AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

[mom1983]

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

It goes both ways, my twins are 2 next month and were wearing a 9-12 month outfit yesterday. I cant help they are small the same way she can't help her DD is big!

The thing YWBU about was "dripfeeding the info". It would BU to judge a child on ages of clothing. But YANBU to be concerned that the extrmely chubby child of an obese family is being fed junk food from 6 months (McD at that age? Ouch). Because they are probably storing up more and more trouble for the future.

But, as you hae seen, this is a very sensitive subject. Good luck trying to encourage them to make tiny changes. Because over time lots of tiny changes add up to making a lot of difference.

YABU to talk about the baby being fat and trying to hide that as tact.

Had you posted, "AIBU that my friend doesn't feed her baby healthy food' it would be a different matter.

If your friend can't cook are you helping her learn?

OP I think your best bet is to lead by example. I wouldn't come out and say her baby was fat even though she is. Invite her to your home, serve her and baby a healthy meal, ask her to exchange baby snack ideas with her, then show her some good tasting healthy choices. If you give baby some yummy fruit maybe your friend will serve her some in her own home.

Onedream you are taking rubbish, but then you have a 12 year old who still has a problem

Early weaning has nothing to do it, my DD has weaned early, she was ready for it and she's a 7 year old beanpole, 9 pound at birth.

The girl might just be solid and spread out, by next year she might have completely changed.

Yanbu.

I understand your concern.

The mother sounds uneducated - not add sure how you can help her without appearing judgemental/holier-than-thou.

Hope the HV is able to act in some way.

YANBU OP Having read your concerns about the child's diet I think that your friends cute chubby baby will turn into obese little girl unless she makes some big changes. Feeding babies junk food and rubbish is abuse and lazy parenting. Yes children come in all shapes and sizes but there are some instances where the shape and size is being determined by diet and lifestyle and we need to stop being so prickly when it comes to recognising that yes dime children are actually fat.

Oops 'some children'

Mine's 11.5 months and can still wear the odd 0-3 month old thing.

She's a gorgeous petite wee titch

Early weaning has nothing to do it, my DD has weaned early, she was ready for it and she's a 7 year old beanpole, 9 pound at birth

The early weaning is relevant. As I explained before.

Not because there's anything wrong with responding to your babies needs and weaning before six months but because it meant that by six months the baby was already tucking in to things like macdonalds and is more likely to be eating meal sized amounts of unsuitable foods. And it means that it's an extra few months of her being fed crap.

And also early in you have to be careful about how much you feed your baby to ensure it doesn't drop too much milk. Fat is filling (read other threads where people recommend upping fat and protein to keep their children from. Ring hungry all the time and creating bad habits), if the baby filled up on fried greasy fatty food then there may well have been nutritional problems because of baby not drinking enough milk.

And obviously babies aren't meant to have salt before a yr.

So instead of four months, half of which is usually just a few tries of food and moving into meals/ 3 meals a day by 6/7 months. It's 6/7 months worth of crap and macdonalds is high salt. That's extra pressure for extra time on those little kidneys. Again- potential huge problem. Salt build ups can kill a baby

My ds3 started solid food a fortnight ago after 6 months of being ebf. He is in 9-12mo clothes, and fills them out well. He is very long. They are all different.

Would you be concerned about my child being too small? 3 years old next month and in 12-18 months in some clothes? he's petite, the whole family are, me, his nanny & grandad, we don't underfeed him. I find it a bit upsetting that people judge like this to be honest, there is usually very little that can be done about a child's size, as long as you are feeding them properly the rest is down to genetics.

Over-fed children become tall as well as fat.

Eventually they are at risk of entering puberty early & then becoming short (fat) adults.

My 5 year old has just finally outgrown a pair of 12-18 month shorts. He is normal size for a 5 year old. Healthy, no food issues. The shorts didnt fit him at 12-18 months. They were clearly just made far too big. The same happened with stuff being made too small when he was a baby. Sometimes his top would have been 12-18 months and his trousers 3-6 months. Its just bad sizing.

I had chubby babies, I can't think of one of them who didn't wear clothes a size bigger than their age so I passed on their clothes six months later to my friend who had skinny babies the same age.
Our children are now adults, my four are all normal sized adults dd is a size six and ds's all around 6' tall have a 30" waist. My friend's four children are all without exception very overweight dd size 24 and ds must be at least 16 stone.
My babies were the bottle fed late weaned and df's were breast fed and early weaned. YWBU to mention it to your friend as it's none of your business and it doesn't mean that as adults your friend's child will be fat anymore than your child will be skinny

Ahem - peace and love everyone.

My exclusively breastfed for 6 months, not early weaned just turned 1 year old is in age 2-3 clothes. He wears 5+ or size 6 nappies. He's off the chart for height and weight.

At 4 months (and on only breast milk) he was in 9-12 month clothes and by 6 months 12-18.

Not sure how I could have kept him any smaller......he just grew!

Some children are bigger than others.

My dd is also big for her age. I imagine they'll both stop growing at some point.

A work friends sister in law has a baby who is very fat (seen the photos). The Hv mentioned concerns about the baby's weight as she is having lots of bottles of formula and eating 4 meals (fat and crappy according to friend) plus chocolates and crisps. Friend has decided persuaded sil to the local sure start on pretext of going rhyme time class and some other baby classes in hope that some of the workers there will be able to help introduce a more healthier regime.

It really is none of your business. It's a label at the end of the day. If the baby does grow into an overweight child yes, perhaps you would be concerned but again, none of your business.

FWIW, I have just bought DD1 (6.10) age 8/9 school uniform because 7/8 is indecently short. I am 5 ft 2 and she's up to my chest. Would you like to express concern over her too?