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to wibu to ask the doctor to give me something?

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extremepie · 26/06/2014 08:14

Bf and I broke up yesterday as I found out he had cheated on me :(

Feel like my heart has been ripped out and emotionally I am a wreck, crying most of the day etc.

At the moment though what is really affecting me is the physical things, I feel so sick, like a have a lead weight in my stomach which is making me not eat, which is making me feel more sick etc. In the last 24 hours I have had about 10 spoonfuls of soup and half a yogurt, I honestly could not force down any more than that, tried to eat a banana took one bite and almost threw up!

My whole body is shaking, especially my hands, probably from the hunger and my chest aches like I've been punched. Have extremely bad headaches from all the crying and I got about 3 hours sleep last night!

Now I know that the only thing that can really heal me is time and I just have to wait for it to pass so to speak but can I ask the doctor to give me anything to help with the physical stuff in the meantime? I was planning to see the doctor anyway to get a check up for sti's etc so thought maybe I should ask while I was there?

Honestly feel like I wouldn't feel quite so shitty if I could get some rest but at the moment I cant :(Part of the reason I couldn't sleep last night was because my stomach hurt so much :(

I don't want to take anti-depressants because I know this is only temporary and it will pass but if I asked for sleeping tablets or something to help the nausea would they give it to me? I know there's no pill for a broken heart sadly but I'm worried I won't be able to look after the kids for long in the state I'm in I can hardly stand up straight :(

OP posts:
macdoodle · 26/06/2014 20:53

Expat I'm so sorry, I would certainly see you with sympathy and care :-(

Tweasels · 26/06/2014 20:55

Honestly I cannot believe what I'm reading here.

Sorry you've had your heart broken OP but you just need to eat something and get to bed and maybe a little perspective. Maybe expat's post might help with that.

Those of you think GP's should be giving out drugs for this are ridiculous. As macdoodle said, it's no wonder the NHS is struggling.

Redglitter · 26/06/2014 20:56

This does seem a bit of an over reaction for a relationship of only a couple of months.

bunchoffives · 26/06/2014 20:56

I don't believe you are a doctor macdoodle. I've never seen acopic used in that context.

sadly though OP as much as you are undoubted ly in there is not much you can do medically to alleviate it. You have already been given good advice to eat and drink exercise and try to relax. As well as getting some support from your friends and family.

Look after yourself and remember you will feel better. It will not always feel this bad

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 20:56

Thank god mcdoodle is not my GP.

Doesn't the sound of someone spiralling into despair warrant a few days of something to numb the pain of a breakup?

The bereaved are offered short term help.

It's short term as in days and would allow a few nights sleep which will help OP cope better.

Or is it better to allow her to sink into depression, become anorexic, suicidal and need serious mental health support?

Tweasels · 26/06/2014 20:56

Expat Flowers

bunchoffives · 26/06/2014 20:57

In pain

shockinglybadteacher · 26/06/2014 20:57

OP, if you can't sleep, NYTOL. I swear by them and they are OTC.

Don't get the herbal ones, they don't work. Nytol One A Night does what it says on the tin. (Be prepared for some weird dreams the first time you try it though.)

Tweasels · 26/06/2014 20:58

sneeze are you fucking serious with that post?

ExcuseTypos · 26/06/2014 20:59

Expat, I can't believe it's two years without your darling girl.Sad I'm glad your friend was there to look after you today.

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 21:00

You can buy domperidone over the counter to help with the nausea. Also nightol for sleeping if you don't want to bother doctors like mcdoodle.

bunchoffives · 26/06/2014 21:01

In pain

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 21:02

FGS @ speculation regarding anorexia and depression.

Nytol One a Night is great!

I have PTSD from my child's cancer treatment and death, and a fellow bereaved parent recommended it.

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 21:02

macdoodle sounds like the kind of doctor I'd like to have as my GP. Being a good doctor sometimes (or often, depending on how stupid, hysterical and self indulgent you are) telling you that you can't have what you've decided you need/want. In fact macdoodle is exactly the kind of GP that people who reckon diazepam is an appropriate tx for a breakup need.

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 21:02

I think that the OP is being judged because of the STI comment and the short term nature of the relationship.

Would it be the same for someone in the same state after a 10 year relationship?

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 21:04

is it better to allow her to sink into depression, become anorexic, suicidal and need serious mental health support?

PMSL.

bunchoffives · 26/06/2014 21:05

I don't believe you are a doctor macdoodle. I've never seen acopic used in that context.

sadly though OP as much as you are undoubted ly in there is not much you can do medically to alleviate it. You have already been given good advice to eat and drink exercise and try to relax. As well as getting some support from your friends and family.

Look after yourself and remember you will feel better. It will not always feel this bad

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 21:05

No one has mentioned the STIs except to say to go to a GUM clinic.

BIG difference between a 10-year relationship and a flash in the pan.

Yeah, how about we dole out the benzo's and zoos to teens who go through breakups, too.

CoffeeTea103 · 26/06/2014 21:06

Sneezecake you are too ridiculous for words.

MerryInthechelseahotel · 26/06/2014 21:06

sneeze your post is ridiculous and you don't know what you are talking about!
macdoodle you are spot on and speak sense!

Op if you want to use something to numb the pain why don't you have a drink like the majority of people would do. Or, speed up the process of getting over the bf by talking with friends and family

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 21:07

Diazepam is a legitimate useful drug used in short term mental health issues, not the work of the devil as a few ignorant people are suggesting. It's used widely throughout the MH service with full awareness of its potential for addiction. Please a little less hysteria at the mention of its name!

Glad so many here are such sympathetic caring people. Not to mention superbly strong emotionally.

Fwiw diazepam for a few days only is far less damaging to health than booze and fags

gotnotimeforthat · 26/06/2014 21:07

would i advise a woman to take diazepam a mere 24 hours after a breakup even if the relationship had lasted 10 years? no certainly not.

the issue isn't the short term nature of the relationships its the fact that they broke up yesterday

MrsLindor · 26/06/2014 21:07

Seeing the gp for medication the day after a breakup is ridiculous.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 21:08

Also PMSL at the comparison between bereavement, in which someone dies, forever gone, no hope for their future, and breaking up with your boyfriend of a couple of months.

Seriously?

MerryInthechelseahotel · 26/06/2014 21:08

Oh and expat (I meant to say this first) I am so sorry Thanks Thanks Thanks

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