to feel sad at not having own children?

[Nobabynobotherbut]

The worst thing is, I am an only child so I don't even have nieces or nephews to buy things for and spoil a bit!

Obviously I'm not BU to feel like this but it is sad.

[Bedtime1]

Yes she can have sympathy but i dont see theres any need for any at this stage as its still possible to have kids! Op you'll find a man . Try to be more open minded / positive

[HaroldLloyd]

Sorry tethers you seem to be in a barney sandwich here.

[HaroldLloyd]

Fuck no. Annoying enough the first time.

[tethersend]

Oops.

[Toottootoffwego]

Please, be bothered. Go nuts!

[HaroldLloyd]

Well I could provide you with plenty of quotes from your posts if I could actually be bothered to look through them all again. If that's ALL you meant then you have a real problem communicating through the written word, don't you?

[Toottootoffwego]

No it wasn't. You just don't seem to read properly.

[HaroldLloyd]

Your post was highly disingenuous, any better?

[Toottootoffwego]

What?

[HaroldLloyd]

Oh behave.

[Toottootoffwego]

"Toot what are you trying to say, that no childless single woman is allowed to feel a pang if sadness if they won't foster, have AI?"

No. I didn't say that. If you read my posts I said that if ones choices make one sad, then make another. You keep mentioning AI, incidentally. Not me.

[tethersend]

It's all gone a bit quiet, hasn't it?

[HaroldLloyd]

That really hurt my eyes!

[tethersend]

OP started the thread as Nobabynobotherbut, then changed to nobabynobotherbut, then to nobsbynobotherbut, then back to nobabynobotherbut.

My colour coding is NOT coping

[calonwyn]

If by 'sock puppets', toottoot, you mean posters who share the OP's 'frustrating and bizarre' take on her situation, I can assure you I for one am a real person. And I don't think what she's saying is so odd either: what I read, between the lines, was a late-night urge to work through a decision not to have children in a climate in which women who don't want kids quite enough to jump alone through the punishing hoops of IVF, adoption, fostering or single parenthood are sometimes judged as being somehow lacking as a woman.

She was asking if she was U to feel sad; I don't think so. Coming to terms with a situation that you don't like but aren't going to change, and accepting the sadness attached to it, is a natural rite of adulthood, whether it's not having kids, or not being a pro surfer or whatever. Talking it through with other women is not such a weird thing to do at all - and I think the majority of posters have answered the OP kindly and honestly. Although maybe posting in Chat, where there isn't such a mentality might have garnered some different answers...

[tethersend]

This thread is very hard to follow, what with the OP name changing twice

[HaroldLloyd]

Toot what are you trying to say, that no childless single woman is allowed to feel a pang if sadness if they won't foster, have AI?

That's just ludicrous. Look at your posts. They are fucking bizarre.

I thought I was in an alternate reality last night, seriously.

[ThatWasNice]

Toot. The OP told you that your posts are upsetting her and that she would rather you didn't post but you have continued to post nasty comments about her. I presume you get something out of it. Your behaviour is truely bizarre.

You sound like an angry petulant teen.

[Toottootoffwego]

Yes probably. So? Erm, your point is?

[FidelineAndBombazine]

I just find her posts frustrating and bizarre.

Says more about you than the OP IMHO.

[Toottootoffwego]

In your opinion, apparently. And?

[FidelineAndBombazine]

It is just you that has haunted the thread like a gigantic pain in the rear end from start to finish though. Real emotional vampire aren;t you?

[Toottootoffwego]

As for "get at her", no you're miles off. I just find her posts frustrating and bizarre. And?

[Toottootoffwego]

Oh come off it. And clearly there wasn't just me that thought it was all just a bit odd.