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AIBU?

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Original poster

to take child home early?

297 replies

Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:25

Today is hot, my 5 year old had an all day trip to the local park and I also went along to help.

4 hours in, after lunch I had to leave and my dc wanted to come with me as dc was very hot (covered in sweat) I asked the teacher and she was very rude to me and not happy that we were leaving early and made this very clear infront of my dc.

I had to leave and took my dc with me as dc would have become upset as she was so hot a bothered.

AIBU to have taken her home with me?

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Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 19:04

No she wasn't having fun, she was crying and fed up. Should I early have left her? Don't see the big deal to be honest.

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littlejohnnydory · 21/07/2014 19:07

Exactly what Quipfree said - but then, I did Home Educate until very recently!

Sirzy · 21/07/2014 19:07

You should have either jollied her up, encouraged her to join and and then back off so she could have fun with her friends or handed her over to the teacher so she could.

This to me is why so many schools aren't keen on parents helping on trips!

adsy · 21/07/2014 19:07

Yes, you really should have left her

WorraLiberty · 21/07/2014 19:10

Of course you should have left her

I'm sure 5 minutes after you'd gone, she would have been having fun with everyone else.

Alisvolatpropiis · 21/07/2014 19:12

If you don't see what the big deal is, why post this thread?

Notso · 21/07/2014 19:12

...don't want to be outed.
I don't think there are going to be many mumsnetters who have had this experience today, so chances are if the teacher or anyone else who heard is reading this they will guess it is you Hmm

MrsWinnibago · 21/07/2014 19:14

Oooh. SO irritating. OP...did the teacher know you were only staying 4 hours or had you signed up thinking "What fun!" then found it was awful and decided to bugger off and left them in the lurch.

sanfairyanne · 21/07/2014 19:14

did you ask the teacher and she said no? then you went ahead anyway? would you turn up at school 2 hours early because your dd gets hot in summer at school? would the school let you take her out of class 2 hours early?

overall, yabu, and only got away witb it because in a park you were able to take your daughter directly. doubt the school secretary would have let you past unless you had good reason

QuipFree · 21/07/2014 19:19

Well, that's all my points subsequently made by other posters. I don't want to derail the thread anymore with my churlishness, but just for the record:

1 I am a primary school teacher.
2 I do not home educate, and one of my DC even got an award just for showing up every day and having the good fortune not to be ill! (I am so proud that my brilliant DC showed up that kid with cystic fibrosis.)
3 I do love this nest of bullies and vipers. (Not that I've noticed any bullying or viperish behaviour here.)

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 19:19

It was too hot, dc was upset hot and bothered. At only 5 I don't think she should of had to suffer it out when I had the option to make it better for her.

Yes in my opinion the teacher was rude, I don't have to explain myself further.

I think a full day out in the heat is too much at this age.

Just because I feel I am not being unreasonable doesn't mean I'm not interested in others point of view.

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NickiFury · 21/07/2014 19:21

I agree with you OP. I do HE one of my dc by the way.

CateBlanket · 21/07/2014 19:22

Quip Free - thank you for speaking some frickin common sense on this thread Grin
OP - YANBU

It's too hot for the kids to be in school - they should have broken up a month ago!

HoneyDragon · 21/07/2014 19:26

You saying your interested yet you are posting dismissively.

Perhaps there is a similar lack of communication between you and the teacher?

TidyDancer · 21/07/2014 19:26

Yes YABU and I'm surprised you felt the need to ask. Don't worry though, they won't request your help again so you won't have to worry about being put in that position in the future.

cardibach · 21/07/2014 19:26

Any chance you could answer my questions OP?
-how rude was she (general terms if you like, though as others have pointed out you have given more than enough information to identify yourself already)
-why did you have to leave?
-was it OK for your DC to go to your important appointment with you? (Presume it was something important that couldn't be put off or you wouldn't have risked jeopardising the trip or upsetting your DC would you?)

slithytove · 21/07/2014 19:28

Bore off.

Were you there as a helper?

Was it prearranged you were leaving after 4 hours?

LucilleBluth · 21/07/2014 19:31

YANBU......I would have done it too, I fact I have had a similar reaction when I took my DC home myself rather than put him on the bus back to school to then collect him after a trip.

YouGeorgeBernardMate · 21/07/2014 19:32

Yes, you should have left her.

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 19:35

Yanbu

I've had heat stroke as has dd2

It's horrible and if a teacher had left your child blue and shivering and freezing cold everyone would agree with you.

This is no different. People react to the heat in different ways some worse than others.

Maybe she would hae been fine after a glass or two of water, or maybe she would hae started vomiting or fainted.

Either way op was looking after her child. Go torture your own outside fir hours if you think heats not a problem.

YouGeorgeBernardMate · 21/07/2014 19:36

"I think a full day out in the heat is too much at this age."

Yet this is your 4th child? Shock You have to scuttle your child home because it's a bit hot and a full day out is "too much at this age"?!

What do you do with them in summer at this age if not sometimes take them out for a whole day? Keep them in a darkened basement for half the day?

Confused shakes head

adsy · 21/07/2014 19:39

Giles the appropriate action would have been to give the child water and sat in the shade with them.
Not take them home.
If they had fainted or vomited that would be a different story, b ut they didn't.
As for torture, get a grip and stop being so melaodramatic

WorraLiberty · 21/07/2014 19:40

She probably gets hot in all that cotton wool you're wrapping her up in

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 19:43

Is the advice not to be out in the midday heat?

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Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 19:43

I think your all making light of a potentially serious problem.

Some people really don't cope with heat well. If mine get to the really really sweaty and tearful stage then a glass of water in the shade won't cut it.