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To want to shout at this bloody child..

437 replies

Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:20

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh *** come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

OP posts:
Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:38

Didn't think of using the sling so thank you I will give that a try next week.

Definitely feel like it's a distraction for the little girl because she is annoying the baby and Mum is sitting on the grass having a chat!

OP posts:
VampyreofTimeandMemory · 24/06/2014 21:39

jesus, she's a 2yo - yes, it might be annoying but how harsh are you?

Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 24/06/2014 21:39

Yeah it will be. God how selfish of you op Wink

DizzyKipper · 24/06/2014 21:39

Reception aged kids playing rugger? Oh my Good Lord.

What on earth is wrong with this? I used to play it when I was that age too. They only do touch tackling, not proper tackling some one to the ground.

Chippednailvarnish · 24/06/2014 21:39

Yes she is just two but not my two year old and I don't want her constantly pawing over the baby!

Then address the issue with her mum. She's two FFS, it's not like she's trying to antagonise you.

Deemail · 24/06/2014 21:40

Yabu, it's the mother you should be annoyed at not a 2 year old child. Anything you have to say, say to the mother, it's up to her to say no to her child, don't do the job for her.

SirChenjin · 24/06/2014 21:41

You're giving the Mum an hour off Wilber - she won't be in any great hurry to call her DD away from you

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout · 24/06/2014 21:42

dY.A.B.U. wanting to shout at a 2 year old child. She's just a little baby herself fgs. Any shouting the parents do it. Fast forward a few years into the future would like some women starting a thread criticszing your child. I think not. If this were my child or my nephew you were calling. I'd go absolutly nuclear.
However that said. You're a mum so I do see your concern, but this little one thinks she's helping. X

Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 24/06/2014 21:43

Oh dear - much hand wringing starting!

Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:43

Christ I am not going to shout at the child I just feel like it!!!!!

Will definitely try a sling and just ask the Mum to stop her if it carries on, thing is if it's nice weather like today it's nice to take a blanket and let dd have a kick about on the grass but it's just hard work and I'm missing most of ds's class as well!

OP posts:
maras2 · 24/06/2014 21:44

Sorry Wilberforce I really didn't mean to sound so horrible about little ones playing rugby.I was just a bit surprised.Still think that you should tell the kid to get lost though.Try hissing;or maybe just have a word with her mum.Good luck.

Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:47

It's not really criticising is it? I'm just having a moan and if my child were being a pest and I wasn't stopping her then no I wouldn't go "nuclear" over someone moaning about her.

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 24/06/2014 21:51

could you not stand on the opposite side of the pitch away from her?

HappyAgainOneDay · 24/06/2014 21:51

I'm glad to read these posts. Frankly, I would have told the 2 year old to leave my baby alone and that it wasn't a doll to play with. Joyce Grenfell's Don't Do That, George voice to go with it.

Having seen the earlier posts, I suppose I'd have to talk to the mother through gritted teeth, "Please get your child away from my baby." I might forget the 'please' as I'm not very good at tact .....

HappyAgainOneDay · 24/06/2014 21:53

If she's allowed to invade other people's space the way she does, she'll be joining in the rugby 'match' next much to the annoyance of everyone else.

TheCatsBollocks · 24/06/2014 21:54

The other child may be only two but that doesn't mean the OP's baby has to be poked and prodded and annoyed for the whole time!

The other mum is at fault. OP have a word with her.

girliefriend · 24/06/2014 21:56

I think you sound really precious tbh, the 2yo sounds sweet (apart from the snot bit Wink )

Lots of people have a 2yo and a baby and the baby survives even with 2 yo poking them, wiping snot on them and trying to get them to eat pine cones Grin

Relax Smile

usualsuspectt · 24/06/2014 21:57

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EmptyNestAgain · 24/06/2014 21:58

I think the mum needs a lesson in manners, too. She could have asked if you minded babysitting her baby DD!

TheCatsBollocks · 24/06/2014 21:58

She pokes the baby in the eyes and mouth.

How is that ok?

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 24/06/2014 22:00

Yes she's two. Old enough to be taught boundaries

Nomama · 24/06/2014 22:01

Ye gods.

Nowhere near unreasonable, Wilberforce.

What mother allows her child to poke, prod, and otherwise furtle with a baby in a pram? The other mum is being outrageously lazy/entitled.

You will need to practice, 'no sweety, don't do that' phrases so the little girl grows up faster than her mother has! Your baby is not an amusement for someone elses toddler. How anyone else can say 'ah, she is only 2, that's sweet' and ignore the fact that your child is a baby! It's not sweet it's irritating and unnecessary.

Weirdness of MN that call you precious!

fledermaus · 24/06/2014 22:04

Just say no. Tell her to leave the baby alone and send her back to her mum.

Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 22:07

I know she is only two but I just want to sit and watch my little boy without constantly watching the baby incase she is being poked in the eye or having a pine cone shoved in her mouth! I know people have babies and two year olds and if it were my two year old I would be watching and stopping anything going on I wasn't happy about but it's not my two year old so surely I should be able to sit there in peace?!

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fledermaus · 24/06/2014 22:09

Start saying very loudly "go back to your mummy sweetheart". If the mum does they "you're not wanted" thing again, just smile brightly and shout thanks Grin