AIBU in not telling my mother I spent the 8k she gave me....

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....on crap.

She told me it was for me. But after I spent it she told me it was to put towards important things like a car or wedding.

Oops.

non essential gaming stuff is what is most likely to make blood boil. Why would you even do that?

I find that really hard to believe,I had a 10k insurance pay out, I was clubbing, pubbing and getting into heroin. It still took me a year to waste.

I was working though, are you working at all?

Can you tell us how much of the £8000 you spent on 'non-essential gaming stuff"?

Whilst a gift is a gift, when it is such a large on, I don't thing there is any problem in asking how it has been spent.

I think the OP is going to reap as she sowed on this one.

Your posts and the 'Oops' comment make me think that you are very young OP not to mention the gaming thing. If this is so I think you will regret this in years to come but you are evidently not too bothered right now.

I do agree with posters who say you will regret it in the future.
But what's done is done.

Getting an Alienware PC with multiple screen set up would be a costly.

I'm dying to know what gaming stuff you got.

Watching this thread! Gaming stuff? Do you have a Xbox obsession ?!
Dying to know

If you can spend that much on gaming stuff you have a problem. Please seek help.

It's obviously gone past hobby status and become significantly detrimental to your finances.

Can you be more specific about the gaming stuff.

What's done is done but I do feel a bit sick for you. With 8k you wouldn't have far too go before you had enough for a deposit on a house!

surely this is a pisstake?

Blimey what a waste of your mothers money.

Surely you didn't need someone to tell you to spend the 8k on something worthwhile, it's common sense to not fritter it away

Not judging I am rubbish with money but I am intrigued by gaming stuff and how much of it you can buy with 8 grand - do tell more...

A terrible waste.

But - she GAVE it to you. Gifts with strings aren't gifts, if she didn't make it clear what she intended you to spend it on before you accepted it - she can't say anything.

We spent several thousand dollars on a gaming PC for ds, and that was for a fairly low end system, you can easily spend a huge amount of money on gaming. However it wouldn't be for crap. I do think it is unfair to give a gift and afterward say what you expect it to be spent on, conditions should be specified up front.

I already have a house and am married so If I had 8k my first thoughts would be ...

New sofa to replace the ancient free cycle broken wreck we already own.

A reliable second hand car

A tent for future holidays

Shoes, coats next size up

Blow 150 on a special treat day - visit to the zoo? Followed by a nice meal

Gaming like computers Kate

8K is a very nice new kitchen (well that is what I would have bought if I were given it). What a waste of a decent sum of money.
I can see why you are ashamed to tell your mum how you spent the money.

Your posts always seem somewhat challenging :)

If you spent so much on gaming then she may well never give you anything more if she finds out. You will have amply demonstrated that you are unable to manage money and be responsible with it.

Why was she giving you 8 grand in the first place? Were you in financial difficulty? Although if you've a tendency to spend all money on 'gaming stuff' I can see why that may be the case.

I wouldn't give my children £8000 if I thought it would be frittered away. Doesn't your mother know you? Its really odd. I know when giving money to my kids what will happen to it. If I can I will give them maybe £30 and say "buy yourself something nice" then I forget about it. I have larger amounts to give them when they have large purchases. It will be handed over with a "thats towards....".
You will regret the waste Op. Not as much as your mum will.

What does "gaming stuff" even mean?