to wibu to ask the doctor to give me something?

[extremepie]

Bf and I broke up yesterday as I found out he had cheated on me :(

Feel like my heart has been ripped out and emotionally I am a wreck, crying most of the day etc.

At the moment though what is really affecting me is the physical things, I feel so sick, like a have a lead weight in my stomach which is making me not eat, which is making me feel more sick etc. In the last 24 hours I have had about 10 spoonfuls of soup and half a yogurt, I honestly could not force down any more than that, tried to eat a banana took one bite and almost threw up!

My whole body is shaking, especially my hands, probably from the hunger and my chest aches like I've been punched. Have extremely bad headaches from all the crying and I got about 3 hours sleep last night!

Now I know that the only thing that can really heal me is time and I just have to wait for it to pass so to speak but can I ask the doctor to give me anything to help with the physical stuff in the meantime? I was planning to see the doctor anyway to get a check up for sti's etc so thought maybe I should ask while I was there?

Honestly feel like I wouldn't feel quite so shitty if I could get some rest but at the moment I cant :(Part of the reason I couldn't sleep last night was because my stomach hurt so much :(

I don't want to take anti-depressants because I know this is only temporary and it will pass but if I asked for sleeping tablets or something to help the nausea would they give it to me? I know there's no pill for a broken heart sadly but I'm worried I won't be able to look after the kids for long in the state I'm in I can hardly stand up straight :(

Clearly the OP is struggling - just like in real life, people don't always write their whole life story in every post. This OP is clearly at her wits end, whether because she is a wimp, or because this break-up is the last straw in a while pile of shit going on in her life, whether she has friends and family, or not, really doesn't matter.

The OP has recognised she has fallen apart, she is worried about her ability to care for her children. She is reaching out for help and most of this thread has just given her two fingers.

Just look at her username for goodness sakes!

extremepie I hope you feel brave enough to reach out and find comfort in the kindness of somebody - if that person is your GP, then go and see your GP.

I think he didn't want a relationship with me because my son is disabled and too much like hard work for him

I wondered about that. I'm sorry you feel so bad, and I hope you feel better soon.

Perhaps the psychiatrist who posted earlier would like to see all those patients who can't cope with normal psychosocial stressors, oh no sorry I forgot it's near impossiblebto actually see a psychiatrist at all, I am sure they'd like to help though. I am indeed a GP trust me it's not something worth pretending to be at the moment.

Oh and before anyone jumps in saying it's only 24hrs since a break up of a short term relationship, why does she need a support group, I meant to help OP in general.

I hope the nytol helps. Not eating won't be helping you sleep either. Do you fancy a warm drink? I don't 'do' tea or coffee but warm Ribena is a fav of mine.

P.S. I did have a go in my post but not at you, you weren't suggesting to neck a few valium. No sleep can make a person feel horrendous. Sorry if I was harsh though, feel really mean now after realising there was a massive backstory and this wasn't 'just' a break up. ??

Macdoodle- as a GP maybe you might want get more involved in your CCG to ensure more money is invested in mental health services then. Thresholds are high because of a lack of funding, plus a number of GPs want to refer on to secondary services without following the nice guidance for primary care management of a lot of conditions.

And before anyone slates me about suggesting speaking to a pharmacist , i am sure macdoodle would back my claim that they are fonts of all knowledge when it comes to useful pharmaceuticals

I really really dislike this attitude some GPs have that it is their patients' fault that the NHS is struggling to cope - by virtue of requiring some assistance!! The fact that it is struggling due to underfunding/poor management seems to escape their notice!!

The source of the problem about your waiting lists and unavailable MH teams, McDoodle is not because of your bothersome patients daring to cross your threshold - it's because there are not enough resources available! You should know how difficult it is to get a MH referral accepted - so the problem can't be 'time-wasters' blocking the lists can it?!

We all know that break ups can be hard but I really don't think it should be medicated for. Try to eat little and often, doesn't matter what it is.

expat

Trust me, part of the problem, is patient's unrealistic expectations and demand, urgent appointments for temperatures of 2hours, sore throats from that morning, out of hour calls for a crying child for 10minutes, break up with a boyfriend etc etc etc. Funding is part of the problem, but unrealistic and unmanageable demand IS indeed part of the problem. How do you know I am not a member of CCG. I do not think a psychiatrist (who are amongst the hardest HCP in the NHS to access) is the best person to make a judgement on general practice!

What a nasty thread. My GP have me diazepam when the kids were getting on my nips, to help me till some antidepressants kicked in. It was what I needed.

OP your ex bf has done you a favour - you now know he's a twat. Avoid.

Yes, I can see that somebody coming in with a a slight temperature is frustrating. However, that is not the same as an emotional crisis (however short lived). I feel very strongly that GPs need to take into account that some people really do not have a single person in their life to turn to - you may be the only person to hear your patient's pain and to be so dismissive on principle is just cruel (and potentially devastatingly destructive).

Sometimes a patient who presents with a slight temperature may be overly anxious because their life is crumbling around them. Your little bit of compassion and understanding while explaining that there is no health concern, could make the world of difference to that patient.

A little bit of kindness costs nothing.

How about 20 appointments a week for "kindness"? 10, 30, 40, 100? Where do we draw the line, how much time,how much energy, who doesnt get seen instead? The dizzy 70 yr old who falls over and breaks her hip? The 50 yr old with a breast lump? The 60 yr old man with rectal bleeding? Who decides? What happens when they system can no longer cope? We are seeing the system failing in many places now, at least we were kind

A little bit of kindness costs nothing

Well actually it does, it costs the NHS the salaries of the GP, the practice manager, the receptionists, the surgery's rent, rates, electricity, water, the pharmacists salaries, etc.

Unfortunately most people will have relationship issues at some point in their lives. Some of them may need someone to turn to in time as it might trigger other issues, but feeling upset 24 hours following a break up isn't an illness.

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You have just given a spectacular example of blaming your patients for lack of resources!

Look to others to manage the finances and resources, you get on with the medicine. If the management is failing, point it out to the people who can fix it, recommend changes. FYI It is not something your patients can fix (unless you are treating your local MP or even the PM - in which case do us all a favour and have a word with them!).

If you are struggling to do your job well because you are swamped not treating your patients properly will not fix the problem.

The problem with a service that is "free at point of service" is that some people actually seem to think its "free". Healthcare is a very expensive resource, as the rest of the world is aware, and sadly the people of the UK are going to discover. I have become tired of fighting for the NHS, I am afraid we will soon have the health service we think we want, and will unfortunately be the one we deserve.

Resources are finite, dont patronise me, until you are prepared to come and spend a day doing my job and actually understand the complexities of GP funding and health economics.

You have just given a spectacular example of blaming your patients for lack of resources!

Being upset and needing "kindness" doesn't mean you are ill, you don't need to see a doctor and be a patient in the first place.

After years in the NHS working in a cancer hospital I wonder what the hell do you think funds the NHS? Fresh air?

It is no good blaming your patients for those complexities - that is down to management.

I say it again, if it is not working, speak up. Make recommendations. Don't blame people for requiring help.

far too many people run to their doctors or to A&E at the slightest cough or sneeze. Those people don't need pity appointments they need to be told that they do not require medical assistance.

When i was pregnant and in hospital due to HG a pregnant lady was brought in during the night, her talking woke me up and i couldn't help but overhear their conversation as i was trying to get back to sleep. she had told the nurse on the phone that she was in great pain and was spotting so of course they told her to come in, when she got there they realized she was not 'spotting' or in any pain she just had a spot, i shit you not she had like a pimple on her stomach. The nurse was pretty angry and basically told her to go home and that a pimple is no reason to go to hospital regardless of being pregnant. It was the first time i had slept in 4 days and she woke me up because of a spot! I'm glad that nurse sent her home instead of letting her stay there talking loudly to her partner out of 'kindness'

Do you genuinely think those example I have given "should" be able to see a GP as and when they want? Really? If so we have no chance at all.
Sore throat for less than 24hrs
Crying child for 10minutes
Temperature for a few hours
"stressed" work, relationships, moving house, pet died
Bruised ankle
I have thousands upon thousands like this. Am I blaming them? Like hell I am! Who else should I blame, more funding will not solve inappropriate demand, it will only make it worse.

You're forgetting Mcdoodle that as grown adults we can not possibly be expected to take responsibility for ourselves and make rational decisions.

RIP NHS.

It doesn't take much to work out that this OP is struggling with more than 'just' a break-up - her username says it all. She did not need you kicking her while she was down.

You have validated your stance by saying you are a GP, and justified your response by putting her in pot of time-wasters.

This OP was asking for help and needed compassion. How many other patients have you brushed aside because you have prejudged their insignificant problem without considering the back story.

that was just an example of how the NHS is being used inappropriately. I've also known people go to A&E because they have a cold. An old friend badgered her doctor for 6 weeks straight demanding tablets to help her headaches she must of had at least 10 appointments. she had been drinking no more than a single glass of fluids a day and wasn't wearing her prescribed glasses. hence the headaches, but still she demanded medication and continued to waste everyone's time.

people need to learn to help themselves. Got a headache? drink some water, dim the lights and have a lay down and wear your fucking glasses don't book an emergency appointment with your gp the moment it comes on.

For me going to the doctors is my very last resort. I will suffer for weeks before i go.