Just home from a mini get together at a friends. There were four women and nine dc's under 5 between us. We have all taken a turn to host and this was the first afternoon at this woman's house.
I took along a home baked cake, another lady took a fruit loaf and third lady brought strawberries and blueberries.
When it came time for tea and cake I asked DD what she would like a piece of and the host piped up 'children don't eat cake in our house, there are biscuits in the playroom'. I politely pointed out that DD had helped make the cake and she is allowed small treats and she replied 'homemade cake is for adults here'. The hosts children ate cake on the previous play dates.
Luckily DD went and got a biscuit happily but it left me feeling uneasy. Am I wrong?
AIBU?
Cake - am I wrong?
WildFlowersAttractBees · 21/08/2014 14:43
Thank you Magrats I have just laughed out loud at your Marie Antoinette suggestion. Really cheered me up 
I wish I had said something but the others and I all just looked a bit 
at each other. It was a peach iced sponge so not super messy.
I called DH when we got home (for something else) and mentioned it. He came home from work with a pack of mini cupcakes... 3 happy DC's!
Another vote for she wanted to eat it herself!
I'd have asked 'Why' in shock I think - I can't imagine why she thinks that children shouldn't eat homemade cake! I'd have thought it was much better for them than shop made biscuits.
I would be talking to the rest of the mums in the interim to hatch devious plans for the next time we saw her to give her her comeuppance... although in reality we'd probably just talk and not do anything
If I did ever go back to her house, I would take great delight in taking a special cake especially for the children - and say they could eat it in the kitchen / outside etc if she complained about them eating it. And make sure that I had taken enough of my own paper napkins to divide it up between all the other children to take home at the end so she couldn't keep it for herself - and if she didn't let her kids eat it when the rest of you let your kids eat it, then I certainly wouldn't be leaving any at all behind for her.
I usually agree with 'my house my rules' but when something is as petty as this and to the detriment of my children (ie them eating cheap biscuits instead of much healthier homemade cake) then I would want to do something to be as petty back rectify the situation!
I think it would have been more to do with mess than the cake as such - if the children had been relegated to a separate playroom I'm presuming you couldn't see them from where the adults were and homemade cake is likely to make more mess than plain biscuits. Not something I'd be bothered about but I believe some people are houseproud, even with children in the family
This is probably why i have no few friends. I think this is most definitely a reason to lose a friendship over. I would be furious and most probably would have flounced out telling her something choice. I hate the 'children eat shit food/know their place' style of parenting. DS has what we have (actually better usually) and if we are out we order from the adult menu for all of us and share.
Why IS 'childrens food' so shit btw?
Really 
for some reason
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