I've just got really annoyed with dh because he said the tea lady at work is lovely & really 'cheers him up' - AIBU?

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He said she's attractive and when she asks him if he's had a good day she sounds like she really means it - he went on to say she's like that with everyone, but it was when he said she really cheers him up I got a bit annoyed.

Was I being unreasonable?

Yes

Yes....she cheers him up, is a bright point in a dull day. So what?
Doesn't mean he wants to jump her bones.

Of course you are.

Yes YABU.

He would hardly tell you about someone if he was madly in love with them, would he?

He said she cheers him up, not that he wanted to shag her. YABU.

Yes YABU.

He was possibly being a little tactless but he was mentioning she brightened up his + others day. If he was screwing her behind the filing cabinets he wouldn't tell you!

Yes yabu

Yes, YABU. I have no idea why another person cheering up your DH would annoy you.

Yabu and selfish

just tell him how the window cleaner or postman brighten your day , and how attractive they are .

Yabu.

Yabu

And rather oddly jealous....?

Anyone who can cheer people up whilst doing the tea round deserves to be thought of fondly.Don't be so silly.

Ooh, I think you might need to sort your jealousy issues...
YABU.
He's being a regular human being interacting with other humans.

I'm annoyed because it's Monday morning & he mentioned her - he probably can't wait to get to work.

Your DH is fraternising with other women (aka THE ENEMY)?

The horror. A pretty coworker takes an interest in him on a personal level and it helps add a little colour to what is probably a weary day.

As opposed to busting his bollocks, maybe you could try genuinely taking an interesting his day, as opposed to being a grouch on MN. Take the hint.

YANBU. The fact he also mentioned that she is attractive would make me twitchy. Certain things, partners should keep to themselves.

Oh and ignore the oh-so-cool wives on here who say"it's all fine"....

It's human nature to feel a prick of jealousy, however unfounded it may be.

I'm amazed that someone can get "twitchy" about a comment like that.

Oh here we go. "cool wives" gets trotted out again.

Are you the jealous type?

Has he past form for anything?

Personally, if it carries on bothering you, I would ask to be introduced or wait outside of work with him so that you can see or meet her.
Better than imagining all sorts.

He hasn't got past form no - & I can be a bit jealous at times, ( can't we all ? ) but it was the way he said it more than anything, & why say it at all? - I wouldn't say that about the milkman, even if he was attractive & cheered me up, because I'd know to keep that to myself.

I disagree with everyone saying if he was having an affair with her, he wouldn't mention it, my experience is 'mentionitis' of the person is very common.

But off this exchange, I think it entirely unlikely he's shagging her!

So what if he finds another woman attractive anyway? I expect my husband does, I certainly have the odd idle thought that's not about my powerpoint presentations.