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to think friends staying shouldn't have two twenty min showers a day

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suziepra · 10/08/2014 09:47

If got some friends staying and they keep having 40 wish mins of showering a day. A part from anything this can't be great for their skin but this is costing 1.60 a day in water with the meter and 1.40 in electric per person. Should I say something? Staying with for a week

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KillmeNow · 11/08/2014 18:56

Im always gobsmacked at these tales of guests who treat friends houses as their own private hotels. All these demands and thoughtlessnesses .

I really cannot imagine this happening-although i dont doubt for one minute that it does as there are so many variants of tales. I just cannot put myself in the position of either guest (hopefully) or host.Where do they all come from? How does it arise that someone goes from dropping in for a night say ends up staying a month and charging their host for the privilege?

And OP please tell us how your situation resolved itself so quickly. Im all agog. Grin

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suziepra · 11/08/2014 18:58

Well it all came to a head after I gave a gift to one of the "friends", the gift I got from work for free in exchange for a review and was a bit of a Hassel to get (worth 35). She then in front of me offered to give it to another friend who said it looked nice. I couldn't pipe down and said you don't give away a gift someone has given to you right in front of their face just after getting it. She told me to relax because I got it for free. I said it doesn't matter how much it cost, I had to do some work for it and it defiantly didn't just magic itself up for free. Then I went into the water and how much they will be costing me and I'm not a hotel. I earn a good wage so maybe that's why they thought the could be excessive..

Anyway they started to pack up, I loaded up their car and were gone in half an hour.

To the people saying I'm being unreasonable, I bet you don't have a water meter, live in the south west and heat your water with electricity.

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suziepra · 11/08/2014 19:01

They didn't leave the 30 quid in water and electric that just their showers would of coated and I paid 5 for petrol on their car. Wont let them ever invite themselves to stay again.

Have some more friends staying at the weekend that were actually invited, lovely people, arrive Saturday and leave Sunday. That should be a great weekend.

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BreezefromtheWest · 11/08/2014 19:09

OP - they don't sound like friends to me, I think you are well shot of them. I cannot believe that they took petrol money off you, they sound as though they had no respect for you or they were after a free holiday.

MagicMojito · 11/08/2014 19:14

Are they not going up to have a poo and they are running the shower so you can't hear them? That's what sprung to my mind Grin

They go upstairs under the guise of showering, turn the shower on so you can't hear them, then spray the parfume so you can't smell them!

Voila! They are secret pooers!

SwedishEdith · 11/08/2014 19:45

I think Magic has got it!

Maisyblue · 11/08/2014 19:53

If I was staying in someone's house I wouldn't dream of abusing their hospitality in having such long showers. 20 minutes in a shower?? totally unnecessary and indulgent. It's awkward because it would be embarrassing all round to say anything.....but if you ever go to their house to stay make sure you do exactly the same. Two showers a day is an indulgence which should be kept to when they're in their own houses. Why should they think it's acceptable when someone else is paying the bill.

KneeQuestion · 11/08/2014 22:40

House guests/time in shower dilema aside...I am amazed at people thinking two showers a day is excessive/unnecessary.

In august, particularly when about to sleep in your hosts bed, why would it be excessive to shower?

Some of you lots beds must reek.

lavenderhoney · 11/08/2014 23:08

I thought the whole point of a shower was that it was quick! What on earth are they doing twice a day that takes 20 mins a time? Are they fitness types and out running all day? Unless they are together and they aren't in there, but shagging/ using sex toys.

And asking you to contribute to petrol is just weird. They are staying at your house for free!

They don't sound like friends of yours, tbh.

SputnikSausage · 11/08/2014 23:28

That is crazily wasteful. And cheeky to shower that much at someone else's house. How dirty do they get during the course of the day?!

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 11/08/2014 23:35

No great loss they sounded like a right pair of users.

ADHDNoodles · 12/08/2014 00:58

Is 20 minutes for one shower really excessive? That's about my average length. I use it to clear my head in the morning. It's the one moment of uninterrupted peace and quiet. I'm pretty sure that's about the average length of any guests I've had too. Confused

I don't think I've really thought about my shower time, it's never been brought up as a problem. Though if it was, I'd make sure to cut down my time to be quick as possible.

In any case, giving away a gift you just got is rude, and also why you never tell people how much a gift cost. Wink

I wouldn't count them as friends based just on that.

Frogisatwat · 12/08/2014 06:57

But would you clear your head twice a day for 20 mins as a guest?
I used to host foreign language students. I couldn't believe how quickly they could shower
Probably 3 mins max and I didn't impose any restrictions! My sister in law from Spain is the same. They must be well educated in countries where water is a scarce commodity.

Waitingonasunnyday · 12/08/2014 07:09

I came on to say I bet they are pooing. But hooray, they've gone now!

Bunbaker · 12/08/2014 07:11

".I am amazed at people thinking two showers a day is excessive/unnecessary. In august, particularly when about to sleep in your hosts bed, why would it be excessive to shower? Some of you lots beds must reek."

No. I don't sweat very much and if I have had a lazy day I don't need two showers a day. The weather has been nice where I live, but it hasn't been excessively hot either. Under those circumstances two showers a day is a bit OTT.

KoalaDownUnder · 12/08/2014 07:14

I shower twice a day, every day. I hate going to bed not feeling clean, and I can't wake up properly in the morning without one.

BUT 20 mins each time is taking the piss - especially as a guest in someone else's house!

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 12/08/2014 07:32

20 mins definitely excessive, 10 mins is enough even with long hairwashing, shaving, exfoliating etc, most of the time I'm in and out in about 5 mins.

wink1970 · 12/08/2014 09:16

Yuk, I cant believe some of you don't shower twice a day. It's basic cleanliness.

OP, your guests are taking the p*ss with the petrol demands, though.

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suziepra · 12/08/2014 09:20

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suziepra · 12/08/2014 09:25

I think showering often drys you out. Said friend were covering themselves in "beauty" products head to toe probably because of how dry their skin was. Said products smelt nasty and articifical so don't think they will be helping.

Yes I gave a gift that I got for free, it wasnt a birthday gift or anything just a gift as she asked for it. Regardless of how much something cost I think its rude to be disrespectful about it. I don't care if someone gave me a gift that was free or cost hundreds I would still have mannors. She kept wasting the spring water I have too as this is "free" but it really isn't as it takes lots of time to get to the spring, clean bottles, fill them up and get them home. People should respect stuff even if it doesn't cost.

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shotyourfox · 12/08/2014 09:31

Dh and I had the PIL staying for 3 weeks. Money is quite tight sometimes for us (like most people). When I checked the gas/elec/water after they went home it had gone up quite a bit. I wouldn't say anything thou as we don't see them often so we just sucked it up.

echt · 12/08/2014 09:37

wink1970, two showers day is not basic cleanliness. Showers dry out your skin. A whore wash + neck, face and hands is quite sufficient.

Numanoid · 12/08/2014 09:44

At first I thought you were being unreasonable OP, but now I've read past the first couple of pages I don't think you are. They sound like users (and not very nice people). I hope you have a good time with your visitors this weekend. :)

KoalaDownUnder · 12/08/2014 10:27

They sound very rude.

BTW, I don't think it's remotely 'yuck' to not shower twice a day. I do it because I like the feel of it, but I certainly don't think people who shower once a day are dirty.

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