cross. I appreciate your child has autism but my dd has had physical issues and if someone knocked into her she'd go flying.
I think she's bu grassing on you to the head, but you should have apologised on his behalf.

I'm bit getting the gist here Op....

Did the head witness the incident....

I imagine they must have to give such an opinion....which seems in itself extremely odd

I'm 'not'

This doesn't add up.

A small child bumps into another child and the mother goes all crazy, shouting the odds.

No there're more to this.

Well, I wouldn't need the consequences, because its just to let them know if they think they can behave like that to me or my child,they've not picked a soft target!
Its 'friendly advice' not a threat.

That....
Blimey you sound scary

It's not friendly advice its threatening behaviour. It's also ridiculous because you both know there actually aren't any consequences. I imagine the response would be to laugh in your face.

thatbloody for goodness sake, it's kids bumping into each other in the playground, not a scene from The Sopranos.

I am.