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AIBU?

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to take child home early?

297 replies

Boreoff · 21/07/2014 18:25

Today is hot, my 5 year old had an all day trip to the local park and I also went along to help.

4 hours in, after lunch I had to leave and my dc wanted to come with me as dc was very hot (covered in sweat) I asked the teacher and she was very rude to me and not happy that we were leaving early and made this very clear infront of my dc.

I had to leave and took my dc with me as dc would have become upset as she was so hot a bothered.

AIBU to have taken her home with me?

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HermioneWeasley · 21/07/2014 19:43

Cate, what do you think kids do in hotter countries? It's ridiculous - it's been reliably warm for a few days and you'd think it was bloody Africa

adsy · 21/07/2014 19:45

Boreoff why didn't you cool her down in the shade / give water?
Where did you have to go to?

merlehaggard · 21/07/2014 19:47

It was a school day (treat or not) and you can't just take your children home in the middle of a school day.

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Boreoff · 21/07/2014 19:48

Cotton wool - oh well someone has to care, rather care too much then not enough to be honest.

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catabouttown · 21/07/2014 19:48

Personally I don't think yabu, even though technically it was school still, however, I imagine she was probably thinking that because your child went home all the other tired and hot children (whose parents weren't there to take them home early) would start kicking off. Of course she shouldn't have been rude regardless of whether she thought ywbu, maybe she was also feeling hot and grumpy I turn into a ball of rage when I get hot and bothered not your problem but everyone has their off moments

Alpacacino · 21/07/2014 19:49

I left the school picnic with DC one hour early today, asked if that was ok and was waved off - it did not occur to me that this might be such an enormous offence, since it was just a picnic, for FUN.
To argue that other children do not have that opportunity is such a non-starter. Let's compare lunch boxes then - nobody should have grapes because somebody else might not have them and want them?!?

YouGeorgeBernardMate · 21/07/2014 19:50

Sure, the advice not to be out in the midday heat stands, Boreoff.

But your kid wasn't, was she?

You took her home after about 4 hours and "after lunch".

So the kids get into class at 9 and start out after registration and all that jazz at about 9.30. It's after lunch and about 1.30 when you decide that your kid is more of a wilting flower than the other 5 year olds and that your authority overrides that of the class teacher in school hours.

Midday is 12 noon. Well, it was last time I checked anyhows.

adsy · 21/07/2014 19:50

boreoff WHERE DID YOU HAVE TO GO TO AND WHY DIDN'T YOU JUST COOL HER DOWN?
I also apologise for shouting but the lack of answers is getting infuriating

Billygoats · 21/07/2014 19:50

The op has already said she wasn't there as a helper and it wa a casual thing where parents could go. So she's hardly ignoring questions.

Fwiw I think 4+ hours over midday in the heat is enough for any child to be honest. If I had left I'd have probably took dd too, especially if she wasn't comfortable.

BomChickaMeowMeow · 21/07/2014 19:53

YANBU. I don't think the teacher should be cross FFS, it's the last week of term, she is in reception class. Plus you were taking a slightly out of sorts child home from a casual trip.

what do you think kids do in hotter countries? It's ridiculous - it's been reliably warm for a few days and you'd think it was bloody Africa

Yeah but we don't live in a hotter country, we live in the UK where it is 15C one day and 32C the next. We don't get chance to acclimatise. Plus the fact it's fucking humid here. Pardon me for finding it a bit sweaty when it's more then 25C.

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Boreoff · 21/07/2014 19:54

I had to get home for my dog if u must know as I don't like to leave her for over 4 hours

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catabouttown · 21/07/2014 19:56

yougeorge that is really splitting hairs on the midday thing, the hottest part of the day has easily been the latter part of the afternoon for weeks now. Regardless of what time it was, as others have said people cope with heat differently and as her dd was struggling and the op was leaving anyway (and it was a fun trip out for the kids not actual lessons) it seems sensible that she would have thought it best to take her home. My husband is South African and could sit in the sun all day, I cannot stand 5 minutes in anything over 21 degrees. One of our DD's is like me and the other like him, I would have done the same for dd1

MissBeehiving · 21/07/2014 19:57

Our school had it's sports day today and it was warm but the children had water, sat in the shade, wore hats and light clothing and while there was a modicum of sweatiness none of them needed to go home early.

If a child is obviously unwell during school hours then I cant imagine why the teacher would be pissed off about you taking her home. But if she was just a bit hot then it does seem like a bit of an over reaction on your part OP. So YABU. I can see that you've already decided that you're not Grin

adsy · 21/07/2014 19:58

I had to get home for my dog if u must know as I don't like to leave her for over 4 hours
Why?? So you had no intention of staying the full day?
Wouldn't just be that you were looking for an excuse so you didn't have to go back to school to collect. Hmmmm.

MissBeehiving · 21/07/2014 19:58

So you were going to go home anyway and didn't really fancy coming back to get her?

Notso · 21/07/2014 19:59

Boreoff without knowing what the teacher said it is hard for anyone to give a proper opinion though.

From your OP I would say YABU. I am imagining, you asked, she said no, you said "DD is hot" the teacher said "we all are but we can't all go home"
You went anyway.

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 20:00

I'd assume op was planning on going home to sort the dog out. Maybe go back.

I doubt the intention was to take the dd with her but she felt it was best under the circumstances.

BomChickaMeowMeow · 21/07/2014 20:00

Well sure, why not? It's hardly the worst sin in the world to avoid making two journeys.

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Boreoff · 21/07/2014 20:01

No I have other kids needing collecting from the school

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Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 20:02

And quite frankly, would teachers really look at a bunch of over heating exhausted tearful kids and still drag them around on principle?

Really, you would all be ok with this?

YouGeorgeBernardMate · 21/07/2014 20:02

"the hottest part of the day has easily been the latter part of the afternoon for weeks now"

catabouttown Fair enough. It hasn't been like that here so I was maybe underestimating that.

MissBeehiving · 21/07/2014 20:09

If the OP's DD was genuinely unwell why on earth would the teacher mind her being taken home, unless she wasn't over heating, of course.

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Boreoff · 21/07/2014 20:10

Yes I could have popped let dog out and came back or just left them to it if dc had been happy.

But she wasn't she was was miserable and I don't blame her, it was too hot and she had been running around.

Trust me I don't do anything to make my life easier, I do what I feel is best for my kids.

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MissBeehiving · 21/07/2014 20:13

I still want to know what the teacher said that was "very rude".

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/07/2014 20:13

I dont think you did anything wrong.

I'm pretty hardcore, I don't give in things just because my kids whine.

However if my dd had reached the tearful stage like yours I'd have had her home and in a cool bath before you could say "precious"

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