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AIBU?

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Original poster

to take child home early?

297 replies

Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:25

Today is hot, my 5 year old had an all day trip to the local park and I also went along to help.

4 hours in, after lunch I had to leave and my dc wanted to come with me as dc was very hot (covered in sweat) I asked the teacher and she was very rude to me and not happy that we were leaving early and made this very clear infront of my dc.

I had to leave and took my dc with me as dc would have become upset as she was so hot a bothered.

AIBU to have taken her home with me?

OP posts:
Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 20:15

And of course anyone with half a brain would hand then a drink and sit them in the shade.

op knows her child and realised she was past that point!!!

Downamongtherednecks · 21/07/2014 20:26

OP she is your child, and if you felt that she should come home, then that is your decision to make. You only have to make the right decision for YOUR child, not anyone else's. It is irrelevant if the teacher disapproves -- your primary concern is your child's wellbeing. Of course you know your child better than the teacher does!

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 20:26

At the end of the day she is my child not the schools at only 5 I think I made the right choice.

The teacher made sarcastic comments and looked away when I said goodbye she was obviously pissed off. I think she could have said goodbye to dc instead of making it so obvious she was annoyed.

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Deverethemuzzler · 21/07/2014 20:30

To be fair on the OP, it has been VERY hot recently.
They have been giving out warnings.

One bit of snow and everything is cancelled but 30 degree heat (and a clueless population) and schools still take kids out in the mid day/afternoon heat.

We do need to be a bit more clued up if this sort of weather is going to be more common.

randomAXEofkindness · 21/07/2014 20:33

YANBU for looking after your child's basic needs. YWBU if you thought that you'd get much sense out of AIBU on an issue as sensitive as providing parental care during school hours.

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 21/07/2014 20:34

There have been no weather warnings issued for this week.

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 20:37

And???

Is there a MN approved temperature and humidity rating that has to be reached before parents like op are considered to be Reasonable?

Or can we accept that some kids literally melt way before others?

Deverethemuzzler · 21/07/2014 20:47

No need to be pedantic where
Just because WHO hasn't put out an amber alert it doesn't mean that there have been no warnings about being careful in the heat.

Weather presenters have been warning people to take care in the heat. It has been very hot in London.

I don't know where the OP is but I expect it was pretty hot where she was or she wouldn't have taken the decision.

Small children should not be out in the sun between 1-3 ish. It is widely given advice.

ladygracie · 21/07/2014 20:47

Maybe she didn't say goodbye as she didn't want to draw the other children's attention to the fact that you were leaving. She will probably have had to deal with other children asking why they couldn't go home which is not fun.
If she was unwell becuase of the heat then of course it was absolutely right to take her home.

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 21/07/2014 20:50

sorry. Didn't mean to cause a tizzy.

I accept that it's very hot. I hate very hot.

But actually, Dev said they had given out warnings. And, actually this week, they haven't.

Just pointing it out. And, as you rightly say, none of us actually know where op is...

It's better to stick to facts rather than embellishing

CateBlanket · 21/07/2014 20:50

"Cate, what do you think kids do in hotter countries?"

I assume they are used to hot weather and their teachers/parents take appropriate precautions.

DD's classroom is a steaming hot prefab. They don't break up for another 3 days so I've made sure she's had ... erm... optician/orthodontist/doctor's appointments during the afternoon last week so I can spring her from her sweltering classroom

Like I said, English schools should break up in June.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 21/07/2014 21:03

YANBU.
"patent takes own small child home after day at the park"

Sorry, just not seeing ths as a newsworthy headline.

Deverethemuzzler · 21/07/2014 21:05

What do they do in hot countries?

Poor children who are expected to work/live in the heat with no shelter, die.
Better off children tend not to be taken out in the hottest part of the day.

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 21:05

Well this is MN :o

You know how big they are in having their kids suffer through absolutely anything "for the greater good" Confused

It can never be about one child

Deverethemuzzler · 21/07/2014 21:07

hot weather advice

this was for Friday. Its only Monday.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 21/07/2014 21:07

patent
Doh. "parent" Grin

Mintyy · 21/07/2014 21:10

"No I don't think I am being unreasonable dc is only 5."

Well stop wasting everybody's time then.

Mintyy · 21/07/2014 21:12

"At the end of the day she is my child not the schools at only 5 I think I made the right choice."

So - why did you ask?

Original poster
Boreoff · 21/07/2014 21:16

Why did I ask? Interested in other views and after considering them feel I am not being unreasonable.

If you feel I am wasting your time don't respond!

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brdgrl · 21/07/2014 21:17

YANBU.
At only 5 I think it's my call if I feel my child is too hot and had enough of a long day in the heat.
You are absolutely right. I wouldn't have to think twice about it, frankly.

pinkerson · 21/07/2014 21:18

stop wasting everyone's time then

Hilarious! We are all wasting our time on here...

theQuibbler · 21/07/2014 21:19

YANBU. Of course you take your small, frazzled, overly hot child home. What's the good in leaving her there to suffer in the heat? She's 5, for goodness sake. I don't understand how or why one would cheerfully walk away. Confused

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 21/07/2014 21:20

Ok, Dev, ok. On Friday there was an amber alert for heavy rain too but I don't think teachers need to worry, do you??

However, teachers at my kids school do understand about hot days in this country on days where there isn't a heat warning. Perhaps that is different in op's school

SuburbanRhonda · 21/07/2014 21:22

Or since you are wasting everyone's time, don't start the thread!

CheckpointCharlie · 21/07/2014 21:23

What time did you take her home?

I think YABVU to just take her from a school organised event on a school day. You wouldn't be able to zip into school and take her home if she was hot would you?

What if everyone did that? No one who has agreed with you has considered the bigger picture here, or the precedent it will set if it is ok for you to do this.
Parent helpers removing their own child from an event is not on. Yes in your situation you said it didn't affect ratios, but if you are arguing that is is ok to do so, why shouldn't every parent helper take their child how when they feel like it? And that would cock up the ratios.

Like jennifer I also expect you will get an unauthorised absence and deservedly so. The teacher will have been gobsmacked that you wanted to take your dd home tbh, no it doesn't excuse rudeness but I would be very surprised if a parent asked me that if they had volunteered on a trip and I would have probably said something that you would perceive as rude as well.

Of course she is your dd and you are in charge etc etc but she was at school!!!!!