WIBU to call 101 on my nasty, naked neighbour?

[Pumpkinpositive]

Just that. Is it a police matter?

11:30 pm. Dark outside. Neighbour in flat directly opposite mine, lights on, no curtains in bedroom, wondering back and forward around bedroom bollock naked chatting to girlfriend (clothed).

This is a tenement flat with large, below-the-waist height windows. One cannot be oblivious to the potential of neighbours copping an eyeful.

I don't want to go all Plymouth Brethren on someone if it's just a one off. Should I wait for a repeat performance?

This person is hermetically sealed to his desktop pc 24/7 and I have long harboured suspicions about what he may be watching. The flat also has a history of previous tenants shagging against the selfsame bedroom window at 11am on a weekday morning.

Perfectly prepared to be told I am BU.

just thinking - if you were sick of your neighbour constantly looking into your living room, might you strip off and walk about, to try to put them off?

Op, you refer to the neighbour as nasty, yet give no reason for this. Has this happened before? Has he done other things that make you think he is nasty?

No, he hasn't done it before. The reason the word "nasty" was chosen is for the alliteration with "naked". It wasn't wholly in earnest although I appreciate that didn't come across to those reading and mea culpa for that. I certainly felt at what he was doing, given my feeling that he must have known he would be visible like that to anyone walking into a room on the story opposite.

If he was Johnny Depp would you be calling the police still?

Who said I was still calling the police?

Johnny Depp isn't the best example though. Does nothing for me.

Bit of an exhibitionist yes, but don't call the Police. We had a neighbour who lived around 150 yards away who thought it was okay to sit on our boundary wall, semi naked, so he could look at my teenage daughters sunbathing. Yuk. He just said he had always sat there and was enjoying the sunshine (it was a shared courtyard). He could tell the police you were watching him.

We didn't call the police, but my daughters did powerhose him. Funnily enough, he never referred to this at all.

Yeah, the title isn't the best choice. Comes across more judgey and less witty to be honest.

And you might have got a different response.

Having read the thread, I would say YABU having made massive negative assumptions about this person. A different tone from the thread and I might have suggested, don't call 101 but perhaps log time and dates so that if it happens regularly then you should.

After all, it's only happened once.

just thinking - if you were sick of your neighbour constantly looking into your living room, might you strip off and walk about, to try to put them off?

I don't recall having seen him in his living room. The pc is in the bedroom.
The bedroom is opposite my living room window. Unless I walk into my living room with my eyes fixed to the floor, I'm going to see the bedroom opposite and any people in it. You walk into a room, windows opposite are large, flat is directly across. You inevitably see the person in it. No need for a telescopic lens.

"Who said I was calling the police?"

Umm, you! You asked if you should call the police (title!!)but then said, you assumed it was a one off.

I think the op is perfectly within her rights to not have a man illuminated fully naked over the road. Doesn't everyone else?

As you will have seen from the responses, many of us don't. We are not frightened or disgusted by the random sight of a man's body across a road and through two windows.

If the OP has been looking into his bedroom window sufficiently often to see that he is 'on his computer 24/7' then she will eventually see him naked. It's inevitable.
The answer for her is to stop watching.

If a woman is frightened by the momentary sight of a man's body at a distance in its normal, unexcited state then I genuinely feel sorry for her. It sounds very close to being a phobia that needs help and support.

"Who said I was calling the police?"

Umm, you! You asked if you should call the police (title!!)but then said, you assumed it was a one off.

You haven't even quoted me correctly there. I said in reply to a poster:

Who said I was still calling the police? (my underscore)

That was in response to a question whether if the man has been Johnny Depp would I be calling the police "still". I'm not "still" calling anyone.

If a woman is frightened by the momentary sight of a man's body at a distance in its normal, unexcited state then I genuinely feel sorry for her.

I don't recall saying I was frightened.

I'll rephrase it then.
Had the man been Johnny Depp (or whoever floats your boat) would you have considered calling the police?

Had the man been Johnny Depp (or whoever floats your boat) would you have considered calling the police?

Yes!

I may be a prude/pervert/fantastist/stalker/ogler/defensive/phobic about naked men/in need of help and support/have no communication skills or net curtains (have I missed anything?) but I'm not a hypocrite.

Right, I really do need to get up and face the day now. Toodlepip!

What the op says about how it is hard to avoid seeing into neighbours' flats in many tenements is true. My friend lives diagonally opposite and we can talk on the phone and hold things up (cake, book, knitting...) for the other to see easily.

However as a one off there doesn't seem to be a need to be getting bothered about this. Maybe if there was a suspicion of exhibitionism on a regular basis.

I have no idea what actually means. If you means something as a joke, it would be better to state it a little more clearly. Regardless of that, I was not the first one who bought it up, and you made no other attempt - that I can see - to present it as a joke.

and the case I linked to showed someone being prosecuted for it happening on a single occasion.

Standing naked in your window, on the ground floor, facing a busy street, suggests a level of exhibitionism. Which is a prosecutable offence. The fact that a bus full of school kids was able to see it makes it worse, imo.

Walking into your bedroom naked, getting undressed in your bedroom while not realising that your nosey neighbour has just copped an eyeful, is not.

Admittedly - if he cares - he should be a bit more careful to protect HIS OWN privacy, and I bet if he knew he could be easily seen he would take measures to do just that (protect his privacy), but he hasn't committed a crime because you happened to see him naked while he was going about his daily routine.

That fact is that you copped an eyeful of a man who was going about his business. You pulled your blinds down. Matter done & dusted. yet you have called him nasty & alluded to him looking at inappropriate content on his pc, which you just happen to know he is on 24/7

Since it only happened once, I'm happy to assume it was a one off. smile

He probably walks around naked in his home quite a lot. Perfectly allowed to do that as long as he isn't doing it to get his jollies from passing or opposing neighbours.

The fact is, that you have only SEEN it once. Yet it doesn't stop YOU making wild accusations about him.

Shock horror, when I lived in a tenement flat, I didn't always close the curtain when I got changed - especially in the summer months when we liked to appreciate the lovely long evenings.

I presume that if someone had looked into our window at the wrong right time, then they would've seen me naked

Dh did the same. He also works from home, a lot of the time on the computer. If we didn't now live in a conversion, I might have been worried that the OP was talking about us.

I don't recall having seen him in his living room. The pc is in the bedroom
And you have no qualms about looking into someone's bedroom? Don't you have blinds?

Actually, I'm on your side. Public displays of nudity are not acceptable and that includes being naked in your home with the curtains open.

How I miss living in a Glasgow tenement. Absolutely agree you can get a brilliant view in the narrower roads and people really only close their curtains if it's very cold and nobody has net curtains.

I invented lives to explain all the comings and goings of the different neighbours.

OP I do think you just get comfortable in your own home and forget about windows, especially as he has someone else there to distract him. I occasionally saw women ironing in their bra, half dressed.

I think because it is daylight so your lights aren't on he has forgotten.

I still think this thread is bonkers. If he did it constantly, then I would understand but it was a one off. As for the comment about him being on a computer all the time, well it makes you sound beyond odd. I am always on the computer, I work from home.

Really hardly anyone in tenements in Glasgow have blinds/nets, none of my friends do, the massive windows are part of the appeal. It's just how it is not unusual.

I loved evening walks and having a nosey at everyone's decor. And yes I would know the layout of the flats opposite and who was home at what time if day. I was working shifts at the time so get a real feel for people's comings and goings.

Pumpkinpositive
"This person is hermetically sealed to his desktop pc 24/7 and I have long harboured suspicions about what he may be watching."

This says much more about you than him.

...and even now, we frequently walk around the house naked - eg making tea in the kitchen (back of the house) before going back to the bedroom (front of the house) to read the papers at the weekend. In the summer, we don't draw the blind on the giant double height window on the stairs that lead up to our level (upper conversion), which looks on to the back garden. The only time we are careful and put dressing gowns on are if our downstairs neighbours are in the garden (slope means that the main bit of the garden is level with our/the first floor).

I'm sure the neighbours across the back could cop an eyeful if they actually looked - but across two large gardens, they'd need binoculars!

I'm not going to stop being comfortable in my own house.

I think because it is daylight so your lights aren't on he has forgotten.

It wasn't daytime, Luck. It was dark, his light was on. Seeing people gandering about in various states of undress is the norm. Seeing a man wandering around naked behind a window isn't. He wasn't doing a quick change of clothes as some people suggest.

Prettybird/ MFK, I often work from home, on the computer. I would be in no place to talk about someone who simply uses the computer a lot. Ordinary high pc use isn't what I was talking about, although the humour in the comment about "" appears to have been lost in translation. I thought people would have realised I was joking about making the Sign of the Cross, which obviously they didn't.

I loved evening walks and having a nosey at everyone's decor. And yes I would know the layout of the flats opposite and who was home at what time if day. I was working shifts at the time so get a real feel for people's comings and goings.

Don't admit to that on this thread. Seriously.

This thread has made me think of the naked man who used to walk about his flat & drink tea at 6am when I stayed in Yorkhill.
I don't know if he knew he could be seen or not, but I had to look in a totally different direction or leave the room to avoid seeing him.

I've said it before, but it's ALWAYS bloody Glasgow