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My friend kept dds money and used Tesco vouchers

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jammyjamjam · 03/09/2014 12:24

Hi, ds had inservice yesterday and a friend (a mum from school) offered to take her, her own dd and 2 others to an amusement park, entry fee was 25 pounds. When ds got back in the afternoon, we chatted about the day and it turns out the mum paid for my dd and the 2 other children with Tesco vouchers, ie, she had redeemed her Tesco points to pay for the 4 dcs and then kept 75 pounds form my dd and the 2 other dc. Surely she could have told us that this place took in Tesco vouchers and I could have used my own points and saved the money? I'm grateful that she took dd but surely she should have been upfront about her intention of using vouchers....AIBU?

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vrocket · 05/09/2014 19:55

I also missed the amusement, and automatically assumed 'theme'... Blush
And I don't know how Tesco vouchers work as I don't use them, so didn't know how this would affect presenting them at the gate (whether had it been pre-booked you would present a confirmation slip or the vouchers).
Not that any of it matters I suppose, as OPs mind was made up, and the rest is our own musings.....
Well this HAS been fun, and I hope to see you all in some more AIBU threads soon!

Liara · 05/09/2014 20:00

*I genuinely want to know from any who thinks OP is bu.

Tesco offer an odeon ticket in exchange for £2.50 CC voucher. Odeon ticket would normally cost £9. Could you really in all good faith go and ask your friends for £9 cash having spent a £2.50 voucher? And would you be happy to explain that's what you were doing?*

I wouldn't do that myself, but if a friend offered me to buy me the ticket with their CC voucher, I would offer to pay them 9 quid for it, on the basis that that is what it would have cost me.

I in fact had a friend who by virtue of her job got free tickets to some attractions. I always offered to pay her the entrance price of the tickets, she always refused and I always bought her dc ice cream/drinks/snacks instead. I was willing to spend the entrance fee on the ticket so that money was available for her to spend, as she was uncomfortable taking the cash I did my best to give it to her in different ways.

I really wouldn't have complained in any way if she had collected the money from us, used her free tickets and kept the cash. It struck me as a perfectly reasonable thing to do, given that she had already organised it all. And that was with all of us there, if she had taken the dc on her own that would apply much more!

Notso · 05/09/2014 20:05

That's what I meant by clubcard voucher whatever5 we were emailed a specific clubcard ticket to print out and use at the turnstile. You can't in my experience use clubcard to book tickets online.

whatever5 · 05/09/2014 20:14

I'm not sure what your point is Notso. My point was that if OP's friend would have bought tickets online if she hadn't used vouchers so the online ticket price would apply not the gate price.

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vrocket · 05/09/2014 20:42

Notso, when you apply for the vouchers, what exactly do you get in terms for them?
Do you effectively pay the gate value in vouchers, or do you receive the pre-booked rate by virtue of just having the vouchers?

For example for Thorpe Park it's £12 worth of vouchers, £25.99 online and Shock £49.99 at the gate.
Does that make sense what I'm asking? (Know I said I was off, but actually really interested to know).
One things for sure, I am NEVER buying a ticket at the gate!!!!

JennyCalendar · 05/09/2014 21:02

I can't believe that I've read the whole thread!

I'm on the YABU side. Mainly because money isn't really tangible, it isn't worth anything itself, only when you can exchange it for something and the amount/type of thing you can exchange it for changes all the time (inflation etc.).

We could switch all the paper for beads and buttons, t'would make no difference.

The way I see it is:
Vouchermum had a piece of paper that could get her into the park and a handful of other places.
OP gave her paper that could get her into the park and be used anywhere else.
VM swapped her piece of paper for OP's so she could have more flexibility.
OP's dd got into the park and had a great time.

The numbers written on the pieces of paper mean nothing. Each piece of paper was worth the entrance.

mewkins · 05/09/2014 21:13

Vrocket, when I have exchanged before you basically get a ticket in the post saying eg. Adult entry into Thorpe Park and an expiry date. (And crucially that it cann p t be exchanged for cash! )

WinifredTheLostDenver · 05/09/2014 21:32

I think when things say "cannot be exchanged for cash" they usually mean you have no cash claim on Tesco or the theme park.

vrocket · 05/09/2014 21:40

Thanks mewkins! Me and my friend were talking about going there or Alton Towers this summer hols, buy never got round to it.

Was trying to work out if it's worth getting CC for us to go for next summer, as I have a tesco express I pop into quite often.... but seems you have to spend a lot to accrue points...

minionmadness · 06/09/2014 09:22

minion....charging for childcare? Giving my dd her vouchers for free? None of this is the issue here, maybe read the thread

Maybe you need to consider someone's else view other than your own, if not then a grow a pair and confront your friend since you are convinced she has acted so deviously towards you.

Personally If one of my friends had done this, it wouldn't enter my mind to think like this. I would just be very grateful she had been kind enough to take my dc out for the day. I would also be please that she had managed to convert the vouchers for cash to buy herself something nice.

mygrandchildrenrock · 06/09/2014 10:20

JennyCalendar I'm in total agreement with you.

slithytove · 06/09/2014 12:47

I emailed tesco.

it is indisputable that OP could have used her own vouchers

From their email "Thank you for your email.

Yes you can order the Alton towers token which will allow your Daughter entry into the park, you do not need to accompany her.

It is really named tokens that can only be used by the card holder such as hotel bookings and travel etc."

So this to me makes it even more clear that OP friend should have said that's what she was doing. OP could have used her own £6.25 clubcard voucher and saved herself £25 cash.

slithytove · 06/09/2014 12:48

Rocket - if you go to tesco anyway just start collecting points, if you don't get enough you can use them for something else

NewtRipley · 06/09/2014 17:59

Jenny

I agree

Lweji · 06/09/2014 18:03

+So this to me makes it even more clear that OP friend should have said that's what she was doing.*

Interesting how people jump logical steps.
This only shows the OP could have sent her DD with vouchers. Not that it was the friend's responsibility to say she had vouchers and wanted to use them. It was still the OP's responsibility to research where she could use her points.
The OP hasn't lost out because she still has her points that she can use to purchase entry tickets or meals that retail for £25.
And it's a lesson learnt for next time to check herself, as she should if she wanted to use vouchers when going only with her family.
The friend might well have thought that you didn't want to use your points there but elsewhere, as you usually go for meals.

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