To be rude to this woman even when she was polite to me?

[Bearsinmotion]

Just got home from work with DD. I am 18 weeks pregnant and knackered. DP is away on business. I am also disabled and have a parking space outside my house. One of the neighbours is parked in it - no blue badge. After driving round the block I find a space about 50m away - further than my normal walking distance. Wrestle DD out of the car, my work bag, her nursery bag and my walking stick and stagger to the house, stopping every few m.

Neighbour appears in gym kit and unlocks the car saying "oh sorry, is this your space?"

"Yes, this is my house"

"Sorry, there wasn't anywhere else to park"

"Do you think there was anywhere else for me? I'm 18 weeks pregnant, disabled and I have a toddler to look after! I'm exhausted. What am I supposed to do?!"

"I'm really sorry, can I do anything to help?"

"No! no you can't. It's too late. Maybe next time you could think about why these spaces are here and who might need to use them."

Am now in house trying not to cry. I'm going to have to make the same journey back to the car in the morning and will now worry all day in case it happens again. That space is my lifeline. If the only space was another 50m away I would not be able to get home at all :(

YWBU, but its understandable.

YANBU

Nope shes an inconsiderate cow. If you had been friendly she might not have seen it as such an issue for you - by giving it to her straight hopefully youve shamed her into never doing it again

Do you have a partner or friend who can drive it back to your house for you?

Oh YANBU. Silly cow she was. Polite AFTER she'd been rude. Not good enough.

Did you mean the one parking space was marked disabled on the road? If so, YADNBU.

If it was just a normal parking space then it's a bit different.

I'm sorry you're struggling. Hope your pregnancy goes well and you can enjoy your little bundle before you know it

I don't think you were BU in the slightest.

Maybe she'll think twice the next time.

Call the non emergency number. She should get a fine.

No, DP is away and is the only other insured driver.

I just find it odd, she was genuinely apologetic and yet still parked there, apparently without thinking of possible consequences

YWNBU - she wasn't polite actually. Parking there was bloody rude!

Good for you. Maybe being told straight will help her comprehension skills.

Yes - it's very clearly marked on a residential street, and it's there because I applied for it.

I was going to call 101, but she's gone now. Doesn't help me though, I'd still have to take DD to move the car back.

Thing is, if she hadn't been polite I wouldn't have said anything. Just cried :(

Cunty selfish parking makes me so angry. It's not that hard to just have some consideration for other people, and parking in a disabled space which has been put there specifically because a disabled person NEEDS it is just shitty and thoughtless

Not unreasonable no. But I am sure she was just being unthinking and ditsy rather than selfish or unpleasant. If she is your neighbour will you not see her? I'm sure she feels sufficiently castigated, and since you feel uncomfortable at having been a bit rude, perhaps the two of you can apologise and move past it. Afterall, its not the end of civilisation.

Oh God don't feel guilty - she wasn't polite. She abused your parking space and your need for it, and then tried to use a fake 'politeness' to wriggle out of it. You were right to challenge her.

Good on you for saying something! She can smile and talk nicely all she wants, it's still a horrible thing to do. Cheeky cow.

Youve got nothing to apologise for she has caused you massive inconvenience. If its such a short distance could you ask her to get your car for you? She should be insured 3rd party on her own isurance

YADNBU, hopefully she will think twice before parking there next time.

Aww OP I would have said the same. I hope she never does it again to anyone.

The neighbour shouldn't have parked in a disabled space without a blue badge, end of story. The only people entitled to park there are blue badge holders, including, but not exclusively, the OP.

Don't feel guilty. She thought it was ok as it was only for a short time, she deserves to know how that short time felt for you.

Is there anyone who can take dd so you can get the car, or will dp be able to move it when he returns? Please don't stress about where it is now, I know how it feels to worry about things that will be so hard to do physically, but you will sort it out.

Hope you are OK op.

bears

YWNBU if anything I think you were rather restraint! It was the last parking space for some distance for a reason and she knew why and chose to ignore it because she's a selfish git!

She parked in your disabled space?

That's so selfish and bloody infuriating.
No wonder you cried.

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