To wonder when my kids won't mind seeing me or each other naked

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I have a DS nearly 14 and DD 11. I still wander around with no clothes on after showering / changing and they don't seem to bat an eyelid as we've never discouraged nudity or ever made a fuss about it. They will walk in while im on the loo, in the bath etc too! On a recent holiday when the kids shared a room it struck me that maybe I should be covering up myself and ensuring they cover up around each other too?

There doesn't seem to be any embarrassment with either of them as they are happy to be naked around us and each other but my son Is starting to develop etc, daughter not yet.

I don't want to make a big deal over things but my nan thinks it's wrong that they wander around naked around each other and me and hubby, she thinks it's putting temptation in my sons way!!! The thought hadn't crossed my mind!

Anyone with older children, do they eventually become more private themselves or should I be encouraging them to cover up?

I think every family is different and as Lin as everyone is comfortable then it works for you. However, given your dc's age, I would definately advise they cover up from each other?

Yes it's inappropriate for your 14 yo son to walk around naked in front of your dd and vice versa. And even more so rude to walk in when someone is in the loo!

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I remember my parents always walked around naked and it was never an issue, might feel weird if they did it now though !!!

Dd is 13 and happy to be starkers infront of me. I'm often naked infront of her.

Dh makes sure he covers up now when going out of the bedroom. But she never said anything.

It's not inappropriate at all. It's completely up to you guys as a family. My parents always were like this with me, and I have the same attitude with my kids , it just feels normal. Even now, if I'm at my parents...my dad might nip across the landing form the shower...no one bats an eyelid. It's just what you're used to isn't it? People who think it's inappropriate read far too much into it all IMO! Xx

My parents were always naked between the bedroom and bathroom (at least in summer; the house didn't have central heating, so nudity in winter when there's ice on the inside of the windows is just daft.) So were we, I think. There may have been a stage in my teens when I wasn't, but I can't remember. We all had pyjamas or nightdresses when staying elsewhere, or if we had guests.

Temptation to rape his sister?

Sounds normal to me.

I'm quite relaxed I think about this sort of thing, and would usually say that children will lead the parents on this issue. When a child begins to close doors/cover up its time for the parent to do the same. However, I would say at 14, I would be encouraging my son to cover up around his sister and vice versa.

But I don't think that's because your son is going to do anything wrong with his sister, that is an odd train of thought.

I just feel at 14 and 11 they will be going through changes both physically and emotionally and their frame of reference for a naked body of the opposite sex really shouldn't be their brother or sister. That's just my opinion.

What is it with nudity tonight. It's perfectly normal and natural. If people have an issue with it, it's their problem.

My eldest turns 15 in a few weeks and still sees me naked, he tends to keep himself covered ie with a towel after a shower but still comes in to Talk to me if I am in the bath or the shower.

The younger madthings 12, 9, 6 and 3 have no issues 're nudity and see each other and me naked though ds2 is just starting to cover up a bit more.

It's whatever you and your family are happy with.

Threads like this astound me- if the OP had posted from another perspective and said she was uncomfortable that family members wander around naked in front of her teenage children and she was uncomfortable with it, there would be outrage.

There is absolutely no requirement to be naked in front of teenage children and it is not the norm. How the fuck do you teach children to watch out for potential threats to them if it's normal for their parents display their wares all the time?

Putting temptation in your son's way?

What an absolutely foul thing to say.

The biggest thing I can see 'wrong' about your OP isn't the nakedness, it's your nan's disgusting viewpoint. She should be ashamed of even thinking such a thing.

No one has ever covered up in this house, ds 18 and14 still walk round naked as do dh and myself. I actually think it is good for teenagers to see real bodies rather than fake airbrushed images

It's fine at home, just make sure that they understand that not everyone is that relaxed about nudity and there are certain social rules to be aware of.

My eldest two (boy and girl) are almost 15 and 13 and are now at the closing the bathroom door/always putting on a dressing gown and apologise if they walk in on DH or myself getting dressed. That started around the time each of them started high school. Smallest dc is 6 and still doesn't give a toss .

As an older teenager (when I re-started liking my Mum again after the rebellious years), I had some of the nicest chats / heart-to-hearts with my Mum sat on the toilet seat while I was in the bath - or vice versa.

Still now if my Mum pops over to my house and sees me stressed with the children (or anything else), she will suggest I go have a relaxing bath while she's here to look after the children. Often we end up chatting while I'm in the bath. I'm late 30s and she is 70.

Nudity has never and will never be an issue. I hope to bring up my own daughters with similar lack of body issues.

How the fuck do you teach children to watch out for potential threats to them if it's normal for their parents display their wares all the time?

Oh grow up you pillock!! How on earth does seeing your mum naked set you up as a target?

Nudity is nothing to be ashamed of, especially in the immediate family.

I honestly think the people on here that think it's strange are the ones that I'd not want my kids to associate with.....

My kids, some around the same age do the same too.

They often see me naked and think nothing of coming in the bathroom while I am in the bath to ask me something.

Two of them don't go naked around me though as they are more conscious of their changing bodies. However, if they did it wouldn't worry me and I wouldn't mind their sisters seeing it.

Nakedness just isn't a big issue to me. I don't see one reason why I would care if my younger girls saw their bigger brother naked bodies. I can't think of one reason why it is inappropriate.

Bearbehind, your views make no sense to me whatsoever. It's bollocks.

I should add my nan is 89 - I know that doesn't excuse her way of thinking but she's very old fashioned.

And thank you all, my son is extremely open - thinks it's fantastic that he's growing hair and he's quite proud so I doubt he'll ever cover up. Daughter is a little more shy so I feel she will be the one to start covering up before him!

Personally, I think it's down to you/ your upbringing and your own family life.

My parents always said to us growing up: we made you, you came from us both and we have nothing to hide. Even as an older adult now, I have no problems getting undressed in front of my parents and vice versa.

I think it's perfectly natural & healthy and have even discussed with my husband how I would like the same in our family.

If you're comfortable and you're kids are happy, who cares!?!?