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Bra-less at my BBQ?

551 replies

BioSuisse · 21/09/2014 09:59

Last night DH and i hosted a BBQ for newish friends whom we had never hosted before. DH invited a female colleague whom i had never met before. She turned up with her boyfriend but not her bra. She was wearing a thickish cotton white top. You could see the outline of her boobs and nipples if you looked.

After the party i mentioned it to DH. He claimed to not have noticed.

MN jury?

OP posts:
CheerfulYank · 21/09/2014 10:13

I'd think it was weird, OP. :)

Original poster
BioSuisse · 21/09/2014 10:15

Ok i am obviously in the wrong for thinking it inappropriate.

OP posts:
Coughle · 21/09/2014 10:15

Why didn't you take your bra off to make her feel more comfortable?

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 21/09/2014 10:15

You can see the outline of anyone's breasts with or without a bra. Confused

PacificDogwood · 21/09/2014 10:16

It wouldn't be my choice, but if somebody else did it, I'd not care.

I don't see the issue?

SauvignonBlanche · 21/09/2014 10:17

Does your DH has form for lying about such matters?

Original poster
BioSuisse · 21/09/2014 10:17

tondelayo no her boyfriend was not wearing a bra, i don't know many men who do. But he wasn't wearing any underpants and had see through trousers on so everyone could see his cock

OP posts:
PedlarsSpanner · 21/09/2014 10:17

I would think it wierd, too

Captainbarnacles1101 · 21/09/2014 10:17

I'm jealous! Id love to go braless but my didies would hang below my t shirt Hmm

hollie84 · 21/09/2014 10:18

A "thick white cotton top" - it was hardly a wet t-shirt, was it?

PedlarsSpanner · 21/09/2014 10:18

Oh um er okay, seen your most recent post

Original poster
BioSuisse · 21/09/2014 10:18

Sauvignon blanche DH lying?

OP posts:
Bartlebee · 21/09/2014 10:18

I wouldn't care.

IfNotNowThenWhen · 21/09/2014 10:19

It's unusual that a large breasted woman can go braless. Usually they need a bit of hoiking. Lucky mare.

Fairylea · 21/09/2014 10:19

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Look up "free the nipple" campaign op.

I'd love to be able to go braless in public but I'd probably end up knocking myself out. Very envious of those with small boobs.

IfNotNowThenWhen · 21/09/2014 10:20

Oh....er. Are we supposed to ask if he had a big one now?

Andrewofgg · 21/09/2014 10:20

DH probably did notice but he is wise to deny it. Forget about it.

abigamarone · 21/09/2014 10:20

Oh your Dh certainly lied, can see why too...

PacificDogwood · 21/09/2014 10:21

Oh, it was that kind of a BBQ Wink

Do you have pampas grass in the front garden?

LittleBearPad · 21/09/2014 10:21

I think what Sauvignon is suggesting OP is that your husband despite saying he didn't notice, did.

TwoTonTessie · 21/09/2014 10:22

Perhaps they're behind with their laundry and all their undies are in the wash.

abigamarone · 21/09/2014 10:23

And bra-less is not inappropriate unless there was a stated dress code with "bra required", was there?

catgirl1976 · 21/09/2014 10:24

If she turned up topless I'd say YANBU to be a little surprised. But it's not the law to wear a bra. Up to her really. It's only the outline of some breasts. I assume you'd have known she was in possesion of a pair bra or not. YABU.

TheFairyCaravan · 21/09/2014 10:24

Is this a joke?

Do you always look at other women's chests and men's cocks?

PuppyMonkey · 21/09/2014 10:25

Is the thing about the DH and his cock a joke? To help op make her point? Confused