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AIBU?

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to wibu to ask the doctor to give me something?

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extremepie · 26/06/2014 08:14

Bf and I broke up yesterday as I found out he had cheated on me :(

Feel like my heart has been ripped out and emotionally I am a wreck, crying most of the day etc.

At the moment though what is really affecting me is the physical things, I feel so sick, like a have a lead weight in my stomach which is making me not eat, which is making me feel more sick etc. In the last 24 hours I have had about 10 spoonfuls of soup and half a yogurt, I honestly could not force down any more than that, tried to eat a banana took one bite and almost threw up!

My whole body is shaking, especially my hands, probably from the hunger and my chest aches like I've been punched. Have extremely bad headaches from all the crying and I got about 3 hours sleep last night!

Now I know that the only thing that can really heal me is time and I just have to wait for it to pass so to speak but can I ask the doctor to give me anything to help with the physical stuff in the meantime? I was planning to see the doctor anyway to get a check up for sti's etc so thought maybe I should ask while I was there?

Honestly feel like I wouldn't feel quite so shitty if I could get some rest but at the moment I cant :(Part of the reason I couldn't sleep last night was because my stomach hurt so much :(

I don't want to take anti-depressants because I know this is only temporary and it will pass but if I asked for sleeping tablets or something to help the nausea would they give it to me? I know there's no pill for a broken heart sadly but I'm worried I won't be able to look after the kids for long in the state I'm in I can hardly stand up straight :(

OP posts:

NadiaWadia · 26/06/2014 20:26

I agree kalidanger. macdoodle displays such a blatant lack of empathy that may mean she is not suited to be a GP, if she actually is.

magpiegin · 26/06/2014 20:27

I agree with the others, there is nothing a gp can give you (and Valium does not mend a broken heart!!!). I think you need to concentrate on your kids, maybe plan something fun to do with them for the weekend.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:29

I couldn't agree more, macdoodle!

I wonder how many people would suggest seeing a doctor and diazepam if you had to pay for visits.

She went out with this guy for five minutes.

It's a breakup!

macdoodle · 26/06/2014 20:30

:-D I have been a doctor for 20 years and a GP for 11. I am straight and sympathetic when need be. I am a very popular GP and have never had a formal complaint. I am also a huge believer in the NHS and sadly believe the government and great British public are destroying it for the very reasons and attitudes displayed here. Just because you don't want what you get doesn't mean your doctor is wrong :-\

magpiegin · 26/06/2014 20:30

I would worry about any gp who gives diazepam one day after a break up and it is really disrespectful to compare the upset 24 hours post breakup to a psychiatric problem.

Surely we've all had our hearts broken at least once in our lives to some extent, it is a dreadful feeling but it passes (especially after a short relationship) and I'm sure the OP will feel better soon.

macdoodle · 26/06/2014 20:31

get what you want

NadiaWadia · 26/06/2014 20:31

But surely the important thing is how it is affecting her? Some people cope better than others.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:32

You need to go to a GUM clinic for sure, though.

macdoodle · 26/06/2014 20:32

It is still not a medical problem, needing medicalising or medication.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:37

'Some people cope better than others.'

No, they don't. Some don't have time or opportunity to behave like a 14-year-old every time things don't go well in life.

LoveBeingInTheSun · 26/06/2014 20:42

Hey some milkshakes/slim fast/ complan type stuff in so you can just drink and know you are getting something.

Be kind to yourself and plan a little something everyday, even if it's just a tv programme he hated or a smell he couldn't stand x

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:42

I don't feel so bad now for scheduling an appointment with my GP now I am taking 4-5 ranitidine tablets a day for well over a month and still struggle with dire heartburn.

NadiaWadia · 26/06/2014 20:42

But surely if the GP gave her a limited supply for just a few days, and monitored the situation, addiction would not be a possibility.

A few years ago I was very upset about something and saw my GP (how terrible of me to bother them, I should add they don't usually see me for years at a time) My GP was quick to recommend anti-depressants and didn't seem worried about addiction then even though they are meant to be taken long term. After a while I realised I didn't need them, as I was not really clinically depressed (it was just the situation) so stopped them.

So why all the outrage about a few diazepam to help someone over a tricky few days? Like I said, some people find it easier to cope than others, unfortunately.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:44

Because it's a waste of time. It's a breakup. Meanwhile, people with genuine problems wait ages to see a doctor.

parallax80 · 26/06/2014 20:45

Because benzodiazepines are highly addictive drugs with significant side-effects (and significant street value).

Anti-depressants are a completely different class of drug.

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 20:45

why all the outrage about a few diazepam to help someone over a tricky few days?

Maybe the reason some people cope better than others is because some people don't reach for the benzos at every hurdle, but accept that they feel shit, learn from the experience, and so are better able to manage the next time?

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 20:46

The gp may give you a few vallium tables but no more than a week, but it may get you over this immediate trauma. Very addictive but only if taken for any length of time and that won't be prescribed.

See your gp ASAP.

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 20:47

If I went to my GP after one day of feeling upset and he just wrote me a script for diazepam I'd probably look into reporting him, TBH.

expatinscotland · 26/06/2014 20:47

Admittedly I cried all night, too, till I vomited and have eaten nothing in the past 24 hours.

2years ago today, my child went to ICU. She died in there 11 days later.

I had a real breakdown at DS's nursery so a friend drove me home, we had some tea, can't face eating, and a cuddle.

Sneezecakesmum · 26/06/2014 20:48

Anti depressants will take about 2 weeks to kick in. The diazepam is short term and short acting so it may just give you a bit of a break from the misery. Enough to get some perspective and move on. If you are still feeling bad after a week then is the time to look at ADs

CoffeeTea103 · 26/06/2014 20:48

Agree with macdoodle.

It's unbelievable how people are so ready to take a pill for everything and anything. There are people with genuine reasons to go on AD's but definitely not this. You've had a breakup, so have many people but behaving like a teenager and so dramatic is not helping your situation. Actually your posts updating on your eating/ no eating come across a bit attention seeking.

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 20:50

So sorry expat.

ExitPursuedByAKoalaBear · 26/06/2014 20:50

It's a relationship break up.

Hardly requiring medical intervention

Sorry OP. It will feel better in a few days. Tea and toast or wine and fags.

vicmackie · 26/06/2014 20:52

Tea and toast or wine and fags

Yes.

gotnotimeforthat · 26/06/2014 20:53

So why all the outrage about a few diazepam to help someone over a tricky few days? Like I said, some people find it easier to cope than others, unfortunately.

should 14/15/16yo's be given diazepam after their break-ups too nadia?

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