AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

[mom1983]

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

My son always needed larger clothes as a baby.He is now 6ft 4 and solidly built but not fat.Babies grow at different rates.

what the hell has early weaning got to do with baby being in 18-24 month clothes already?

My DD was 9lbs 2 at birth and always long/tall and chunky. She always maintained her weight, always within the healthy range and was in 18-24month clothes by her first birthday. She was weaned at 6 months btw. maybe I should have got her doing her aerobics once she was crawling?

Size of the clothes really means fuck all. The HV will be weighing the baby and if there are concerns at size it will be picked up.

In the meantime, I'd keep my beak out.

How mobile is the little one?

Once she is walking and running she is likely to slim off.

Some babies are just bigger than others, and often it isn't to do with eating more.

Well, in your situation, I would make sure that you keep mentioning the 1 year check in positive terms, if you think your friend might not attend it with her DD.

You can say fat you know if they are a fat unhealthy family then I dont see what you can say to her to give the babier healthier food she isnt getting your tactful hints you are either going to have to say something direct or shush ,

At 10 months she probably isn't walking. As soon as she is up and running the weight will fall off her. Dfs dd was nicknamed Butterball because she was so round and chubby. The girl is now in her teens, and is tall and positively angular. As long as the baby is healthy and just at the moment has a big appetite everything evens out in the end.

Thank you culturesucksdownwords I will do that.

The baby*

DS1 was on the 50th centile for weight and followed clothes sizing pretty exactly. But around 8 months he was spherical - a chubby round ball of squeezy thighs and dimpled elbows and pudgy wrists. He started crawling at 9mo and over time stretched out into the lean 3.5yo he is now. Ime, before babies get really mobile they do go through a pretty podgy phase.

I didn't wean him until 6mo btw and he didn't have chocolate or anything very sweet apart from fruit until his first birthday cake. I didn't really think babies could be overweight. It doesn't sound like your friend's baby has a super-healthy diet, that's true, but I can't see what you could do about that.

Ok, I cross-posted with loads of extra info - obviously the baby's diet doesn't sound good and it's clear there is a deep-rooted problem with nutrition and weight in the family. I guess the hv probably sees this quite a bit and will offer advice and support, but it's such a difficult issue to address.

How about suggesting to her that she swaps the wotsits for something like the organix carrot sticks 'crisps' or rice cakes, the chocolate for something like the yoyo bear fruit rolls, and adds in some bananas to her bag for snacks whilst out and about. I can't see it's any more hassle for her to prepare than what she's already using (but is much healthier)

And then if she really can't be arsed to prepare a healthy meal that she uses the Ella's kitchen meals or some other similar organic ready prepared brand ?

I think to some extent the clothes thing is irrelevant as some come up huge others tiny. I have a nearly 8 ur old who can still fit into some 4-5 clothes but in dresses needs 8-9 at least or they are too short

Dd1 was always in clothes smaller than her age

Dd2 was always pretty much spot on.

But it does sound like you have some concerns and rightly so chubby is normal but not to the point where you feel it looks like a problem and if she was weaned at 3/4 months she's been plied with the wrong kind if food for 6/7 months which is enough to stretch the stomach slightly or give cravings for junk food or sugar (well I would have thought so at lease)

Has she seen a HV or gp?

My six month old is wearing a pair of trousers labelled age 3-4. They're are exceptionally small. He's very normall sized.

If this is genuine concern, then you might take reassuarance from my sons. Both were born big (c9lb) and had voracious appetities. They were both weaned early (used BLW methods from about 5 mths - if they could hold it and chew it they could have it). They had plenty of carbs - pasta, potatoes etc. Even the odd bit of ice cream. I'm sure there were times when they looked chubby - probably before a growth spurt.

To look at them now you'd think they were starved! Both very lean and gangly but still have appetites like Henry VIII.

Excessive fat and sugar isn't good for a baby though. My sure start centre used to have food workers coming in giving examples of cheap and easy meals/snacks that were healthy - they were great! From time to time there'd be various other health workers there - dental team etc. If you're able to, you might be able to suggest a visit there for one of the many other activities they put on - that's if there's any left of course!

Appearing judgemental will only make someone defensive though - don't entrench postions!

My DS is always on the 99th percentile for weight and height. He isn't fat at all, but has a rib cage like a barrel and is tall with DHs figure. He is 21 months and in age 3-4 clothes.

I am now worried that people are secretly judging me about every mouthful he eats and thinking he should be on a diet. I will feed him lettuce immediately.

I have two year old twins. Born at term and always fine on the weight and growth charts, just towards the smaller end. DD still fits in some 3-6 month shorts and DS in some 6-12 month shorts. Both Gap so hardly generous. Admittedly tops are a bit bigger but generally 12-18 months would be biggest size they might wear. Both still fine in their baby car seats. They have never really had any chubbiness but they have plenty of squishy bits and no concerns from anyone about their size.

We all come in different shapes and sizes and there is a big difference between small and healthy and not underweight and big and healthy and not overweight.

YABU, silly and pathetic.

Clothes sizes are average, that means some children will find that size too big and some too small.

Do you suggest she squashes her child into clothes and nappies that are too small just because the size is right? .

My children often wear clothes that have an age label older than they are. They are very tall and slim. What exactly is the problem or are you just trying to imply her baby is fat?

I think people need to stop being defensive about the size clothes their kids wear and actually read that the op has said that it's not because he's tall or big built but because he's fed crap and is chubbier than he should be

I am a bit dubious her diet consist of wotsits milky ways and fried crap from the hungry horse I have to say.

Is that it?

It's sad that she's feeding her baby rubbish. I think that's the crux of it rather than the 4 month weaning. I don't know how you'd be able to be helpful other than by example. Little ones seem to be happier to try stuff if they see other little ones eating it. Why not offer to do lunch or tea and have them round. If she sees her child enjoying the healthier stuff you've provided, she might put some in her own trolley next time.

I think you are right to be concerned about her diet, it sounds quite shocking it's not just the fat, it's the sugar and salt as well. Hopefully the HV/GP will pick up on it.

The family sound like they could do with lessons in nutrition and healthy living.

People made comments about my son as he was quite chubby and it made me fret and worry so much about him .Didn't help the PND. And the Annabel Karmel book stating 2 ice cubes at a certain age was bollocks Now he is 13, taller than me and slim. Eats an incredible diet.

Fair enough Giles!

I think if the baby is big that isn't a cause for concern. Neither is the weaning at four months. Not my choice but not a cause for concern. Pasta as an early food also wouldn't bother me. The snacks and junk food are worrying however regardless of the baby's size - I hadn't reached that update. Hopefully this is something the HV will pick up on. I think it is difficult to raise with friend - how close are you?

my son is 11 months old and has been wearing 18-24 months clothes comfortably for the last month. he has been in size 5 nappies for the last 2 months.

He is off the chart for both length and weight. I dont often take him to be weighed etc as I work and he is DC3 but the HV commented the last time i did take him he was roughly in the 110th centile for both. perfectly proportioned and HUGE.

and is also perfectly normal in terms of the males in my family. My husband is 6 foot. My father was 6'2. My brother is 6'5 and and my two nephews who are 14 and 16 are 6'4 and 6'5 respectively.

A fat baby doesn't necessarily correlate to a fat adult though. THey are supposed to be chunky little butter balls until they are a bit older.