Mum changing shitty nappy in ladies

[ProudAS]

I just went to the loo in a restaurant to find a mum had just changed her DC. The used nappy was on the floor with poo visible. She did get rid of the nappy (in the sanitary bin) but not the smell.

The smell made me retch and feel sick. AIBU to think she should have used the baby changing room next door?

I honestly don't see the point in advance-searching someone to see if they're...well..as jolly well rude on every thread they comment on. What are you going to do, change your opinion of them if you decide this is a one-off and they must be, like, on their period or summat?

Ican, I'm sure that if someone made an offensive comment regarding your age, sex or race that you would be upset and wouldn't see it as a 'fad', it's no different if someone makes a comment like that about someone with a disability.

If someone told a black person they shouldn't use their skin colour as an 'excuse' about something, that would be horrible and offensive - it is the same saying that about someone using ASD as an 'excuse'.

I postulate that you don't see disabilism as a 'thing' because it doesn't affect you, and if course if something doesn't affect you then no one else should moan about it, right? I'm sure you are intelligent to know that other people outside your own bubble have different issue and needs, so how about trying to have a little bit more sympathy for your fellow human?

Oh, and by the way, just because you don't believe that disabilism is a word doesn't mean it isn't, you could say that you don't believe the name Brian isn't a real name, or that the word 'truculent' isn't a real word but you would be a twat wrong. Happily your opinion on what are real words and what aren't is irrelevant.

Fwiw my phone doesn't autocorrect diasabilist or disabilism so Apple at least believe it's real :D

pistol i just spat my tea out at the period comment! Amazing.

Oh, and 'LOL' is in the dictionary but I tend to think those who utilise it are twats.

LOL

Swear words are also in the dictionary but that isn't really the issue in question here!

I am also in the dictionary under 'derailed'.

...sorry, I meant 'deranged'.

Oh and just to explain a little, some people with ASD can become distressed when things are in the 'wrong' place because in their minds it is the only way to do it (rigidity of thought is another ASD trait) so the poo being in a nappy on the floor rather than in the toilet would be harder for op to deal with.

Similarly the nappy being put in the 'wrong' bin, not a problem for most of us but op might have been very upset by it. Just so all those who said her posts didn't make sense, no it probably doesn't to nt people but she isn't nt.

OP, if you have a thing about the sight and smell of a nappy containing faeces could you, perhaps, imagine it instead as a giant sanitary towel smeared with Nutella? Mmmmmmmm!

Pistol Name calling is against the T&C, whether it's disablist/sexist/racist is just an addition. If you'd directly called someone a twat/bastard/shithead, you'd have been deleted.

I, for one, am pleased that MNHQ take a hard line on goady fuckers in disability related threads. I once read a quote that 1 in 5 adults will identify as disabled at any one point, so it goes to stand that it's a common theme. Arguing the toss over the word 'disablist' is petty because discrimination against disabled people is a long standing societal problem and it's not new nor unique to MN....Disability Discrimination Act 1995, anyone?!

Agreed. You cant call.someine a moron mainly as it is a personal attack which isn't allowed.

So sit on those hands like we.all do

Well we mostly do

Thank you, "personal attack" is the term I was looking for, I couldn't think!

If you read my post Pistol I said I advanced searched to see if ican had been as rude on other threads about disablities not every other thread she comments on! She had already made some comment to Fanjo, saying she's knew she'd pop up!

There are posters who are incredibly rude to posters who are parents or carers of children with SN or people with disablities on MN, we very often get called the "SN brigade!". I wanted to see if she was one of the posters who does that as there are too many to remember!

Ignoring all the arguments and answering the OP :

YANBU.

OP would it help you to carry a small bottle of body spray or room spray around with you? I find that if I have to use a public toilet it hides any smells (including my own) very effectively. Obviously it has to be a smell that you like! I'd recommend cheap body sprays as they give a strong smelling blast that fades quite quickly and are a convenient (see my pun there!) handbag size.

I never find bodyspray/room spray works to cover smells it just smells, to me it just smells like someone took a shit in a tart's handbag I think things like Oust do work though as they seem to remove the smell, probably not that practical to take around in your handbag but we keep some in the loos at work because a few of us are very squeamish about smells.

It's a good suggestion! Oust away!

Yabvu - the world does not revolve round you

I've had to change my baby on the toilette floor once. I had no option. And YES it prob stunk the loos but I didn't care as I had no option. If I left it any longer I would have had a distressed baby and more mess to deal with.

Op-toilettes smell all the time. You must have just hovered and watched? It would have taken you a minute to wash your hands and leave promptly. It takes longer than that to change a dirty nappy.

Thanks for setting me straight, Fairy, although I am always dubious about these '1-in-5' statistics lobbed about. I read somewhere recently that 1-in-10 people are gay, but if that's the case then at least two people on my road are homosexual - and that cannot be the case as they are all octogenarians.

People get offended PA by anything these days!

So do you think that it's in some way odd to be offended by discrimination based on someone's disability, Ican? Care to explain your reasons?

Pistol do you seriously think there are no gay octogenarians?

Clappyclapp, why not read the thread before posting? That way you'd avoid both repeating what other people have said and posting a point that has already been answered.

Sooty, I'm not that stupid - there was that one out of the Sound of Music.