AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

[mom1983]

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

that's a good idea giles! I will check out the local colleges and see!!

And scouse

Would you say under feeding a child so they are malnourished is abuse?

Well jut because a child is fed to much doesn't mean they aren't malnourished. Many obese children and adults are malnourished or anaemic despite the amount of food they eat.

There's no difference really. Both lead to major health problems

Yabu. I have a big child she is always in bigger clothes. Some.children are tall, some a bit podgy when little and clothes sizes are just a guide . It's none of your business.unless you.think the child is being mistreated in some way.

I wish you luck op

But given it's a family way I doubt you will change anything. But it can't hurt to try, and as there's a baby who's young enough to be able to change their story, it's worth it.

There's a massive range of what's normal anyway.
My 2 year old still wears some 6-9 months clothes, do you think I'm starving him?

And still so any missing the point.

Yes clothes sizes vary.

Yes kids are naturally all different sizes

op has agreed with this!!

The problem is that : she's in these large clothes because she's very very chubby. And struggles to even crawl.

:- her diet consists of a lot of fried fatty crap. And restaurant food. (Hello- salt/sugar content....)

There's a family history of being vastly overweight and eating crap

And of course the age of weaning is relevant here. Not because there's anything necessarily wrong with weaning before six months BUT it meant that by the time child was six months it was tucking into macdonalds!!

And it's an extra 2/3 months of getting used to high sugar high salt fatty foods. Plus, fat is filling. Baby could well have not got enough formula/BM as she was too full on fried crap. Which is hugely different to a couple of spoon fils of carrot mush.

Are people even bothering to RTFT or just jumping in with defensive competitive baby size crap??

I'd rather be a shitty friend and think these things before the poor child dies of a heart attack aged 5.

How the fuck is 'thinking' these things going to stop the child having a heart attack? either tell her that her kid is fat and she needs to stop feeding it junk (she can choose to take the advice or not) or shut up and accept that there is nothing you can do.

You sound horrible and your post doesn't sound like its born from concern for her child (who you have made no mention of liking)

Lots of 10 month old babies struggle to crawl. That bit's not at all unusual in any way.

Yanbu op. I think quite a few people haven't rtft.

Imo feeding a child a poor diet is child abuse.

I will admit that I don't have the best diet. I can't be bothered to slave over a hot pot for myself. I eat quick and easy foods.

Dd has an excellent diet. I cook in bulk and freeze meals packed with veggies for her and she snacks on fruit, veg and rice cakes. She deserves the best food I can possibly provide for her.

I will sort out my own diet when I'm less sleep deprived, but there is no excuse whatsoever for feeding your child crap. Flame away, but it's something I feel really strongly about.

There are no excuses Koothrapanties but there are explanations. Unless the OP's friend is totally blind to what is happening she can change her child's eating habits quite easily. It's oh so easy to look in from the outside and scream abuse but even with a family history of bad eating things can change.

What is your explanation? That it's all the ops friend knows? What about all the healthy eating information out there? I'm sure she watches tv, they are always going on about what is healthy and what isn't. If she is so stupid that she thinks that feeding a 6 month old macdonalds is the right thing to do then she shouldnt have children.

Can you really come up with a good enough explanation for this?

Oh and at no point did i say it can't change. I just said there is no excuse for what she is feeding her now.

Exactly.

You have to have been living under a rock your whole life to not know macdonalds is not suitable for babies and is an occasional meal for adults and children. And that junk -bad
Veg-good.

If your stuck look on the internet, borrow a book from library. Ask a friend. It's not hard.

I didn't say that I had the explanation, only the friend knows that one. I can explain why I over fed my son for a short while 13 years ago, I did so further down but will be happy to do so again:
Fear, he was an underweight baby.
Ignorance
Mainly fear though.
The change comment wasn't aimed directly at you, sorry Koothrapanties, bad typing on my part. It was at a general comment on the absolute certainty that this child WILL grow up with health problems and the parents will not change that I've seen further down. I know that's not true, as I've lived it.

I don't think it's weird. My daughter isn't quite 10 months yet and she has just started wearing 12-18 month clothes. Actually, she has a bodysuit type of thing from babygap that is 18-24 months that I struggle to get her into. She is breastfed on demand and I didn't wean until 6 months. She just happens to be very long and has always been around the 98 percentile. Clothing sizes vary and so do babies, therefore YABU.

Also, I'm quite offended as it feels as if you are saying anyone with a baby this size is doing something wrong.

YANBU OP

Sadly, like has already happened, you will get a ton of posters who only read your first post and then talk about how big their kids were, get defensive without even bothering to read your posts about how the baby is overweight and its poor diet.

I understand you were trying to be tactful in your first post, sadly it has just turned into a thread where some posters are now defensive because they can't be arsed to read the rest of your posts properly.

Excuse the appalling grammar above

If she is seeing her HV I assume they will tackle this with the mother?

It's so sad seeing an overweight child due to what looks to be the result of a poor diet. Setting them up for a possible life time of weight problems and health conditions.

Hopefully the health professionals will talk to her and the mother will change her diet.

I do think it is a form of neglect, maybe one based on ignorance, but the results are still the same.

idontsee I was the same with ds3, he was prem and small and over time we just over fed him. Healthy food but his portion sizes were too big. He's never going to be a small boy, like someone else said he has a rib cage like a barrel, massive hands and feet; but he became over weight.

I took my head out my arse and took a trip to the hv, had him measured and weighed and was given a sheet on portion sizes. He's very active, always has been but I've upped his exercise and cut down his portion sizes.

We go back to the hv ever other month, it's been 3 months and he's lost 5lb. I don't think he will loose much more but I'm hoping his weight will stay the same and he will naturally drop down centiles.

He hasn't noticed the smaller portion sizes or the extra exercise but we can seethe difference, he's no longer running around all red faced.

DD2 is 4 months and is wearing some 6-9 month clothes.

but only because she is wearing all DD1's hand me downs which have been washed so many times they've shrunk

Havana there is a big big difference between feeding your child too much healthy food and too much junk food. No one could accuse you of abusing your son. In the least patronising way possible, well done for sorting it out. So many people just ignore the fact that their child is overweight.

Thanks kooth, yes there is a big difference between feeding healthy foods and junk, but I think that can lull you in to a false sense of security, we thought hes eating health home cooked foods he will grow out of it, but it didnt happen. It can sometimes happen even when you feed them a good diet.

Funnily enough my friend has a dd the same age, they are 3.5 and 3.7. She was weaned on sausage, fish fingers, chips and wotsits but is a healthy weight. Youd think it was the other way round!

I still feel bad though, it was a shock when he grew out of his 0-4 carseat at 2.8 and we had to pay over £200 to buy a new one that was 5 point harnessed as most of them are only up to 18 kg!

Not neccissarily broken, my ds4 is always being called chunky, he does look a bit chunky but hes 18 months and nearly 13kg so nowhere near over weight. Lots of babies need clothes the next size up without it being a problem

And some babies are chubby little things until they become more mobile

Having had a baby who has big I would say that I'm not sure you can over feed a child under 12minths old. At that she they tend to self regulate anyway. I certainly wouldn't put that user child neglect.

However I can see why you would be concerned re the diet as it's not the most appropriate and yes as she is going into toddlerhood she will start to get fat/big.
What I had been advised by a paed is to have a diet as healthy as possible for dc and to use the pushchair as little as possible (and replace it with waking as much as possible).
The best thing you can do is to invite her for a meal and give her dc vegs etc BUT you need to be aware that even at that age her dc is likely to reject the 'healthy' food as she isn't use to it.
You can also talk to your friend about your attempts to healthy food for your own dcs if you have any, talk about how important you think it is but also how hard it has been sometimes. But that by persevering you did managed x and y.
Try and invite them to go the park/soft pant/garden do that her dd gets as much exercise as possible as so is as she starts walking. (Note it is also possible that her dd looks chubby because she isn't walking yet. It wouldn't be surprising if she is suddenly 'thinning' down as se starts walking and running around. Most toddlers do that anyway. )