AIBU to think this is the best section on MN?

[shakethetree]

Why do people keep moaning about it? - I love it!

If you don't like it hide the bleedin' thing, or even easier, just don't read any of the threads - there's 100's of other sections to moan about!

[daisychain01]

_Chat is more often than not like an online cuddle - people are chatty, kind and talk about silly stuff like crap song lyrics, word associations and nightmare decore inherited from previous house-owners.

Lovely - its like religion, the more watered-down and wishy washy the better!

[DangerRabbit]

YANBU

[Deverethemuzzler]

Have I EVER called a child a cunt?

Or a brat or a shit or any of the things you mention?

Absolutely not. (search away)

I have and will continue to call cunt on any fucker who pretends to have a dead child or makes up shit to upset bereaved parents.

If thats ok with you?

There are hell of a lot word that are worse than cunt and they get used a fair amount on AIBU. I have listed a few above.

You are right, I am a grown up. Thats why I will continue to use a perfectly serviceable swear word.

[HoneyDragon]

Attention isn't the same as an attention thing, and attention thing is an important psychomelogicnel sort of thing.

Wanting as many responses as possible is not the same as wanting a conversation or seeking opinions/knowledge/ideas.

[shakethetree]

You're being overly harsh on the AIBU regulars - most of them ( me included ) post here for opinions. Some of the biggest attention seekers on this site are the ones who constantly moan about MN, they're not looking for advice or knowledge, ( God knows what they're looking for tbh ) but from where I'm standing it's an attention thing.

[PacificDogwood]

I like AIBU as a concept but do think it has become unnecessarily nasty and horrible.
I have started threads on it and have been told IWBU in no uncertain terms, but have not felt attacked which I think I now would be.

It IS a troll magnet and giving it less visibility would IMO be a Good Thing. Those who like it (including me!) could still find it, but it would not slap in the face the second you join MN in need of support.

I work quite hard at being particularly polite and even in tone when posting on an AIBU thread - I cannot stand name calling or belittling: it hurtful and makes the poster rather than the intended recipient look stoopid.

[PacificDogwood]

shakethetree, you need to come to The Pub

[shakethetree]

The pub eh?
best offer I've had all week

< gets coat >

[PacificDogwood]

Trust me, it's fun - I just quietly sit in a corner and learn lurk

[HoneyDragon]

I'm not been harsh to people who consistently post in AIBU at all. You'd know if I were I would say so.

[Tweasels]

AIBU is like an alternate universe. I've said this million times but I think it has created a kind of ethos where people think they HAVE to be a twat. Like they have to be on the opposing side to the OP.

People just need reminding that it's not that. Someone asks a question, you respond. Simple. No need to be horrible.

Unless of course the OP is a complete twat or troll.

[shakethetree]

It's a feminist pub! I'm scared.

but I'll sit in the corner with you & listen & learn.

Thank you

[PacificDogwood]

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

I would post here for support, knowledge or opinions, usual. I might get a variety of opinions, some of which I don't care for, but I don't 'write off' a whole section of MN just because of where they post. That's what's wrong with this picture. I've read complaints about the other 'specialist' boards here and some posters, as you say, post across the board so you could just as easily receive advice from them here as well as wherever else.

There are some very goady regular posters who are pretending to be anything but. I know who they are now and will avoid them. Everybody else I will take as I find them. If they make a rotten post it doesn't mean the next one will be.

MN is a diversion for me, a pleasant distraction, nothing more nothing less than that.

[shakethetree]

Usual - I posted on here last week about a petty argument I had with dh, I wanted opinions & advice, & you know what, everyone, & I mean everyone, was lovely.

[settingsitting]

Writing is giving too. Support information etc.
How that can be attention seeking is beyond me.

[GarlicJulyKit]

Well, just so you don't get too comfortable, shake - YABU and being a GF to boot! Why post on AIBU if you don't want to be told YABU? I'm sick of thick twats coming on here to post controversial threads just for attention. Haven't you got a life? Really, what do you get out of this?

Here's a grip. I suggest you use it.

[MyFairyKing]

I'm getting a tad fed up of the slaters. Don't like it? Don't post but many people do continue while slagging off everyone else.

AIBU has changed and not for the better. I do prefer Chat now.

[Tryharder]

I love AIBU.

I know it's bitchy but I love the way that even the most seemingly reasonable post will always attract someone with a 'yeah but..' counter argument.

I think it makes you challenge your own preconceptions and ideas. My outlook on life has certainly shifted since I joined Mumsnet

[MyFairyKing]

Jesus, garlic that was really aggressive.

[shakethetree]

Oooh Garlic < swoon >

[shakethetree]

I think she's joking.

[settingsitting]

Another bunfight on AIBU?
That will be unusual!