To wonder when my kids won't mind seeing me or each other naked

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I have a DS nearly 14 and DD 11. I still wander around with no clothes on after showering / changing and they don't seem to bat an eyelid as we've never discouraged nudity or ever made a fuss about it. They will walk in while im on the loo, in the bath etc too! On a recent holiday when the kids shared a room it struck me that maybe I should be covering up myself and ensuring they cover up around each other too?

There doesn't seem to be any embarrassment with either of them as they are happy to be naked around us and each other but my son Is starting to develop etc, daughter not yet.

I don't want to make a big deal over things but my nan thinks it's wrong that they wander around naked around each other and me and hubby, she thinks it's putting temptation in my sons way!!! The thought hadn't crossed my mind!

Anyone with older children, do they eventually become more private themselves or should I be encouraging them to cover up?

See Ya, wouldn't want to be ya!!

I see your lack of inhibitions includes a lack of good manners. Oh and if you want to be rude at c least have the nerve to do it without the twee strike outs.

I am curious to those that don't let your children you see you naked (after a young age) find out what bodies look like.
I remember noticing that an adult willie was nothing like my brothers one.
Where would you expect your child to see a willie or boobs. Would it be when they are sexually curious? Did it not come as a shock if you were raised this way?

Just came back to this thread and am reading it like this .

My folks wandered about to the loo etc in front of my brother and I naked. None of locked the bathroom door.

DH came from a very buttoned up (no pin intended) family where I am still not sure how the PIL actually managed to have 3 kids, and yet DH is still fine with being naked around our dcs as he's taken his lead from me. Now DD is 13 he does cover up around her as she is feeling more awkward now and we respect that.

At no point does my now 42 brother randomly strip off in front of my kids and none of us have been the victim of incest (in any of the 3 generations). I tend not to strip off in front of my classes/colleagues either .

FFS! Am a bit lost for words at some of these posts, to be honest.

Too many typos and auto correcting to bother to correct. I must be more than I realise!

What a peculiar question. Do you think children live in isolation? They don't have friends? Read books? Watch television? Go to swimming pools or gyms? I don't really know the answer to your question but I don't recall at any point being confused or puzzled because I'd not seen my family naked.

I can't really fathom the idea that because ones parents aren't walking around naked the human body becomes a mystery; or the suggestion by watching that it will give children an idea of what "real bodies " look like as opposed to perfect bodies.

Frankly that was a laughable notion.Children can see all around them every day and in any gym, beach or swimming pool that people come in all shapes and sizes.

But Phaedra nowhere including books ( except maybe porn and French tv) has adult penises on show. No beach or gym I've ever been to.
And if it's everywhere why are some of you odd about it in your own home?

I don't think it matters- do what you are comfortable with. It will either come to a natural end at some point or it won't.

Revealall I really don't know what you're on about. I didn't see my family naked and I don't recall ever being puzzled about the human body.

Well that's what I was asking.

Not sure I quite believe you though.

I remember being at girls with red nipples the first time I saw them. Nothing had ever been mentioned that nipples came in any other shade than pink or brown.

Fine, think what you want. I really don't recall it being the enormous,big deal , or any deal at all that you're making it. I expect, apart from baby brother's penis I encountered penises in various shapes and sizes from 15 onwards. As for breasts, apart from not being terribly interested in them bare breasts are hardly a rare sight in many media.

However feel free to believe I keeled over in a swoon on my wedding night at the sight of a penis.

My brother molested me throughout our teen years. I doubt I'm the only one.
Nakedness is natural and normal for little children, not for randy adolescents.

mermaidstale, I'm very sorry to hear that. Were your family relaxed about nakedness? Just looking for a correlation.

In answer to revealall, yes I was shocked the first time I saw an adult penis. In fact I was a bit scared. In my family growing up my mother and sisters were very relaxed about nudity, my father not at all (and my brother was at boarding school).

I'm pretty relaxed about nudity, last night dd (almost 14) and I skinny dipped, and it was lovely. We were already in the pool when ds (15) got in and I did ask him to look away when I got out. He looked completely bumused! Both children often talk to me in the bath, I just don't see it as a big deal. dh sleeps naked and can be seen naked very fleetingly from time to time.

I do check in with my children that they OK with how things are right now and they have both said they are not at all bothered. They are fairly careful with each other though.

I'm not sure mermaidstale will come back.

nooka I'm a bit puzzled at your saying you found an adult penis a bit scary but maybe you missed out on the teenage fumbling years or possibly you were getting mixed messages that female nudity amongst females is fine but not male nudity.

And I see you are comfortable swimming with your daughter but not comfortable at the idea of your son seeing you come out of the pool so maybe

Ah well to be accurate I should have said teenage penis. I can't imagine it grew much though - he was very well endowed

The pool thing was more me thinking that my son might be embarrassed. In practice he just thought it was funny that I suggested he might be. But he was wearing a wetsuit at the time, so it was a bit unequal I guess (he gets cold very easily).

Both DS1 (17) and DS2 (15) walk into my room/shower room when I have no clothes on to talk to me, they don't bat an eyelid. I would not rush to put a dressing gown on. I am not embarrassed and neither are they about me being nude/partially clothed. Same with DH.

I always knock though before entering their rooms if the door is closed or partially closed just in case they are getting dresses/undressed.

I haven't seen DS1 naked since he was about 10, although I have seen him in his underwear however he is a bit more reserved than DS2 (who I last saw naked when he was about 12) he is always wandering around the house on a night in his underwear (gets very hot), he does still have the physique of a 10 year old though, all arms, legs and ribs so that may change when his body matures a bit more.

If being comfortable naked and being comfortable around nudity was a problem then Scandinavia would be monumentally screwed up!