to wibu to ask the doctor to give me something?

[extremepie]

Bf and I broke up yesterday as I found out he had cheated on me :(

Feel like my heart has been ripped out and emotionally I am a wreck, crying most of the day etc.

At the moment though what is really affecting me is the physical things, I feel so sick, like a have a lead weight in my stomach which is making me not eat, which is making me feel more sick etc. In the last 24 hours I have had about 10 spoonfuls of soup and half a yogurt, I honestly could not force down any more than that, tried to eat a banana took one bite and almost threw up!

My whole body is shaking, especially my hands, probably from the hunger and my chest aches like I've been punched. Have extremely bad headaches from all the crying and I got about 3 hours sleep last night!

Now I know that the only thing that can really heal me is time and I just have to wait for it to pass so to speak but can I ask the doctor to give me anything to help with the physical stuff in the meantime? I was planning to see the doctor anyway to get a check up for sti's etc so thought maybe I should ask while I was there?

Honestly feel like I wouldn't feel quite so shitty if I could get some rest but at the moment I cant :(Part of the reason I couldn't sleep last night was because my stomach hurt so much :(

I don't want to take anti-depressants because I know this is only temporary and it will pass but if I asked for sleeping tablets or something to help the nausea would they give it to me? I know there's no pill for a broken heart sadly but I'm worried I won't be able to look after the kids for long in the state I'm in I can hardly stand up straight :(

and FWIW if you actually read my posts I am most certainly not having a go at the OP, I think she has come back seeming calmer and more sensible. I am also not commenting on her case specifically, if there is indeed more to it than 24hrs post breakup then fine go see her GP, but that was NOT the original OP, and some of us dont have the time or inclination to search old posts or remember previous threads of specific posters.
The dramatic see your GP for benzos because they cure a broken heart and will stop you having a breakdown/anorexia/serious mental illness were the ridiculous, dramatic ones.

oh here we go we're going to turn it into a all GP's are crap/lazy/evil/greedy thread now

macdoodle.. who are you talking about with your comment 'do people never grow up?'

Perhaps if people only went to their GP's when it was medically necessary instead of every time they get a headache or cold then GP's wouldn't have to be so dismissive?

Instead of focusing on how some GP'S can be dismissive why not focus on why they are so dismissive.

I wasn't criticising all Gps. I was calling you out on you unsympathetic attitude to the OP.

I think most GPs I've worked with are great as it goes.

If I was the op I'd have found your posts very upsetting whether or not you intended to direct them at her or not.

I'd far rather see macdoodle than some of the drama lamas on here. (And no, I am not talking about the OP who is obviously having a rough time.)

I wonder what GPs are actually supposed to do when a patient tells them they're acutely distressed and need a prescription for Valium to cope. How are they supposed to be able to distinguish between genuine urgent need and simple drug-seeking? Should they err on the side of caution and give Valium to every patient that claims to need it? I know two people with substance abuse problems who have been open with me about their attempts to manipulate their GPs into prescribing Valium by claiming to be extremely distressed. They both failed. According to a lot of people on this thread they should have been given the drugs. I really don't think it's straightforward.

vicmackie The trouble is that many benzo seekers are genuinely distressed and in urgent need of something....it's just not prescription drugs.

I'd rather see mac, too. But I don't go to the GP except with serious problems.

I don't believe benzos are the answer. I do believe they can help but only in very extreme circumstances. I was prescribed lorazepam whilst getting started on ads. I never asked for them and I hated them after trying one.

In my own opinion I would like to think if a patient was to come in specifically asking to be sedated that would raise flags with me. From what I have seen and experienced the people in real need of them are the ones that don't ask because they are too distressed to even think of it.

The reason I would never tell someone not to see a gp when distressed is because I am not qualified to tell them they shouldn't. My brother was feeling down and expressed to a friend how he was feeling and was thinking about going to a gp. She told him to give it some time. Sadly he isn't here now.

I don't believe gps should have their time wasted however I also don't believe it's up to anyone to tell someone they shouldn't see one because something that seems an over reaction to us just might not be to them.

Op iv remembered your name, think you should see your gp as you've had a really hard time lately. May benefit on
Therapy also.

Quite surprised by all the people who've had diazepam prescribed so readily. I hAd extremely bad anxiety where i couldn't sit still, eat, sleep and was throwing up yet was prescribed it.
My doctor rarely prescribes it too be when im having bad muscle spasms.

When my dd died I was prescribed valium. Rightly or wrongly I decided that the raw pain and physical distress I was in were mynaturalgrief,
I thought taking pills would just delay the inevitable true horror of my emotions so I would see if I could get through the first few weeks without them
I did and the valium is still inthecupboard.
To suggest the op is in need of medication is ridiculous.if I could get through that without pills, she can cope with breaking up with somenobhead shes knownamonth.

Meant wasn't prescribed it for anxiety

By the way, I amobviously not in anyway saying I am emotionally strongerthan any other grieving person, just what worked for me

some of us dont have the time or inclination to.....remember previous threads of specific posters.

Shame, might lead to a bit more compassion. It's not really that hard to remember a name when the post was so awful.

Really? I don't spend all my time on MN if you want/need sympathy then relationships or chat or parenting or just about anywhere elsebother than aibu is better. I certainly don't read and remember every post am shocked that this is expected....

It's not expected so no need to be facetious.

I simply remembered the OP's name, as others have, and found your comment about not having the time/inclination a little patronising.

I don't spend all my time on MN but if I can step in to help someone, then I will.

I agree OP would've been better posting elsewhere but hey, let's not judge for that

But if you remember a poster's name and refer to something they've said in a different thread you're likely to be accused of "following them around the boards," so who knows what the right protocol actually is?

macdoodle I don't think your attitude meets GMP does it? The OP is obviously on the verge of a breakdown and is distressed and it is your responsibility as a GP to recognise this and refer to the appropriate persons. Unless you don't agree that emotional wellbeing matters? Maybe remind yourself of paragraphs 15-16 of GMP.

It's a website ffs. Anyone could be anyone. Who are you to judge that someone posting in AIBU is on the verge of a breakdown?

It ain't obvious to me, and I am a counsellor.

Piss off offside im not offering medical advice to the op and neither should you be

Wow, what harsh, unsympathetic responses from some - especially the GP posting (glad you're not mine - or at least I hope you are not mine). Break-ups can affect some people really badly.

OP if you feel you can't cope, go to the doctor, who I am sure will be a hell of a lot more sympathetic than this bunch.

Oh FFS. macdoodle has not been unsympathetic to the OP! She said she didn't think drugs were warranted then got a whole load of abuse from other posters. She has been sympathetic to the OP, giving/recommending drugs isn't the only sympathetic response possible! As she says, nobody should offer medical advice on a thread like this!

exit I have read the OP other posts, please try and be informed before making comments.

And macdoodle I haven't offered any medical advice to the OP. If you want to throw about you being a GP, it doesn't make a difference whether or not you're offering medical advice, you have a profession to uphold and public trust in that profession and your peers to think about.