I've just got really annoyed with dh because he said the tea lady at work is lovely & really 'cheers him up' - AIBU?

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He said she's attractive and when she asks him if he's had a good day she sounds like she really means it - he went on to say she's like that with everyone, but it was when he said she really cheers him up I got a bit annoyed.

Was I being unreasonable?

Does he have form for inappropriate behaviour with OW ? This seems like an over reaction, love.

Well, since you ask!

Is she a generally flirty type?
Or is she just a nice friendly chatty sort?

Does she look like she may just be after one thing?

Is she she down to earth
or downtrodden
or or or

is she wearing a wedding ring[not that you can go too much by that]

I am well aware that I am going to get ripped to threads for this, but no matter

How old is your husband.
25 or 45?

Somehow op, I dont think that you have much to worry about. But I am aware that I am reading between the lines somewhat.

He doesnt have history of anything
He just volunteered the information.

I think that you need a quiet, non emotional chat with him.

here she is!

Is it that you dont want him to be cheered up by anyone else or find anyone else attractive, or is it that you'd just rather he didnt talk about it??

It wouldn't upset me, but then i dont know your history etc

What's your instinct saying?

I've had partners cheat and you can tell the difference between general admiration and "I'd shag them, if I had the chance", likewise you can tell the difference in someone being friendly/tactile with your partner and showing that your available.

I totally agree that mentioning someone doesn't mean that there not think

Nice looking woman is nice to somebodies husband meh yabu and jealous its ridiculous unless your husband has form for having sex with tea ladiesim sure its fine

OP, I think you really need to deal with your jealousy issues. Does he know that you feel like this?

Sorry not thinking of them in a bit on the side way, ice seen it many a time.

mrs Jay
'has form for sex with tea ladies'
WHO EVEN HAS A TEA LADY?

Settingsitting, you can tell all that from seeing someone? You could win BGT with a gift like that!

I didnt think tea ladies existed anymore ithought it was all vending machines and nipping to costa

"WHO EVEN HAS A TEA LADY?"

It's a common expression across factories and warehouses.

I'm Up North though.

Yabu

I think that is quite sweet.

Birds, I read that as whorehouses! now that would clear things up

He's 48 fgs, you'd think he'd have outgrown this sort of thing. & he doesn't work in an office with a tea lady coming around with her trolley - it's a slightly different set up, not that it really matters.

Tbh I would probably raise an eyebrow at this, wouldn't be jealous yet, just keep an ear out if he mentions her again! If you love someone, jealousy is a completely normal reaction, I don't think he'd be casually dropping her into conversation if there was anything going on though!

yes I am teasing a bit but a RL mate did note that one co workers name kept coming up a lot. Then they bought things or did things that x had.

and sure enough.....

YABU. The post lady cheers me up. She is young and attractive. Always has something nice a and cheerful to say. Asks after my DCs and tells me about hers.

I don't fancy her though.

I think today is national "get a grip" day

OP please sign up

LTB

Op Yabu. Do you have low self esteem?

I love my barista at work He's attractive and chatty and takes an interest in my day. I am under no illusion that he is like this with everyone in the school, and no I don't want to shag him even if he did fancy me.