AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

[mom1983]

Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

you sound like a good friend to me op. my children were all little. in fact 5yo dd is still wearing mainly age 3-4 clothes. and ds2, aged almost 7 still also wears a lot of age 3-4 years. i know they are healthy, but tiny. all kids are different but raising concerns isnt a bad thing.

Your not a shit friend at all.

If people calmed down for five seconds and quit the competitive big baby stories they'd see that actually there was a problem.

It does sound like there's a problem here :(

thank you both gileswithachainsaw and dancestomyowntune

I think I will do what was suggested, and invite them round more for dinner. I wont prep before they arrive and I will say to my friend come and help. Hopefully when she sees its easy to be healthy she may start making healthier choices.

ODFOD -my 19 month old is off the cebtiles for height and in 91st for weight. He's in age three clothes for length

DD is 6 months old and in 12 month old clothes for length and size 4 nappies. DS in 6+

Do you suggest that I put bricks on their heads or chop part of their legs off?

FYI - it's always the feet for them in babygros that are the limiting factor, then leg and arm length. They're not wearing much larger sizes due to being grossly overweight.

If the child is being over fed then it sounds like child cruelty to me. Over feeding should be treated as underfeeding would be - as negligence at best, abuse at worst. I agree with Gileswithachainsaw . . .

Jesus, you'll be ringing SS soon to report her!

You sound horrible the way you're coming across

Do you not think child cruelty should be reported ScousBird?

I asked earlier but fear my question may have gone unnoticed amongst people piling in and missing the point.

Is she developing normally? Is she cruising/crawling/sitting etc?

Are there any indications the diet is affecting her significantly (other than her size(

Does she appear to be happy, sleep ok? How are her energy levels? Does she suffer from what you suspect to be sugar crashed? Is she sick a lot.

Disclaimer: these things aren't exclusive to children with shit diets, however if she does appear to have problems like that then it could prove that the diet is shit a lot more frequently than the "snap shot" people are claiming you are seeing.

Just wanted to add another voice saying I agree with you OP... YANB completely U, even if people objected to your wording/tone, I do understand what you're getting at.

Overfeeding kids and giving them too much junk is plain wrong! I don't see why it's "judgey" to say so on a forum like this. I wonder if underfeeding would be approached in the same way...

I've got kids in my family who have been overfed since babies. Their parents seemed proud that they were big and strong. Now they have all sorts of health problems as well as unhealthy attitudes towards food.

I do like the above suggestion of simply setting a good example rather than being too direct and hurting your friends feelings. After all there isn't much else you can really do without offending her, and as others have pointed out, it's the job of the HV to point out these things if necessary.

my ds was a big baby (when he was born he was only on the 9th centile but by age one was on the 90th). I also weaned him early at 4 months but he was on the big side before that and thats part of the reason i weaned early (anyway don't really want to get into that). Anyway fast forward he is now 4.2 and stick thin. He has a pair of shorts that are 18-24 months he was wearing at 10 months and they still fit him now!!! (obviously alot shorter now but still fit round the waist). Alot of babies are on the big side and he doesn't necessarily mean they will develop into obese children

she was having a lot of spasms until recently, and that is being checked out under consultant care. I thought they would have mentioned it tbh, but didn't.

Shes sitting, and kind of crawls... its a struggle for her. Shes awake most of the day already her mother says she up at like 6am with one short nap after lunch and up until 8/9pm.

shes only just got one tooth, and friend says shes a poor sleeper. says she figits, turns and rolls and cries a lot. but if she waits 30 secs she drifts off again.

she seems happy yeah, but is very clingy to her mother. she even takes her to the toilet at mine, cause she cries when she leaves the room.

YANBU. Poor kid. It sounds as if he is fat because of a shite diet. Why do you thnk your friend is feeding them this stuff: ignorance? Laziness? Neglect?.

I would ring the Helath visitors and state your concerns, it might not do anything, but it might help.

I started off thinking you were judging unfairly but YANBU.
I over fed my DS from weaning until he was around 9/10 months old. I am and about it but I did.
He was a tiny baby feeling prem baby, looked like a scrawny puppy in all honesty and I was desperate to feed him up. I weaned early (4 months) and he hoovered up food, so so I thought I was doing a good job. Especially when comments were made about him being a big lad. It was my Mum and MIL who made me see sense and I calmed it down rapidly as he became more mobile.
It's not something that was done out of cruelty, more like fear and ignorance. Your friend needs support and guidance which I hope you will be able to give. You sound like a good friend, hopefully she'll take notice.

There are any number of explanations for all of those really.

It's possible her size is making it hard fir her to crawl and the restlessness at night could be her feeling very uncomfortable.

I know I feel crap going to bed on fatty/heavy food.

Whatever the reasons behind any of it though,that kind of rubbish won't help her :(

And are peiple

Peo

Ffs

I should add he's 13 now, taller than me and a good healthy weight. Still hoovers up the food but at least it's mainly healthy stuff!

I don't think it is neglect... she's always dressed well... although never has a cardigan, jumper or anything on her feet when its cool... but that's another story I guess.

She's obviously loved, her mother is affectionate towards her and baby is happy around her, and wants to be near her.

I think it is laziness and ignorance. Her family have been wide since I can remember, she's been brought up this way. They are very old fashioned in their ways I guess too, if that makes a difference.

I had PND and my friend really helped me. I don't want to upset her, but I feel like I am lying to her and myself by seemingly being ok with this.

Sorry phone went nuts then.

Are people forgetting about the baby that died having been fed on ready meals and food too high in salt.

It matters, it really does

Do they do cooking classes in your area? Could you invite her to join up with you?

Scousebird - seriously? You feel it is ok to abuse a child by overfeeding? Well shame on you.

I knew of a mother and baby a bit like this. Baby now a toddler and huge.
If you know her well enough, why not start going to a couple of things together, at a children's centre or something? Or offer to do a picnic for you all?

The salt levels would be worrying me about all the eating out and fast food, more so than the fat levels.

Tbh I don't know what you can do if it's an ingrained family issue. Your idea of cooking together sounds like it's worth a try if she really has no cooking skills at all.