to wibu to ask the doctor to give me something?

[extremepie]

Bf and I broke up yesterday as I found out he had cheated on me :(

Feel like my heart has been ripped out and emotionally I am a wreck, crying most of the day etc.

At the moment though what is really affecting me is the physical things, I feel so sick, like a have a lead weight in my stomach which is making me not eat, which is making me feel more sick etc. In the last 24 hours I have had about 10 spoonfuls of soup and half a yogurt, I honestly could not force down any more than that, tried to eat a banana took one bite and almost threw up!

My whole body is shaking, especially my hands, probably from the hunger and my chest aches like I've been punched. Have extremely bad headaches from all the crying and I got about 3 hours sleep last night!

Now I know that the only thing that can really heal me is time and I just have to wait for it to pass so to speak but can I ask the doctor to give me anything to help with the physical stuff in the meantime? I was planning to see the doctor anyway to get a check up for sti's etc so thought maybe I should ask while I was there?

Honestly feel like I wouldn't feel quite so shitty if I could get some rest but at the moment I cant :(Part of the reason I couldn't sleep last night was because my stomach hurt so much :(

I don't want to take anti-depressants because I know this is only temporary and it will pass but if I asked for sleeping tablets or something to help the nausea would they give it to me? I know there's no pill for a broken heart sadly but I'm worried I won't be able to look after the kids for long in the state I'm in I can hardly stand up straight :(

The OP is not being judged for the STI comment at all. It sounds like she's being really sensible about that.

Of course the short term nature of the relationship is relevant. It would be different if it were 10 years .

Anyway, we all feel sorry for her and want her to feel better.

However, saying someone is a bad GP because they don't hand out prescription drugs willy nilly is fucking ridiculous.

Being upset about a recent relationship break up doesn't constitute a mental health problem or a medical problem.

Having seen vulnerable women spiral into suicide attempts (mainly overdoses) because they have had no support with emotional problems, in my professional life maybe I have a bit more actual knowledge than some 'strong' women on here!

Actually I like the sound of macdoodle, honest and realistic. Just because you're not handing out drugs like sweets because the patient demands it, doesn't mean you don't care.

sneeze

Diazepam is a legitimate useful drug used in short term mental health issues

since when does being upset 24 hours post break up qualify as having mental health issues?

No-one is saying the op doesn't need support, she needs family and friends to rally around her.

Also PMSL at the comparison between bereavement, in which someone dies, forever gone, no hope for their future, and breaking up with your boyfriend of a couple of months

I wonder if anyone's going to have the nerve to trot out the "there's no hierarchy of pain" line...

Yes, of course, we all know nothing about hard times in life. So strong, to not go looking for pills a day after some flash in the pan dumped me.

Loads of rudeness on this thread. It doesn't matter that it's 'only a break up', the op feels how she feels.

Ive been there, who hasn't. It's shit.

Benzos are a bloody marvellous invention, god bless science I say. My lovely doctors give them to me for occasional use and know that I'm able to take them sporadically and not develop an addiction.

2mg doesnt touch me, it never has. 20mg is the therapeutic dose I need.

I have no idea at all why this op would be in any way fast tracked past anybody who 'really needs' help.

Load of over reaction about a few blooming tablets.

Sneeze I really hope that you are not in a position where you have the ability to hand out medication.

Lot of overreaction about a flash in the pan. You'd think people grow up some when they become parents.

expat

OP, I have to say I agree with those saying it's ridiculous to think about medication. Might not be what you want to hear right now, but you need to get it together, for the sake of your children. You have responsibilities that are far more important and worthy of headspace than a relationship with a man who didn't respect you.

Just want to lie in bed and cry and sleep and just wake up when it's all over and it doesn't hurt anymore

Don't know what to do with myself, feel totally lost

I remember watching my mother fall apart at the seams whenever my dad would leave. It was terrifying and confusing to see as a child. Get it together (in the nicest possible way).

Of course extreme mental distress, anorexia, nausea isn't a mental health problem, it just affects people mentally

It's where a lot of serious mental health issues start, anxiety, depression, OCD often have a common starting point of exogenous depression/anxiety caused by events.

But maybe she should just get pissed up, light a fag and hope she doesn't set fire to her house and children. Sounds so much more sensible than seeing a health care professional. Oh I forgot we have mcdoodle as our HCP representative so booze and fags def preferable.

Op my tip tip is try to see the oldest doctor in your practice. They are less likely to tell you to go for a brisk walk and sniff a bunch of lavender.

Having resuscitated vulnerable women after suicide attempts (mainly overdoses), this kind of comment Just want to lie in bed and cry and sleep and just wake up when it's all over and it doesn't hurt anymore would make me rather wary of prescribing benzos in any case.

Jeez it's been a whole 24 hours. We've all been there but normal behaviour is a cry, possibly a drink & chocolate, your pals confirming you're better off without him and a few days moping

not rushing to the docs for medication.

I had chronic insomnia linked to depression and saw my doctor for several weeks before shed prescribe sleeping tablets and even then it was a weeks worth.

No reasonable GP is going to dish out tablets under the OPs circumstances and to suggest she could be spiralling into suicidal anorexic tendancies is ridiculous

Coffeetea103 my thoughts exactly.

mac never suggested using alcohol or tobacco.

One poster did.

OR cup of tea and toast. Cheaper and better for you.

(But then, I'm not a GP)

I'm not sure you'd get much help from GP, they do prescribe sleeping tablets and tranquillisers, but usually only in the direst situations.

I've had a few courses over the years, for extreme insomnia due to sleep paralysis and hypnagogic hallucinations, I was having anxiety attacks in my sleep I was so nervous at bedtime.

For an acute stress reaction when my step dad had a brain hemorrhage, and I already have a fear of hospitals, I got diazepam, also for dental treatments and when I was having a cystoscopy.

But all of these prescriptions were to prevent my having a mental breakdown, as I have anxious personality disorder and various other bits. I'm now on a long term low dose of clonazepam, but I am an extreme case.

I know it hurts to break up with someone, but it is a normal reaction to stress, you don't need to medicate, you just need to give it time to sink in. Look after yourself, eat, have a friend round, read a book, have nice bath and a glass of wine, be nice to yourself, that's what I'd prescribe. You don't want to start using medication unless you have a very acute stress reaction, or a chronic mental health problem.

What MorrisZapp said. OP, you don't need benzos (I speak as one who has been on them repeatedly in doses up to the max). You need space, and time to process what happened, and sleep (where the Nytol are useful).

Your doctor can't give you anything to take away the pain properly. You just have to go through it. In my experience on benzos (which I was on because a close family member died horrifically) I didn't stop thinking about the horror which had occurred. I couldn't feel it properly, but it was always hovering just outside of my field of vision, and I was terrified to stop taking the pills because I knew I would have to grieve and have to face up to what happened. Benzos postpone the agony but they don't eliminate it.

You are grieving a lost relationship and tbh you just have to grieve. Take pills to sleep if you need to, be very kind to yourself (right now, what you want is what you need). You will come out of this and feel a lot stronger and better.

The anti benzo crew are obviously very well meaning and in some cases well informed, but in my experience it is simply untrue to say that docs won't prescribe them unless you're facing serious mental breakdown.

Most people I know who suffer fear of flying get them so they can go on holiday.

Ever looked round a plane on a long flight and envied the people who can sleep? They can't, they've taken something.

op doesn't have anorexia fgs she is just emotional about her break up.

sneeze what is wrong with you? Glad so many here are such sympathetic caring people. Not to mention superbly strong emotionally you didn't even send sympathy to expat yet you are falling over yourself to tell everyone how harsh they are being

If the OP is the poster I think she is, please be gentle.

I am no expert but I think there is much more to this reaction than just a break up. (FWIW I think you are much better off without him, but too down to see it).

She was in a very traumatic situation which I think is still ongoing.

Apologies if I'm remembering this incorrectly.

Of course extreme mental distress, anorexia, nausea isn't a mental health problem, it just affects people mentally

Bit early to be diagnosing anorexia after one day of being of your food, surely?

Can't see anything wrong with getting rip roaringly drunk and spending a couple of days wailing under the bedcovers.

But I recommend marzipan over diazepam any day.