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AIBU?

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Original poster

to take child home early?

297 replies

Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:25

Today is hot, my 5 year old had an all day trip to the local park and I also went along to help.

4 hours in, after lunch I had to leave and my dc wanted to come with me as dc was very hot (covered in sweat) I asked the teacher and she was very rude to me and not happy that we were leaving early and made this very clear infront of my dc.

I had to leave and took my dc with me as dc would have become upset as she was so hot a bothered.

AIBU to have taken her home with me?

OP posts:
hels71 · 21/07/2014 18:27

Were you there as an official helper? Did the teacher know you were leaving early?

gordyslovesheep · 21/07/2014 18:28

did they know you where leaving after 4 hours? Maybe you fucked up their ratios

also is this school? if so then you can't really whip them out when you feel like it

Maybe don't go on any more trips

londonrach · 21/07/2014 18:28

If you leaving early where you effecting their ratios..

QuipFree · 21/07/2014 18:29

In any normal world, no, YANBU.

But here in School Conformity UK, everyone will soon be along to say you should have sponged her down and left her in school, and how you will have upset all the other children who couldn't leave, and the teacher will have had to explain that, and you'll never be allowed to accompany a school trip again, and her education will be compromised, and you will be marked as an unauthorised absence. Expect a call from the head.

Good luck, OP.

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:30

It was a casual thing to join the children as a treat for the end of the year. They had plenty of staff.

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Mumof3xox · 21/07/2014 18:30

If it's actual school you can't just take your dc home because they are hot....

SantanaLopez · 21/07/2014 18:31

I think you're a bit off, tbh. If you were there to help, you don't decide what time you want to finish at.

pissedglitter · 21/07/2014 18:34

Yes you where unreasonable and I think you know that

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:35

QuipFree yes this will no doubt be the case!

Did the teacher really have to be so rude though?

At only 5 I think it's my call if I feel my child is too hot and had enough of a long day in the heat.

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vestandknickers · 21/07/2014 18:36

Treat or not, it was still part of the school day. You are not teaching your DC a good lesson by showing her you can just slope off whenever you feel like it. I expect all the children were hot - it is summer!

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:37

No I don't think I am being unreasonable dc is only 5.

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gordyslovesheep · 21/07/2014 18:37

well if you don't think YABU why ask Hmm

Alisvolatpropiis · 21/07/2014 18:38

I think yabu - she wasn't ill and it was a school day.

I imagine they won't accept your offer to help out in future.

Nanny0gg · 21/07/2014 18:38

PFB!

You actually shouldn't have done that and I'm not surprised the teacher was cross.

I can see you being crossed off the Mum Helper list.

Lottiedoubtie · 21/07/2014 18:38

But surely all the other DC who were there were also 5?

NynaevesSister · 21/07/2014 18:40

You needed to have made it clearer in the OP that you were not there as a parent helper on a school trip. But that it was all day at the park and parents were invited along. So you weren't there to help at all.

In which case YANBU and the teacher should not have been rude to you. Although if you didn't make it clear to the teacher you had to go early then I can understand why she was curt with you. You're not supposed to go home early from school regardless. But this was a day at the park not in a classroom.

WorraLiberty · 21/07/2014 18:41

No it isn't your call OP

If your child had been there without you, she would have had to carry on just like the rest of the kids.

Sirzy · 21/07/2014 18:41

although you are obviously not going to admit it YABU.

cardibach · 21/07/2014 18:42

How rude was she exactly? You have said she 'was very rude' and asked if she had to be 'so rude' but haven't told us what she said or described the tone. Hard to judge, really. If it was an actual day of term, then taking the child our unless she was actually ill is a bit off. If you were counted on for ratios it could also have presented a problem - they need more adults outside the school environment.

Viviennemary · 21/07/2014 18:42

I don't think it was very sensible of the school to arrange a day trip in this extremely hot weather. You did what you thought was best for your DD. But I can see why the school was annoyed.

WorraLiberty · 21/07/2014 18:42

Also, you haven't said how the teacher was rude?

What did they say?

QuipFree · 21/07/2014 18:43

OP, the teacher had to be so rude so that you would learn your lesson: that child no longer belongs to you once she is in school. Once you have agreed to have her educated in a school, you are bound by their rules and regulations. No questioning or colouring outside the lines is allowed. The teacher needs to stamp out this sort of behaviour, wherein you still believe that you are in a position to do what you think best for your child. The teacher knew best. Who the fuck are you, after all? :)

If you don't like that, someone else will be along to tell you to homeschool if you're such a crazy nonconformist.

Duck, OP. Incoming.

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:43

Pfb- no dc is my 4th!

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vestandknickers · 21/07/2014 18:45

Wow Quipfree.

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 21/07/2014 18:47

Quip, I am sensing you have your own antischool agenda here!! Hmm