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Mum changing shitty nappy in ladies

368 replies

ProudAS · 20/09/2014 13:03

I just went to the loo in a restaurant to find a mum had just changed her DC. The used nappy was on the floor with poo visible. She did get rid of the nappy (in the sanitary bin) but not the smell.

The smell made me retch and feel sick. AIBU to think she should have used the baby changing room next door?

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icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 01:55

I don't get offended by anything either and I agree others shouldn't too. Especially on a forum full of strangers!

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 01:56

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ilovesooty · 21/09/2014 01:56

I think you'd be hard pressed to justify your assertion that it's a fad.

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 01:58

On here maybe yes, as a lot of people are hysterical.

ilovesooty · 21/09/2014 02:00

I feel sorry for you if that's the sort of thing you find funny. Why is the word in major respected dictionaries like the OED if it's a fad? It's in the dictionary because it's now an established word.

ilovesooty · 21/09/2014 02:01

Are the compilers and publishers of the OED hysterical as well?

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 02:03

Please don't feel sorry for me, don't waste your time. Feel more sorry for the people in deprived areas and countries who have nothing. It's not an originally established word, it's because people have become hysterical.

TheFairyCaravan · 21/09/2014 02:05

I've just advanced searched you ican to see if you've been as rude on any other threads about disabilities. Up there you say you've been on MN for 10 years, but you said you are in your early 20s on another thread, so do you join when you were 12/13? Or are you just a wind up merchant?

FTR it really isn't funny to laugh at anything that is disablist. Disablism is a hate crime, it is a soul destroying and very frightening thing to experience, but laugh away if that's where you get your kicks!aHmm

ilovesooty · 21/09/2014 02:06

Oh don't worry. I can accommodate sympathy for the ignorance, foolishness and narrow mindedness you exhibit along with any other worthy cause you might see fit to signpost me to. Hmm

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 02:08

I change it up regularly, to keep anonymous The Fairy Grin

TheFairyCaravan · 21/09/2014 02:11

You might change your name ican but of you are in your early 20s and joined 10 years ago, you'd have been 12/13! I think somewhere along the line you've stretched the truth!

ilovesooty · 21/09/2014 02:13

If my views were as abhorrent as yours I think I might name change regularly as well.

TheFairyCaravan · 21/09/2014 02:14

True ilove, or I wouldn't post and I'd duct tape my mouth shut!

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 02:14

I'm not in my early 20's Iwish. Of course if I was early 20's I would have been 12'ish, but I am not unfortunately. I don't stretch it but I keep as anonymous as possible.

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 02:14

Pigeon call Grin

TheFairyCaravan · 21/09/2014 02:27

So everything you've posted under this name wrt to your age, and the age you had your DC is bollox then?

hazeyjane · 21/09/2014 06:31

Ican, your posts have been ignorant and upsetting. You take joy in people being upset, how bloody horrible.

I believe the actual term is ableist, but more recently the term disabilist has been used. The term is not the important thing, and it is not a fad to believe that people with disabilities deserve as much respect as everyone else.

In the case of the op, I think she was being unreasonable to expect the mum to not change her child. I didn't realise she has asd from her name, but when she explained that this was the reason, then I think she should have had some understanding from other posters, not vilification.

AllThatGlistens · 21/09/2014 07:15

Clearly Ican is thoroughly enjoying "challenging" a lot of posters on here, so I'd suggest we simply don't feed it.

my2centsis · 21/09/2014 08:03

Seriously OP you have my sympathies but it really does piss me right off that people always have something to winge about. Fgs where did you want her to change her baby? Did you want her to leave it in his poop? She was in a toilet fgs! You are so completely unreasonable and this is one of the most rediculous threads I have ever read

icanmakeyouicecream · 21/09/2014 08:03

Yes that's right Fairy. I can't really go into reasons why as I'm in a very unique situation that would out me if I explained but I have to mix things up.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/09/2014 08:06

My2centsis it looks a bit daft to just wade in without reading the thread

WanderingTrolley1 · 21/09/2014 08:11

Yabu and ridiculous.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/09/2014 08:11

I am glad OP has hidden thread so doesn't see people just answering OP without taking time to read thread and learn about her disability.

Missunreasonable · 21/09/2014 08:20

How long has disablist been a word?

When I was a student 7 years ago it was a word that was used very regularly by lecturers and was used by students in essays. It might not have been used on here until more recent years but it has been recognised by people in relevant roles for a long time.

PistolWhipped · 21/09/2014 08:44

I had a post deleted t'other day for referring to no-one in particular as a 'moron'. Now that is disablist hysteria. So I'm with you, Icanmakeyouicecream, to a point.