to think friends staying shouldn't have two twenty min showers a day

[suziepra]

If got some friends staying and they keep having 40 wish mins of showering a day. A part from anything this can't be great for their skin but this is costing 1.60 a day in water with the meter and 1.40 in electric per person. Should I say something? Staying with for a week

My Inlaws are in the SW and I couldn't believe it when they told me how much they pay for water - £70 pm for a family of four! DH and I are only two of us but we pay £13 pm!!

OP
you either need to embrace the guests or tell them to sling their hook

you sound a tad obsessive

If nothing else spending 40 minutes in the shower a day seems like an awful waste of time. Are there not other things they'd rather be doing?

You need to grow a pair...

Guests spending half the day in the bathroom where the loo is!

Spraying sickly perfume that makes you feel sick...

I know if this was me, I would immediately bring it up, in a friendly way... "Oh, by the way..etc."

They sound insensitive anyway, and entitled.

I wouldn, t dream of being like this in someone else, s house.
Do you run around doing all the catering (and cleaning) too?

I'm not sure suzie, before we went on the meter we used whatever we wanted without really thinking about it, and decided for the first quarter on the meter we'd do the same and then cut back if necessary after that. We were really pleased when we got the first bill, and have had the meter for over a year now and they haven't had to adjust our monthly payment at all. The meter is fine and readings are all correct.

We did get a shock when we first moved here though. Our monthly unmetered payment from East Anglia was £30, which went to nearly £100 when we moved to the SW! I just wish we'd swapped to the meter much sooner.

If I ran my bath for 20 mins it would overflow! YANBU but I think it would be awkward and reflect badly on you if you said something.

When the baby's cocklodger of a "father" used to stay here he had the longest hottest baths, annoyed the hell out of me (never paid for anything!) I just used to turn the hot water off when I could hear him filling it up again!

Where do you shower during the week?

If you didn't want them to extend their stay why didn't you say so?

YANBU - I live somewhere where water in metered (not in UK) when we have had guests staying they have showered twice (and sometimes three times a day!!) It proved to be very, very expensive - extra 300 euros to our bill per month - and that's for one weeks stay. We had visitors May, June, July and August ( a aweeks stay each) - and had to foot a bill over 1,200 euros. After years of gritting our teeth we now tell them that it is metered and they are (usually) more considerate - so many people waste water that I don't think the OP or we are being unreasoanble. When you are metered you soon realise how much water you used to waste.

Well I'm not doing the catering. I used to for one of the friends that was staying but she just used to just complain that my food made her unwell. She sent a text on the way saying she can't eat spicy food as gives her cistitus (& not the huge amount of coffee she has..) I replied don't buy any spicy food then. Only one of them is terrible and selfish.

It's only a week. If they're good friends, just think how the happiness heir friendship brings you outweighs the week of excess on the water.

Gosh window - my 100 a week here is nothing compared to that! Where do you live out of interest?
I sometimes wish I had a water tank and not an electric shower and then at least it would run out and not be endless. One of them even commented how good it was that it never ran out of hot water. Grrrrr and breath...

Say something....you're not a hotel, which the comment made about the endless hot water suggests you're being considered as!

You don't sound as though you even like them much.

What shush said. You had a great opportunity to speak up then.

Two showers a day is perfectly normal. 20 mins perhaps a bit excessive in someone else's home.

I wouldnt dream of saying anything, though. Cant believe you're watching the meter. Ebeneezer!

Suzie - we live in France. It's great to have visitors but it can be expensive!

Sir Cheninl of course I would. I'm polite and would alter behaviour immediately. But I'd probably leave early and wouldn't stay again.

YANBU. Can you poison them?

I could believe she was watching the meter if she was struggling for money but she isn't. If she were she surely wouldn't have guests anyway.

Did you invite them to stay Op or did they invite themselves? If you invited them and this is not leaving you in a difficult financial position then YABU. They are your guests and as such you have to suck it up.

For your information I take long showers even when not washing my hair I do enjoy a good shower. I also have a shower in the morning and then a nice relaxing bath at night when DD is in bed.

Have already YANBU'd but I'm still aghast at 20 min showers! I take about 3 mins - step in, wash all over, luxuriate for a minute or so, step out. 20 mins seems such a waste of water (not in cost terms as I have no idea if our water is expensive relative to anywhere else though guess it is being London) but in planetary terms :). I must be greener than I thought.

OP, you sound a bit obsessive about your water!

Anyway, if you aren't happy about them staying tell them to sling their hook. It's a bit entitled of them to stay for a week if you didn't invite them.

YANBU. I'm shocked at the amount of people having 20 minuet showers twice a day, apart from it being expensive it's also a huge waste of water. No wonder we have global warming...

I could easily wash hair, shave, clean body etc in under 10 minuets. DD and I have a maximum of 10 minuet showers and our water's free! (NZ).

I'm fine with two showers a day as long as they're short, i.e. 5 minuets for the second shower.

A week is too long for guests. I was going to say something about them going off and starting to smell but not quite apposite here.
What do people do in a shower for 20 minutes at a time?

If it bothers you, say something. I wouldn't with guests because they are only there for a short while, but if it was longer than a couple of weeks, I would say something if it was a big deal for me.