To think this is not an erotic thing to do during sex?

[Lottieandmia]

Ok, I've not name changed for this because I suspected that people would think I was a troll.

Anyway, recently I slept with someone new and he spat in my mouth. Apparently he thinks this is erotic?

Personally I think it's a sad reflection of how people these days watch way too much porn. Does anyone actually like this and am I severely out of touch? I'm generally quite open about new things. But I don't think spitting in someone's mouth can do much to heighten sensation. I was left wondering just why?

Vile

LeftRightCentre made a comment near the top. That is exactly how I feel about this. I'm sorry this happened to you OP and I hope you can file it under "porn addicted woman hating fuckbuckets" and move on. Hope you dumped him and most important of all I hope you told him why.

No worries Margot. It did make me feel sick and so it must have been really awful for Lottie, who actually experienced this vile man's actions.

Glad you are OK, Lottie! What's this bloke like outside of the bedroom? It annoys me that he did not ask you first, should happen with any unusual sexual request.

Were you supposed to swallow it or spit it out?

Just what is a person supposed to do if the likes of that happened.

Are you allowed to feel murderous if it happens to you?

Yuck. Its awful.

It's a porn thing and only very clueless men think that that is real sex. Stuff in porn is done for the visual benefit of a spectator.

Also spitting on the genitals. It's bizarre and while I suppose there may be women who like it, a man should get to know his partner before introducing the idea.

Sicaq thank you for being very gracious.

I really worry about dd's perception of a sexual relationship too.
We had an incident in the house yesterday (something very unsuitable popped up on Dd's computer). Two of Dh's (male) friends were around. We are all late 40s and have known each other since teens. I was really pleased when one of them said to her "look, X, around this kitchen table you're looking at over 130 years of sexual experience, and trust me NOTHING you see online is anything like a proper sex life. Don't bother with it, just see what comes your way in real life over the next five years'. It helped that he was the bloke the dc consider 'cool' and they know he was the wild one in our group.
The other friend told her to "just do what your mum and dad did, start going out together at 16 and make it work". That friend is not considered cool at all, of course. The dc call him The Croney.
But I was very glad of the conversation anyway.

As PP's have said, sometimes you do see spitting in porn but it's not in the mouth.

In fact, mouths rarely meet.

bkluugh

How did the discussion go after that? Did he admit it was from porn, apologise, seem surprised you weren't into it?

Wasn't this a punk thing in the 70s or have I just made that up? Too lazy to google.

There have been a few threads on here before about the same thing. Do you reckon you have all dated the same bloke

Oh dear. This sort of thing is in the most vile internet porn and is meant to be degrading. It literally didn't exist before internet porn. Can't believe this guy thought it was ok to do that to you. Sad that is how young men are getting their sex education these days.

I think we've reached the point where we can't afford to be prurient about talking very frankly and explicitly about sex and what is and isn't ok because there's so much horrific stuff out there that young men and women and watching and being conditioned by.

It's a porn thing and only very clueless men think that that is real sex. Stuff in porn is done for the visual benefit of a spectator.

This.

Brilliantly put. It is done for the gratuitous shock effect. My dh watches the odd bit of porn sometimes. I can always tell because he'll try something random that I don't like and I have to tell him to fuck off.

Christ, if someone did this to me, he lmost likely he would have received a punch in the face. I am not a violent person but I would have been outraged and disgusted.

So sorry you had this experience, OP.

Vile. How horrible for you. Did you get a chance to tell him he was a tosser?

Sorry OP this happened to you.

Slight tangent but I am completely stuck at the poster above whose partner watched porn on her mother's computer

WTAF?!

OP what was your reaction because like others have said I think I'd have reacted quite violently.
Not acceptable in any way without prior consent if that's your thing.

Run for the hills

That's gross. It's not sexy at all. Next step will be pissing on you.

I just don't get it. How could that ever conceivably be erotic? Why would anyone assume you wanted it?

I find it erotic to spit in a man's mouth, but I'm a domme, and it would be in context.

Tremendously sad. Mental and emotional sickness.

Where is the cure?

Some people are into weird stuff.

Even weirder that it was out of the blue though. Like all normal then he just spits in your mouth?!

'orrible.

yadnbu.

It's all about consent.
Spitting, hurting, pretty much wherever you can think of, in context, with consent - fine
Anything out of the ordinary that many people would find unpleasant or demeaning without prior discussion and consent - not ok. It's the fact that he did this without consent and assuming it would be acceptable to OP that is horrifying.

Incidentally, I am vehemently against porn. I certainly don't get my sex moves from it.