Cake - am I wrong?

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Just home from a mini get together at a friends. There were four women and nine dc's under 5 between us. We have all taken a turn to host and this was the first afternoon at this woman's house.

I took along a home baked cake, another lady took a fruit loaf and third lady brought strawberries and blueberries.

When it came time for tea and cake I asked DD what she would like a piece of and the host piped up 'children don't eat cake in our house, there are biscuits in the playroom'. I politely pointed out that DD had helped make the cake and she is allowed small treats and she replied 'homemade cake is for adults here'. The hosts children ate cake on the previous play dates.
Luckily DD went and got a biscuit happily but it left me feeling uneasy. Am I wrong?

Host is bonkers & unreasonable

Yanbu, she sounds like a nut. How is a biscuit different to a piece of cake.

I'd've taken a piece or two "for myself' & given some to DD

She's a meanie and rude with it.

I'm assuming there was enough cake for everyone, including the children?

weird. guess you won't be going back there again?

Ridiculous rude woman

She clearly expected 4 women to have what amounted to half a cake each

I would have given her cake and crushed the biscuit in the host's face.

Not really but you should have given her cake! I hope you're ditching this nutcase?

She probably considers children to be second class citizens and therefore not worthy of cake.

Were the adults allowed to eat the cake?

Lady is weird.

That's just bizarre!

Not sure really. I suppose its her house her rules, which she is adhering to if her children ate cake in another person's house as they are then abiding by that hosts's rule that children are allowed to eat cake in that house.

It seems abstemious to me but its her choice. You perhaps feel uneasy as she was defying your parenting decision about your own DD. I think I'd get uneasy too if I said my DS could have something & someone else said actually he can't. But its only cake & not worth getting upset about.

Make another cake with your dd & share it in your house

I had one small slice given to me! First and last visit there. I hate this whole getting to know fellow nursery mums nonsense !

you should have challenged her over her children eating cake at other people's homes

she sounds completely kray-kray! ;)

How bloody rude, her dc's eat cake on the previous get together but she wouldn't let them eat cake in her house?

She's an arse.

So she happily lets her DC's eat cake at other peoples houses, but your DC cant eat the cake you made at her house ? the woman is frikkin bonkers, I wouldn't be inviting her to mine

Was she trying to ensure there were more leftovers for her?!

Omg did she not let you choose a piece yourself I would stop visiting or inviting her.

I suppose there may be some rational reason behind it, but "homemade cake is for adults" does sound like the wretched children only deserve biscuits and crappy shop-bought cake.

I wonder what her cut-off point age-wise is for homemade cake - are 17-year-olds allowed it?

She's obviously a big greedy guts and is trying to have your cake and eat it. I would ask her next time why it's okay for her dcs to have cake at others' houses but not when it's her turn to host?

What an oddbod - tell her ODFOD.

to go with your

Bonkers. She could at least have mentioned in advance her bizarre rule. I would then have taken great pleasure in baking biscuits instead and announcing adults don't get biscuits.

How bloody rude. Too right my dd would have had a piece of cake she helped make. The hosts children are worth more than the tesco value rich teas she had them make do with while she stuffs her face. I'd have given her cake!!!

OP I double dare you to go to her house next time dressed as Marie Antoinette!

Next time take the kids out in the garden devour all cake then let them back in

Only gave you a small slice What's she got planned for the rest of it?