To not let a delivery guy use my toilet?

[msfreud]

Just that, really. Seems to happen all the time that delivery guys - everything from Ocado to Warren & Evans, ask to use my toilet once inside my property!

So today the guy from Warren & Evans (delivering a bed) asked, and I said no on the grounds that I would have needed to let him into a part of the house that I was keeping "closed off" as the cat (who needs to be kept in and out of the way of deliveries etc. as we've just moved) was there and I didn't want her to get out of there. And to be honest I've now had several experiences of a delivery guy asking to use my loo and leave it stinking of piss so I really prefer not to. Only have one loo in the house and want to keep it nice and clean. It's a not a public toilet after all and he was not a friend or family, just a random stranger really.

It's always good to consider how we would like to be treated , if we were in the other persons shoes.

So, if you had a job which required you to be in a van or someone else's house most if the day, and you needed the loo, would you appreciate it if someone allowed you to use theirs? I think we would all say 'yes' to that. It makes it clear what the right response is.

Most of us work in places with loos in the building. If you don't work in one building g all the time, then your van or the customers house (for workmen) effectively become your place of work. It is perfectly reasonable to expect to be able to go the toilet whilst at your place of work.

Of course people are free to choose to say no in their own homes. They can be kind, or they can be mean-spirited. And I suspect that the reaction to the question reflects an awful lot about people, in terms of the way they conduct the rest of their lives and relate to other people.

"It's always good to consider how we would like to be treated , if we were in the other persons shoes."

Or how we would like our son or daughter to be treated if that was their job..........

Hear hear ChocWombat!

Just a thought: if it were someone like a doctor, solicitor, accountant, health visitor, district nurse, midwife etc visiting and s/he asked to use the toilet, how many of those supporting the OP would refuse?

at the thought of anyone saying "no" if a doctor doing a house call asked to use the loo...........

Doctors don't have stinky piss. Fact. It's a better class of piss all round.

I hope he shat on your lavender

Veri That's a really good point. One i suspect that will reveal the inherent snobbery in not allowing delivery drivers the same favour.

In our previous house, we lived v near to the M1. One Saturday morning I was sat in my pjs watching rubbish tv and my DH (who had walked into the village to get a paper, over the motorway bridge) arrived home with a random woman!
There was a closure on the motorway and this poor woman and her OH were stuck in stationary traffic. She was desperate for the loo and had been climbing up the embankment trying to find somewhere to pee away from the catcalls of the thousands of motorists behind her. She asked DH where the nearest public loos were, and he replied miles away, but you're welcome to use mine, I only live round the corner!!
And she actually went with him! Obviously he's not an axe murderer (as far as I'm aware!) and I didn't mind at all that he'd done it, or that she used our loo. However I'd loved to have seen her OH face as he watched her disappear up the hill and down the road with a total stranger!!

how many of those supporting the OP would refuse?

I have and would.

Though I have to say I try as make as many appointments in their places of employ so they don't need to come to my home.

I don't really see why some of you are obsessed about making this a class thing.

Certain employers don't allow the employee to ask to use the client's loo.

Posh people have stinkier piss. It's all the asparagus they eat........

But poor people eat more Sugar Puffs.

A traveller lady selling lace tablecloths asked to use my toilet a few years ago. I was a bit surprised but of course I let her. She definately did a poo too.

Just saw this and could not resist...

They left it 'stinking of piss' because piss smells of piss. It's piss. Same as when you and your family have one, because it's the same. No more or less disgusting unless you are a bit thick. Or am I missing something- did they piss all over the ceiling and leave a poo under your pillow? Would you refuse a delivery man a glass of water on a hot day? If he was suddenly taken ill would you refuse him toilet access and then phone the police while he was barfing in your flower beds? Is your name Hyacinth Bouquet?? Believe me, the plebs are not all desperate for a look in your gorgeous home and the chance to experience the frisson of a wee in your pristine privvy. He. Just. Needed. A. Piss.

Obviously you 'can't have a shit wherever you want' but let's hope if you are caught short in the home of somebody who seems to be sitting vaguely near the decency, kindness and humanity venn diagram crossover you can ask to use their bloody loo!!

And good night.

As I said above, I always let people use the loo even though I have ocd, because I feel I have to the polite thing and I do appreciate they wouldn't ask unless they needed to go.

I do think not washing hands after is very bad though, especially a food delivery guy! Also, as I mentioned a furniture delivery man left a sizeable amount of poo on the lid of the toilet, not in the toilet. I'm still baffled as to how anyone would do that let alone leave it like that.

Yes I think it is basic manners to let someone use the loo, but it is also basic manners to try not to shit on the lid and to wash your hands.

I wouldn't let a delivery man, they aren't already in my home.

I would let a workman. And my midwife.

How does that make it a class issue?

"I wouldn't let a delivery man, they aren't already in my home.

I would let a workman. And my midwife."

Baffled now.

There was another of these threads a while back. One memorable post was, 'No. They can go shit somewhere else.'

slithy, what does a Warren Evans delivery man count as?

They deliver it... but they have to put it together, because it's big wooden furniture and the assembly is part of the fee.

Workman or deliveryman?

My midwife did tell me that she attended a home birth where they said they weren't to use the toilet. She asked where they were supposed to go to the loo and we're told the garden I think the couple were told if that was the case they should get themselves off to hospital.

It's not confirmed that the bloke put it together, I have had furniture delivered that I've assembled.

However, I think my post makes it pretty clear with arent already in my home

It's hardly confusing. Ocado, parcelforce, JW's, etc etc are on the doorstep, and won't be invited in. If someone is in my home carrying out a task, such as furniture assembly, internet installation, building, antenatal check - then they will be offered a drink and I would direct them to the downstairs loo. except the sky man as stated above because he stank

That's plain bonkers Fox

Only exception to the doorstep thing is the postie because I know them and they are lovely so not someone I would say is a stranger.

I have bought special biscuits in for my midwives but really need to gut my bathroom for them, this thread has reminded me. Will get OH to do it tomorrow because my homebirth is imminent!!