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to feel sad at not having own children?

166 replies

Nobabynobotherbut · 21/07/2014 23:03

The worst thing is, I am an only child so I don't even have nieces or nephews to buy things for and spoil a bit!

Obviously I'm not BU to feel like this but it is sad.

OP posts:
Beautifulmonster · 23/07/2014 09:48

Lightshines, how on earth can you casually say, 'life is good!' to someone who has come on here to express their sadness?

ThatWasNice · 23/07/2014 09:49

Lightshines. You failed miserably if indeed, you were wanting not to sound unkind Hmm In fact, you sound quite unpleasant.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime · 23/07/2014 11:15

I have several friends in the OPs situation. very able women who haven't found a partner who have now filled their lives with too much to choose to try for a baby on their own.

I think they don't want the emotional risk of failing. and their lives are very good as they are. I know they sometime regret not having children but they lead very fulfilled lives otherwise.

it is a loss to humanity that talented women can IME find it harder than less talented women to find a man who wants them.

HaroldLloyd · 23/07/2014 11:31

I don't think she sounded negative at all, until a free posters went on and on and on about options she explained were not for her and took some sort of odd affront when she said so.

You can have a lovely positive and full life, as well as sadnesses for a few things you wished had happened, might be anything.

ColdCottage · 23/07/2014 11:59

Nobaby... Was that last post you as there was a typo in your name? Is someone trying to masquerade as you or do you have another name you are switching between?

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 15:59

I suspect some odd sock puppetry on this thread...

fluffyraggies · 23/07/2014 17:05

The OPs posts havn't been by the original user name since the one on Tue 22, 11:29:01.

Odd.

maggiethemagpie · 23/07/2014 17:07

Actually having just read the thread from the lady who is pregnant by accident by her ex partner and also has two other children, who can't find work and is about to be made homeless I can now have a bit more sympathy for the OP saying she couldn't go the AI route as she would have to give up work.

This poor lady is heavily pregnant and about to have no roof over her head. OK so she didn't intend to be pregnant and had a partner who's now split up with her - but I can see how someone going the AI route who had to give up work - perhaps even earlier than anticipated if they had a difficult pregnancy - may find themselves not too far away from that situation. Especially if no family to help out.

FidelineAndBombazine · 23/07/2014 17:11

I suspect some odd sock puppetry on this thread...

On which side? Confused

Nobaby... Was that last post you as there was a typo in your name? Is someone trying to masquerade as you or do you have another name you are switching between?

I think it's just a typo when switching. Doesn't sound iffy.

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 17:41

Why would you switch back and to? Hmm

FidelineAndBombazine · 23/07/2014 17:43

Because she is posting on other threads, as normal, under her usual name presumably.

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nobabynobotherbut · 23/07/2014 17:51

She is Wink

To be honest I didn't expect this thread to last as it was more a moment of sadness, regret on (Monday?) night. I name change a lot anyway to be honest - not sure why this means I'm to be accused of sick puppetry!

OP posts:
FidelineAndBombazine · 23/07/2014 18:00

sick puppetry

Oh I'm pinching that Smile

Sorry for talking about you behind your back OP. Awful manners!

Nerf · 23/07/2014 18:01

These threads are always so horrible for the op.
Loads of posters come in twittering about adoption and fostering as if it's just like baby shopping. It isn't, it's hard, it opens your entire life up to scrutiny and I am sick of reading people being offended that their bright idea has been rejected.
Ditto going it alone - lovely of people to gracefully offer tax payers money for the op to have a baby.
Why can't the op just have some commiserations and acceptance that sometimes life is a bit crap.

HaroldLloyd · 23/07/2014 18:22

Toot your really amusing me now. No, just that many of us thought you were totally out of order! No sick puppets required.

ThatWasNice · 23/07/2014 18:43

Wow, Toot. I can't believe you are still trying to get at the OP. The sock puppetry accusation is pathetic and nasty.

I'm surprised to see you come back to the thread Hmm

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 18:52

Oh come off it. And clearly there wasn't just me that thought it was all just a bit odd.

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 18:53

As for "get at her", no you're miles off. I just find her posts frustrating and bizarre. And?

FidelineAndBombazine · 23/07/2014 18:54

It is just you that has haunted the thread like a gigantic pain in the rear end from start to finish though. Real emotional vampire aren;t you?

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 18:54

In your opinion, apparently. And?

FidelineAndBombazine · 23/07/2014 18:54

I just find her posts frustrating and bizarre.

Says more about you than the OP IMHO.

Toottootoffwego · 23/07/2014 18:55

Yes probably. So? Erm, your point is?

ThatWasNice · 23/07/2014 19:08

Toot. The OP told you that your posts are upsetting her and that she would rather you didn't post but you have continued to post nasty comments about her. Confused I presume you get something out of it. Your behaviour is truely bizarre.

You sound like an angry petulant teen.

HaroldLloyd · 23/07/2014 19:10

Toot what are you trying to say, that no childless single woman is allowed to feel a pang if sadness if they won't foster, have AI?

That's just ludicrous. Look at your posts. They are fucking bizarre.

I thought I was in an alternate reality last night, seriously.

tethersend · 23/07/2014 19:14

This thread is very hard to follow, what with the OP name changing twice Confused

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