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AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

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mom1983 · 01/08/2014 12:03

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

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CalamitouslyWrong · 01/08/2014 12:16

I found baby clothes to be teeny tiny. Ds2 (who is perfectly normal sized, but was quite long as a baby) was in 9-12 month clothes long before he was 9 months. You just put them in what fits best, surely?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 01/08/2014 12:17

Early weaning causes fat babies Hmm

Mine were weaned at 4 months as that was the guidance at that time, grew into skinny but well nourished children. They are older teens now and as fit and skinny as a butchers dog!

What is she feeding her that concerns you?

ikeaismylocal · 01/08/2014 12:18

Some babies are just naturally very chubby. My ds was an exceptionally chubby baby, his legs were so huge his shorts would dig into his skin, I just dressed him in vests without anything on his legs. He was exclusively breastfed until 6 months and then after that he'd have a nibble of what we were having and a bit of peach/melon to chew on, his diet had hardly any added fat/sugar but he was still massive.

I worried about it but now at 18 months he is on the 50th centile for weight and height.

Don't assume a chubby baby is an unhealthy baby (also don't assume a slim baby is an unhealthy baby).

Curlyweasel · 01/08/2014 12:18

I wasn't being hostile - what I was saying is that, unless you think the baby is being mistreated in some way i.e. through over feeding - then it's not reasonable (IMO) for you to question your friend's approach to dressing and feeding her child.

shoppingbagsundereyes · 01/08/2014 12:19

Some children are big. My dd was born on the 25% centile and by 3 weeks old on exclusively breast milk she had risen to the 95th. She stayed on the 95th until she could walk. She was breast fed til 13 months and blw so definitely did not over eat.
Now she's tall for her age, wearing age 7 clothes when she's only just 6 and has sat on the 75th centile since she started walking.
Perhaps your friend is judging your 'skinny' baby while you are judging her 'fat' one.

YouTheCat · 01/08/2014 12:19

20 years ago the advice was to wean at 16 weeks.

I don't see a whole load of 19/20 year olds wobbling about because they were weaned to early.

The child is 10 months old and probably not walking yet. Many babies are a bit chubby looking but they usually even out and look leaner as they grow and become more active.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 01/08/2014 12:20

Don't be ridiculous. A baby regulates itself. It will eat when hungry and so when full. Unless she giving Happy Meals and cans of Red Bull, the 10 month old will be her normal weight. Nowt wrong with a chubby baby.

Deverethemuzzler · 01/08/2014 12:20

My children were all smallish average birthweight. 3 out of the five were always in at least one size up bythe time they were 6 months. My 4 year old shares clothes with my 6 year old
Some kids are bigger than others.
Ths is not a 10 year old aving to wear women's clothes. It's a big baby.

You have already made your mind up by the sound of it.
Why don't you just tell your friend that her baby is fat?

Then come back and tell us how it went

TheFairyCaravan · 01/08/2014 12:21

DS2 was 60cm long when he was born, should I have chopped his legs off so he could have fitted in age appropriate clothes all his life?

Both he, and DS1(58cm at birth), were big babies, both BF and weaned at 4 months as per guidelines at the time, they wore the clothes that fitted!

elvislives2012 · 01/08/2014 12:22

My DD Was the same, not early weaned but a right old chubster Grin once she started walking she lost it, that's what it's for! I wouldn't worry until she was older tbh

DanaBarrett · 01/08/2014 12:23

On the other side of the coin, my 20mo wears the same clothes as my 3.5yo, as DD1 is little, she's wearing 18-24mo clothes mainly with some 2-3. DD1 has always been tiny, she was in 3-6mo clothes when she had her first birthday.

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mom1983 · 01/08/2014 12:23

I am not purposely making the early weaning link, and didn't mean to offend anyone.

Weaning to me is fresh food with nutrients. Not carbs and chocolate and fried food from the hungry horse.

I haven't used the F word so whoever said that... tsk

The child is overweight, her diet is very fatty and offers little vitamins etc. She brings snacks to mine and its also junk food - wotsits, milkyways or milky bars.

Clothes can come up small or big I get that, but her whole wardrobe are these sizes. Not only that though, I have seen the child playing in the paddling pool etc... she is overweight. And I think it is cruel.... my business or not

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Curlyweasel · 01/08/2014 12:23

Grin Deverethemuzzler

BadgersBum · 01/08/2014 12:23

My DS stopped growing at around 36 weeks and seemed to take forever to grow out of his Small Baby and into his Newborn clothes, on the other hand, my friend's DD who is a few weeks younger was a proper chubby cherub and went straight into the 3-6 month size.

They're both 5 now and more or less the same size (DS eats like a dustbin and DD dropped all chubbiness as soon as she found her feet), but maybe we should have let them wear ill fitting clothes as babies just to satisfy what it said on the labels?

Matildasmam22 · 01/08/2014 12:23

My youngest is 18 month. She was born 3lb12 at thirty weeks.

She's in size 2-3 clothes and im over the moon.

I don't see the problem baby's grow at there own rate and clothes size mean nothing.

So YAB a bit U

AnaisB · 01/08/2014 12:27

It isn't my business, but I can still write a mumsnet post to vent my opinion right?

but you didn't vent an opinion you made some "tactful" statements about her being big and slipped in a bit about early weaning. I think your opinion is: My friend weaned her child early and now she is fatter than she should be. It sounds very judgemental written like that doesn't it?

(YABU)

CultureSucksDownWords · 01/08/2014 12:27

So, have you told your friend about your concern for her baby?

Curlyweasel · 01/08/2014 12:27

OP - why didn't you just say that to begin with then? Being oblique isn't very helpful if you want feedback to a genuine question.

Sirzy · 01/08/2014 12:27

Is it even possible to be overweight at 10 months old? I thought chubby was the norm at that age?

In most areas she will have a 1 year check with the HV anyway who I am sure will pick up if there is a problem.

My nephew was in 18-24 month clothes about that age. He is a tall, but slim 6 year old now. Conversely DS was in 3-6 month clothes at that age, he is short and very slim now. Children come in a range of shapes and sizes!

TheFairyCaravan · 01/08/2014 12:28

DS1 was a chubby baby. Once he was running around he didn't gain any weight for months. He has never been overweight in his life, he is incredibly fit and very muscular now!

mousmous · 01/08/2014 12:30

yabu
some children's clothes come up very small.
your friend's dc sound like mine, esp with stuff from john lewis or gap.

Mrsjayy · 01/08/2014 12:30

So you think your friends baby is fat because the mum forced food into it too early why didnt you say that in the first place, would save posters time saying oh it might just be a tall baby

MrsWinnibago · 01/08/2014 12:32

YABU. Children's clothing sizes are very unreliable. My DD is skinny skinny skinny...she's 6 and some of her clothes are meant for 9 year olds! You can see her ribs...she's a healthy weight but light.

My friend keeps buying her children clothing in "their proper size" so for her 18 month old she buys 12-18 months. Of course, they don;t fit! Everyone I know buys at least one size up.

Original poster
mom1983 · 01/08/2014 12:34

I'm sorry :( I didn't know how to post it without sounding like I have anyway...

I didn't want to say "my friend feeds her baby shit and shes the size of a nursery kid" I understand that children are different and I also understand people do things their own ways and that the f word doesn't go down well on here.

Sorry...

My point is... I don't want to fall out with my friend (since school). I have been trying to suggest more healthy options but she just doesn't seem to click and "get it".

Her family are very very very obese. She even calls her own sister "no neck"... The Dad, is bigger too.

So it is in her DNA, but also the food types are all wrong.

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Choochootrain1 · 01/08/2014 12:35

I think you'd get less flack if you'd asked something along the lines of "AIBU to consider how I could tactfully explain to my friend that I'm concerned over her baby's diet" (which I now think is what you meant?)

She's not feeding her a healthy diet suitable for a 10 month if it's always crisps/choc/fried chicken - no. Are you sure it's not just a one off?