Bra-less at my BBQ?

[BioSuisse]

Last night DH and i hosted a BBQ for newish friends whom we had never hosted before. DH invited a female colleague whom i had never met before. She turned up with her boyfriend but not her bra. She was wearing a thickish cotton white top. You could see the outline of her boobs and nipples if you looked.

After the party i mentioned it to DH. He claimed to not have noticed.

MN jury?

Bio will your exdh allow the kids to move with you if/when you return home?

Worth raising it as an issue soonish if your visa is going to expire. He could make things very difficult for you.

BioSuisse Report their 'relationship' to the company

And get some legal advice. Protect yourself and your children.

I was really going to move us all to Moscow just for him. Why would he let me do that. Why? He really wanted to go. What would he do when we got there? The DCs and i would be giving up our friends so he could live closer to her? The twat is insane.

Horrible shock for you OP. I hope you have some good support in RL.

So sorry to read your update, BioSuisse. Your instincts were sound and you took some ridiculous flak on this thread; I still don't know why.

Good luck with whatever you have to do.

Well this must take the prize for the best ever drip-fed thread.

Good luck OP!

How is it drip fed sallyingforth?

I'm presuming the OP didn't know about the affair when she started the thread.

Wow! Update and a half.

I was assuming OP was British but living in Switzerland?

I love a good debate and honest opinions but this was vile

U2 please don't lump us all together. I was answering the OP -- she asked for the MN jury, and I responded that I found the judgemental language used in the first post on this thread unpleasant. There's a difference between not liking something, and judging someone else as inappropriate.

But it seems that it was BioSuisse 's husband who's been the skanky whore in this whole story. Really sad for the OP (well, "sad" is an inadequate word at this point) and I hope that the OP has good friends around her. It's so much more serious than whether it's inappropriate to go braless to a party. Good luck OP, and get thee to a lawyer first thing tomorrow. And chuck your "D"H out so he can realise what he's missing.

Apparently i am to blame for insisting she came to our BBQ

Never, ever blame yourself for this Bio. You were trying to do a kind thing.

It's your STBXH who's the lying faithless rat.

Whoa there PistolWhipped, UptheChimney didn't make any suggestion that anyone was a lesbian.

Your posting style is really aggressive, misogynistic and nasty.

I don't want to chuck him out because then he will just go to her and she will win. It is a bank holiday here tomorrow and the DCs had an outing planned, they don't know about of this and right now i want to keep it that way. DH has taken them out for pizza but they will be home soon and when they are in bed we will talk more.

PistolWhipped reading is your friend: could you point me to any post of mine in which I call the OP a lesbian, or make any mention of male sexuality? Or else get back under your bridge.

Pistolwhipped - so I look appalling and absurd? Really?

Bio - get to a solicitor as soon as you can and make sure that you find out the situation re division of assets and also what would happen if you wanted to bring yourself and your kids home.

OP, is he really such a prize?

She will win?

A lousy cheat is all!

Bio, right now you are in a state of shock. Don't make any decisions. Your whole life has just collapsed and you're alone in the house not knowing what to do.
Is there someone you can talk to about all this? Someone to listen and hold your hand?

Chimney told me I was 'deflecting my own fantasies' about nipples and jizz when I was being tongue-in-cheek in one of my posts. Twice now she has inferred I am a troll.

Paper, it is highly likely you are viewed as such, yes. Sorry about that.

Apologies to you, Chimney after confusing you with Katie. It is she who seemingly has no clue regarding male sexuality and titillation and for whom my post about the lapdancing was largely intended.

Janine, I think you are confusing me with someone who actually gives a shiny shit.

No pistol, I was just disagreeing with your statement about 38 million men in the UK. Because you can only speak about the ones you have encountered. I never suggested you were a troll, just making unfounded statements as if they were facts.

But this thread has moved on with some devastating news for Bio which puts everything in a totally different light.

Bio, I am very sorry you are having to go through this. He sounds horrible: I really would think about whether or not you do want to hang on to him. Do you love him enough for that?