to think friends staying shouldn't have two twenty min showers a day

[suziepra]

If got some friends staying and they keep having 40 wish mins of showering a day. A part from anything this can't be great for their skin but this is costing 1.60 a day in water with the meter and 1.40 in electric per person. Should I say something? Staying with for a week

Definitely ask for contribution to energy/water costs if they expected you to contribute to the petrol!

LOL @ 'A week is too long for guests' I've just had mine for 12 weeks and that was on the back of having a friends (adult) daughter live with here for a year.

It doesn't sound like you even like one of them, so in future say 'No' to them staying. Likewise with others if you are going to be timing things and judging them all the time. People are different, it's OK to be different and do and like different things... live & let live. If you can't cope with that in your home, say no to people staying.

Also, it's not so much what you are saying, but the judgy, sneery, nasty way you are saying it.

How did you manage to work out exactly how much its costing you in water and electricity? That's impressive!

I think that's really excessive. I would shower in five minutes,less probably.

I wouldn't say anything to guests but I would be shocked at their thoughtless behaviour.

We would find it hard to have that much hot water every day.

So why did you agree to contribute to the petrol?

If they showered that long in my house they would quickly run out of hot water and never shower that long again. With four of us (including DD's age 16 and 21) also having showers i wouldn't be able to store enough water in my hot water tank.

I think two 20 minute showers a day is frankly taking the piss. No-one needs to shower that much daily.

I have just returned from C. America. 35 degrees and 90% humidity. STILL didn't take two twenty minute showers a day.

Wasteful.

Tell them to stump up or leave.

I was going to bring up the Benjamin Franklin quote "Guests are like fish; they stink after three days" but given the amount of showering your guests do, I guess not?

OP -have these people come just to visit you, or is there another reason for their visit?

Most houseguests would bring a gift to the person they're staying with, offer to contribute to food costs, take the host out to dinner to say 'thank you', etc. Have your houseguests done any of that?

It sounds to me as if they are treating your home like a hotel.

I can't decide if they are very rude/inconsiderate, or if they are as frugal as you (free place to stay, no living costs for days they're with you, asking you for petrol contribution, etc).

You need to be a bit more assertive with them - a good time would have been when they asked to extend their stay. I'd speak to them very calmly and ask them to open windows put on dehumidifiers when they are finished in the bathroom. I'd also ask them if they could cut their showers short - i certainly wouldn't normally ask a guest that, but they seem to have moved from the territory of welcomed and honoured guests to unwanted freeloaders by extending their stay.

tiptops yes it is excessive. Showers are supposed to use less energy and water than baths. It doesn't take anyone 40 minutes a day to keep clean.

People really shower for less than 5 minutes?

It takes me 25, minimum. And usually longer. I usually shower twice a day, too... It's stress relieving to wash the day off, and my hair is long and needs intensive conditioning, so it takes 15 mins to wash and condition.

I'm shocked at how quickly some people can wash!

Absolutely. I thought exactly the same. Even Dh takes longer than 5mins. As i said before it takes me at least 20 mins and I have a bath at night. my hair is short, just on the shoulder

(Even seeking aside the rising costs of these things) I'm amazed, given the whole climate change thing, that so many people really don't care about conserving water or energy. Showering two or three times a day for 20+ minutes each time is incredibly unsustainable.

The amount of people trying to justify their ludicrously long showers on here is unbelievable. It doesn't take anyone 25 mins ffs; if you want to spend ages in there just say so, don't try to explain it away by saying it takes that long. It simply doesn't take that long to clean yourself.

probably sneaking off for a cheeky shag . . . the noise of the shower covers the moaning

Turn the boiler off!

Is it electric shower, or is hot water from immersion? If from immersion, play around with your timer so there is insufficient hot water available. That is what I have done for my two preteens, who are impossible to get out of the shower. But hot water running out will get them every time...

McFox I don't believe I was trying to justify myself. I just thought thevtie I take was normal. I enjoy a nice long shower but not as much as I enjoy a nice long bath at nigh though. I am genuinely surprised to hear I may be in the minority.

The time take...

If you have a well, August is the cruelest month in New England and the UK. Twenty minutes of shower water twice a day just isn't possible. In any case, it's not necessary.

This would drive me bonkers.
It's incredibly wasteful and selfish.

I once had a teenager visiting - cousin's daughter.
She stayed in the shower for 40 minutes water on full.

Never again.

Agree with what Earlybird said.

Asking for contribution to petrol money as well? Brass. Neck.

Bet they don't even say thanks and are just using you as a base for a free jolly (which I'm assuming is saving them lots of £££ considering its SW and peak holiday season)

Dsis has 'friends' who do this to her, she doesn't moan she just mentions that she has friends over (then after abit of questioning I find out they're taking the piss and she's knackered after running around after the friends freeloaders) and it's me that gets angry on her behalf!

Get them told OP.

absolutely so you spend 50 minutes each day keeping clean? What on earth do you do that makes you so dirty?