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AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

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mom1983 · 01/08/2014 12:03

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

OP posts:
OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 19:56

Btw I round NEVER expect a toddler to loose weight!! What my paed said was that he was expecting dc nit to put as much weight on compare to his height. But making him loose weight would be a crazy thing to do.
Actually it is a crazy thing to do with children all together.

LST · 01/08/2014 19:57

YABU. My 6mo eats nothing but the few bits of veg and toast he manages to get in his mouth and has now decided to cut down on milk too. He is in 12-18 month old clothes. If we put him in 9-12 the poppers pop open and they are too tight around his tummy and on his feet and thighs.

He is way over the centile lines for weight but is also 98th for length. This thread has made me very Angry Angry Angry Angry

Layl77 · 01/08/2014 20:01

Pasta at 4months isn't great and yes it's likely she isn't having te healthiest diet but my kids were all massive and my 9m old wears some 18-24 clothes and he is breastfed weaned at 6months.
I wouldn't be happy if people judged him because of his size thinking he must be fed rubbish when he's not he is tall and big. Some babies look like cherubs!

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 20:01

Portion sizes for a toddler are also a strange idea tbh. Each child is different. What is important is that they eat the right things rather than a certain amount.
However pulling up a plate and then expecting the child to eat it all up isn't good either. I always give them a small portion, let them eat that and then see if they are still hungry.

Fwiw my 9yo is eating nearly twice as much as me atm. And he is still very thin. But he is growing a lot. Why would I reduce his portions at this time of his life? In the same way, toddlers grow a lot. They might need bigger portions one day or for a couple of months. If you are always going for nutritious and healthy food, they will feel full and will stop eating on their own.

HavanaSlife · 01/08/2014 20:02

Onedream, if a toddler is over weight and is given less food of course they could loose weight. I thought he would just maintain his weight but he lost 4 lb in 2 months, he certainly isn't starved so enough with the!!! Hey

LST · 01/08/2014 20:04

This thread has really pissed me off Angry

I never new people like the op actually manage to judge people on the size of their babies ffs

SqueakySqueak · 01/08/2014 20:04

YABU.

My husband asked the pediatrician because he was convinced I feed DD too much and was making her fat (uhm.. she's only in the 37th percentile for her weight??), because when she cries I feed her. Anyway, the doctor said that you feed them when they're hungry. End of.

Babies store fat for growth spurts, so even if they are over weight, it's fine because they are storing that to grow. Babies go through so many changes that their weight isn't really a concern for doctors unless it's extreme. Babies only eat when they're hungry, they haven't learned to eat in excess yet. So a chubby baby is a healthy baby.

Also, I was in size 6 month clothes at a month and turned out to be a string bean all the way up until my 20's when my metabolism started slowing down. Even now I can eat whatever I want and still stay average size but I do need to work out and exercise more. So, baby fat means nothing.

HavanaSlife · 01/08/2014 20:06

Oh and I've already said he was eating the right things, everything home cooked two much older brothers who have never had a weight problem.

I have no problem with them leaving food if they don't want it, or having more if they really are hungry so what you are saying isn't truefor all children

VioletHare · 01/08/2014 20:07

There are more calories in milk than pasta. So I doubt early weaning itself is 'at fault' for the baby being big.

We weaned ds1 at 17 weeks, and by 5.5 months he was having full blown meals, pasta, spag bols etc.

We were advised to wean early for him to lose weight as he was drinking way too much milk and has rolls and rolls of fat at 17 weeks.

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 20:07

But 5 pounds for a toddler? How much of his body weight did that child loose??? More than 10% as a guess which is A LOT even for an adult.

Seriously the advise of making such a young child is WRONG. If they have lost weight, then they haven't been eating enough. They should carry on growing wo putting weight on or less than expected. That's what paeds would tell a parent to do. They aren't little adults but children who are still growing.

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 20:09

Also I think you would struggle to over feed a chd on apes and cucumber.... Regardless if the quantities.
Maybe the issue is also about what the patent think is a healthy diet. Home made doesn't mean healthy for example

HavanaSlife · 01/08/2014 20:16

My oldest is 19 so weaned in the days when 3-4 months was the norm. He was also 11lb 2 when born and in 3-6 and some 6-9month clothes straight away.

From about 6 months he was slightly above average for weight and off the chart for height, he's now 6 foot 4 and not fat but built like a brick house.

The thing is dc are like adults, all individuals! Some can have 3 weetabix for breakfast at 14 months and never be over weight and some can't.

Some dc will self regulate their food and some won't.

Some can eat as much as an adult and be a healthy weight and some can't.

It's not one size fits all

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 20:16

Fwiw dc1 was big as a child. As I said I was te to make him walk and to be careful with biscuits etc.
he never lost weight but started to get leaner as he got older.
He is now 12yo. He still has a tendency to out weight on easily, unlike his db (who eats more than him at 9yo). Teaching him about eating less is useless tbh. If he feels hungry, he will eat. And as he is at home in his own now, there will be no one to stop him.
Teaching what is a healthy diet, to avoid sugar at all cost, to chose an apple over a biscuit etc that is what will make the difference. Especially as he is becoming a teenager, is growing a lot again and will need food to do so.

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 20:19

Self regulation can be taught though. But not by restricting portions. But by teaching the child to listen to their body, to never use food as a way to comfort etc.

Sallystyle · 01/08/2014 20:19

Well LST, before getting pissed off maybe it would help you to read the whole thread.

HavanaSlife · 01/08/2014 20:29

Are you actually reading my posts, he never even realised I'd changed his portion sizes, I did it slowly and he has never complained.

If he is hungry I give him food, just not as much as he would have had before.

Yes he's lost about 10% of his body weight but like I said our intention was not to loose weight it was to have him stay the same and naturally drop centiles as he aged.

Noone I've seen can see a problem with his diet, it was just portion sizes

Koothrapanties · 01/08/2014 20:34

Ffs RTFT people!

LST · 01/08/2014 20:42

U2 it doesn't make any difference. The op judged on bloody baby clothes sizes! That pissed me off.

Koothrapanties · 01/08/2014 20:45

LST if you read the thread you would see that the b baby is in much bigger clothes because she has been given an appalling diet. It is nothing to do with the clothes really, the op is very concerned about the child's diet!

But I'm sure you would just rather continue to be offended so carry on. As you were.

Sallystyle · 01/08/2014 20:46

It does make a difference LST.

Try reading it and you will see.

You can highlight the OP posts and just read them.

Frusso · 01/08/2014 20:47

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LST · 01/08/2014 20:53

You can't on your phone

Olliemum83 · 01/08/2014 20:58

My son was born 11 lbs 10 ozs and was straight into 3-6 month clothes at birth. He is now 3 and wearing 4-5 year old clothes. How can got question what someone else's baby is wearing? Makes literally no difference to your life!

OneDreamOnly · 01/08/2014 21:08

Actually I think I have havana.
The plan was for your dc to stay at the same weight by reducing his portion size but it was too strict so he actually lost weight. Im not trying to awkward but I would dread anyone reading this thread to go away thinking it's the right way to go for a toddler to loose so much weight.

Tbh as I said, if there is an issue with the weight if your toddler what you need to look at is what they are eating. Not how much.

BocaDeTrucha · 01/08/2014 21:21

Ds is 10 months and some of the clothes he wears are 18-23 months.... So what?? Some of the clothes he wears are 9-12 months. It all depends on the individual shop. Personally I hate seeing babies squeezed into t-shirts that are too small and most clothes are more comfy if slightly bigger. I'm talking about romper suits etc which is pretty much all he wears in this heat. He's on the 97th percentile for weight and similar for height... He's all in proportion and I know once he starts walking, he won't gain much weight and will continue to grow upwards.