AIBU to think a just 10 month old child shouldnt be in size 18-24 month clothes?

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Just that really..

My friend has a daughter who is a little over 10 months old and she says she is in size 5 nappies and size 12-18 month clothes, but is wearing some 18-24 month stuff already!!!

I know all kids are different etc... but isn't that abit big?

She is a big girl, was weaned early (3-4 months) - my friend was keen to get her on solids.

I was like (_) when she told me... aibu?

Meant to ask op

Can he sit/crawl/ weightbear?

Is his size affecting his developement?

My nephew was huge at that age. He's a skinny 2 year old now. Most babies get quite chubby in between weaning / walking as the're eating lots of extra calories but not mobile enough to burn them off.

Wow. Some friend you are. Who needs enemies eh?

I think you need to butt out. You are basing your judgement on a snack box not her weekly diet. My dd is 11.5 months and only in 3-6 and the odd 6-9 months clothes - according to your posts iI must be starving her. She has a very healthy diet, regularly eats bread, pasta, potatoes and god forbid the odd deep fried fish finger at McDonald's if we go with her older siblings.

She will be seeing a hv for the 1 year review shortly if not already and they will be monitoring. People like you had me beside myself with worry when she was 4 weeks old as she put on over 2lb from birth and my hv told me I was overfeeding and needed to out dd on a diet. Again it was bs as the doctor was perfectly happy with my feeding and dd's progress.

I would mind your own business

YABU. Children come in different sizes. My son was in 12-18 month trousers until he was three. He never outgrew size 3 nappies. My daughter is 4 and wears age 7-8 clothes. They were both breastfed and are fed exactly the same.

Both my boys were chubby babies - my youngest was so fat he could barely bend in two to sit up; they were both early to crawl and stand though, and by 9 months they were both walking unaided.

They lost their baby chub extremely quickly from there and have been normal since - my little fat youngest boy is actually an extremely lean 9 yr old now, no spare fat and very strong & sporty.

YABU to couch it all the way you have - early weaning does not = fat child/adult (whether you agree with early weaning or not); a fat baby is not something that I would overly worry about if they are not mobile - an obviously overweight toddler who is fully mobile with no health concerns or additional needs is different, but a chubby baby is fine imo.

YANBU however, to be concerned that the baby will go the same way as its unhealthy, overweight family in the future.

Oh, and the word fat is fine - so long as you don't use it with contempt.

I LOVE a chubby baby.

Both mine were and they grow out of it once they start crawling and walking.

In fact dd1 was known resembled a Budda, she's 5'8" now and weights 8 1/2 stone.

Mine at birth were in 0-3 months for a couple weeks then up to 3-6 months but of course, for your benefit OP I will put them all back in the clothes that are labelled in their ages just for you. It depends on the genes, I'm almost 5ft7 and DH is 6ft6 so no baby of ours was ever going to fit the stated size, DHs youngest brother is 15, 6ft2 with size 12 feet.

Hmmmmm Yabu generalising. Maybe this mum is over feeding but my ds was born 9lb 6oz, he was exclusively breast fed until 6 months (when he was 22lb) he's a big lad very tall and completely in proportion, 98th centile all round. He's the same size as his sister who is 15 months older, they have the same size feet and the younger one actually has a bigger head circumference, they have been treated the same, they are just very different builds but both perfectly healthy. He's always worn clothes bigger than his age and I'd hate someone judging my parenting based on his size.

DS was in 18-24 months at 10 months. He's 2 this month, and still in 18-24 months now. At 10 months he wasn't even crawling, had a huge appetite (BLW at 6 months, not that I think it makes any difference) and was a proper chubster. These days, he runs everywhere, won't sit down long enough to finish a sandwich, and is still broad shouldered and tall for his age but so slim you can count every rib. YABU.

Depends why they are in size 5 , it wont do up over a large belly.
My dd was in size 5 really early more due do size of poops.
It does sound awful food choices.
Clothes sizes are a bit over the place.
DD was tall until 1 then grew at 50 centile.
What i dont understand is why if friend cant be bothered with food she bothered to wean early. While they cant eat much its less hassle just giving milk.
I dont think it would equal fat baby because if you weaned on carrots i think theres less calories than in the milk.

The fatest baby i have seen (very thin mum) was breastfed, he was like a sumo wrestler and has slimmed down a lot when he started walking

OP - agree with letsface... lead by example (inviting them to tea is a good idea). Appreciate it's a difficult one though - especially as it seems entrenched within the wider family. I suppose it all depends on how good your friendship is at the end of the day - does she have issues with her own weight? If she does and mentions it to you - that might be a time to discuss her DD's weight... i.e. it could be part of a bigger discussion and therefore won't seem like you're judging her on what she feeds the baby. Just an idea.

I think they do make clothes a bit small. My 25th centile baby is in a size up.

Also I like the clothes with a bit of room so not too tight on the child esp in hot weather.

It doesn't matter if my own DD was over 10lb at birth and wore 6mths clothes as a newborn. That's not the point is it?

The point is your friend is fat because she eats rubbish and now her child is becoming fat because she's feeding it rubbish.

Flame away if you want but imo that's shit parenting.

I'm afraid I'm not sure what you can do though OP.

Your original post was very unreasonable. It made out like it was wrong for children to need big clothes through a naturally big/tall build. My son is a beanpole and from 3-12 months was always in clothes 2 sizes bigger than his age should have been in. We however had to add elastic to all of his trousers as he has a dinky waist and very slim build, hes just ridiculously tall (off the chart for height, but between 75th-91st for weight). Thankfully at 1 his growth slowed a little and he stayed in his 18-24month clothes until a few months before he was two. However at 2.25 hes now had another growth spurt and his 2-3yr trousers are over 2" too short but they are still big in the waist. Im hoping that he can survive in shorts for at least another month and his waist get a little bigger so that we can make the waist on 3-4yr old trousers small enough.

If you think your friends child is seriously overweight and fed wrong then this thread really needed a different title.

DD was in 18-24 month trousers at 9 months. She was still wearing one pair of those trousers when she was three and a half (although they were a teeny bit short). She was exclusively breastfed for 6 months, and didn't really eat any significant amount of solids for her first 9 months. She is now a tall, slim and very sporty 7 year old.

My DS was 23" long at birth (and he was an early arrival!!). He went almost immediately into 6 month clothing. By the time he was a year old, he was in 24 month clothing for length alone, but the waists were huge.

He is 16 now and almost 6'3. He has always been long and gangly - it is just his body type.

I would not have wanted to have been judged because he had the audacity not to match his age and size. I didn't realise that there was a rule about that.

My daughter was so fat she didn't crawl until she was 1. she didn't roll until 10 months. She was breastfed and went onto solids at 7 months. She was off the scale fat.

Hmmm... I wonder if I was an even more shit parent because my DD didn't even fit into newborn clothes until she was almost 6 months old and finally hit 8 1/2 lbs.

I should have put her in bigger clothes, shouldn't I?

I shall have to add that to the MN parenting rule book I am writing...

Yabu, obviously. Dd was exclusively bf till 6 months, blw from then alongside bf till 2.7.
She was 10lb5 at birth (I am 5ft4, 9stone). Dd was in 6mo clothes aged 8 weeks, 18-24 clothes around 10months. She stopped gaining at such a ridiculous rate around 18mo when she became really active. She's 3 now and on the petite side for her age. What should I have done to ensure she fit your expectations? Rationed my breastmilk? Bloody ridiculous. I hope your "friend" has some other, genuine friends, you sound unpleasant

You sound a lovely supportive, non judgemental friend .... I think we are all bu for not appreciating your heartfelt concern for your dear friend

Jesus... point has been totally missed with most of you.

IT WASNT ABOUT THE CLOTHING SIZES

IT WAS ABOUT THE FACT THE CHILD IS FAT AND I WAS OVER USING TACT BY NOT WANTING TO USE THE WORD FAT

The food choices are wrong, the child is obese, the child had mcdonalds at 6 months old, her mother who is my friend is also obese and she knows and accepts that.. she's happy to be curvy though, and happy she's not as fat as her sister or mother. - her words not mine.

I think you are all being too precious and have jumped to the end of the post without reading my other posts that followed the first.

Baby eats out a lot as mum can't cook. They take her for "family meals" - which to me translates as cba meals - 3/4 times a week. All you can eat Chinese, all you can eat roast dinners and the hungry horse a lot. Its always about food on facebook.
I would say they are addicted to the fats, sugars etc....

this isn't healthy. YES ALL CHILDREN ARE DIFFERENT - But they are more different when fed utter crap and fat.

and you might all think I am a crap friend - but I don't care. The poor baby needs someone to think these things for it, because right now - no one else is. I'd rather be a shitty friend and think these things before the poor child dies of a heart attack aged 5.