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I have some dirt on someone that used to bully me ... WWYD? (long)

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Shinysideup675 · 29/09/2014 19:12

When I was growing up, I was friendly with two sisters that used to live next door. They went to a different school, so we used to hang out in the evenings after school. During the last couple of years/6th form, one of their school friends moved to a house around the corner with her family. This friend, for some reason, took an instant dislike to me, I think because she was jealous of my friendship with the sisters, and started bullying me- shouting abuse into the street if I passed her house or the shop where she had a Saturday job - mainly about what a slag I was (I wasnt, hadnt ever actually DTD with anyone at this age) phoning the house, threats of violence that were never actually carried out. The galling thing was, she was a proper slapper herself her nickname, given by the local lads, was Spunkthirsty cos it rhymed with her actual name. I know I wasnt the only one she used to do this to. When she was about 18 she went totally off the rails, got in with local drug dealers and did a runner with their money (this is about 25 years ago). Im still in touch with the sisters (as is she) so I hear the odd snippet of gossip about what shes doing.

Shes back living in the old home town, and apparently, is a gobby bint that makes her neighbours lives a misery noise all hours of the day and night, staffy/PB type dogs roaming about and terroring the neighbours, etc. etc. One of the neighbours has reported her and the dogs have been taken off her, theres some sort of court hearing coming up about her getting them back but I dont know all the details. Shes moaning about her bad behaviour 20 odd years ago being held against her now (well, love, you made your bed ...) and telling everyone that shes really enjoying a new job as a carer. Turns out shes not elaboratd exactly what type of carer ...

I have a friend (also from our home town) that works for a company that manages apartments in a city centre about 10 miles away. They tell me that she is renting one of them. Shes not living there or subletting, but is basically using it as a base to operate as a prostitute. We did a bit of fishing and found her profile on AW which has clear face pics and pics of distinctive tattoos (and other body parts and, er, action shots that I cant unsee ). The profile also states that shes 35. Shes actually 42 (and a grandma). Quite tidy for her age, though, it has to be said. Her feedback is very positive, too. Seems shes very enthusiastic...

WWYD? Would you spill the beans? I havent ... although a small bad part of me would like some payback for her giving me hell all those years ago. I think all I would do is sign up to FB using her work name and a pic and send her a friend request just to freak her out a bit, nothing more than that. But I wont, honest.

OP posts:
OhTheDrama · 30/09/2014 16:29

I can see why you are tempted to get back at her, it sounds like she caused you a great deal of pain but it also sounds like she was in a great deal of pain herself. I think you should just accept that it is in the past, karma has well and truly bitten her on the bum, move on!

By doing anything with the information you lower yourself to her level.

Hoppinggreen · 30/09/2014 16:32

If I discovered one of the evil cows who bullied me had a shit life I would be quietly happy - not mature or nice I know but there you go.
I wouldn't tell anyone else though

OhTheDrama · 30/09/2014 16:33

Cross posted with your last post. In that case the proper channels will deal with her, do not think you will be justified in making yourself judge and jury!

Vivacia · 30/09/2014 16:47

Cross-posted??

Whiskwarrior · 30/09/2014 16:47

How very convenient! Not enough support for your vile, misogynistic OP so now you drip-feed.

I still don't like your OP.

PS - I was the victim of some really awful bullying as a child, OP. I could tell you some stories about my growing up. I also happen to know one of my bullies has a pretty shit adult life now - doesn't make me feel anything other than pity for her and thankful for my own happy lot.

Bitterness is not nice, OP, and will eat you from the inside out.

ValerieTheVodkaFairy · 30/09/2014 16:49

Spunkthirsty?????????

ArsenicFaceCream · 30/09/2014 16:49

Was just about to say the same Whisk. Convenient.

maddy68 · 30/09/2014 17:46

Really? Be smug in your knowledge that you have this under your belt and you choose not to lower yourself to their standards. You sound pretty immature tbh to even raise this

I met my bully I'm ancient so a long time afterwards what a lovely person she has turned onto. I really like her. That's growing up for you.

LaQueenOnHerHolibobs · 30/09/2014 17:52

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