to feel sad at not having own children?

[Nobabynobotherbut]

The worst thing is, I am an only child so I don't even have nieces or nephews to buy things for and spoil a bit!

Obviously I'm not BU to feel like this but it is sad.

If by 'sock puppets', toottoot, you mean posters who share the OP's 'frustrating and bizarre' take on her situation, I can assure you I for one am a real person. And I don't think what she's saying is so odd either: what I read, between the lines, was a late-night urge to work through a decision not to have children in a climate in which women who don't want kids quite enough to jump alone through the punishing hoops of IVF, adoption, fostering or single parenthood are sometimes judged as being somehow lacking as a woman.

She was asking if she was U to feel sad; I don't think so. Coming to terms with a situation that you don't like but aren't going to change, and accepting the sadness attached to it, is a natural rite of adulthood, whether it's not having kids, or not being a pro surfer or whatever. Talking it through with other women is not such a weird thing to do at all - and I think the majority of posters have answered the OP kindly and honestly. Although maybe posting in Chat, where there isn't such a mentality might have garnered some different answers...

OP started the thread as Nobabynobotherbut, then changed to nobabynobotherbut, then to nobsbynobotherbut, then back to nobabynobotherbut.

My colour coding is NOT coping

That really hurt my eyes!

It's all gone a bit quiet, hasn't it?

"Toot what are you trying to say, that no childless single woman is allowed to feel a pang if sadness if they won't foster, have AI?"

No. I didn't say that. If you read my posts I said that if ones choices make one sad, then make another. You keep mentioning AI, incidentally. Not me.

Oh behave.

What?

Your post was highly disingenuous, any better?

No it wasn't. You just don't seem to read properly.

Well I could provide you with plenty of quotes from your posts if I could actually be bothered to look through them all again. If that's ALL you meant then you have a real problem communicating through the written word, don't you?

Please, be bothered. Go nuts!

Oops.

Fuck no. Annoying enough the first time.

Sorry tethers you seem to be in a barney sandwich here.

Yes she can have sympathy but i dont see theres any need for any at this stage as its still possible to have kids! Op you'll find a man . Try to be more open minded / positive