Party uninvite

[BatterseaGirl]

So I had an email inviting DD to a party. It's a joint party and between the two girls they have invited five children. It's quite a special day out. DD very excited and I replied straightaway with a yes (replied to both mums). Then this evening I had a text from one of the mums saying - "sorry there's been a mix up with the invites ! DD has already promised to others. I'll speak to you tomorrow" AIBU to be livid? And what should I reply?

I had a text invite for dd1 from the mum of one of her school friends. Dd then said that this friend had said she could go if someone else pulled out! The invite has come from the mum though so as far as I'm concerned she's going. Unless they fall out beforehand, the girl doesn't sound too reliable.

What a bitch, that's awful you're poor dd.

I would just ignore it and not answer.

What shitty behaviour! If it was a mistake you would just never say and include her anyway, surely?

That's really shitty behaviour I personally wouldn't give her the opportunity to salve her conscience and make it up to your dd. I would organise a lovely day out for your on the day of the party and probably invite some other girls to join you (preferably ones invited to this prestigious party)

It's a joint party and the mum of the other girl sent out the email. This other mum is lovely and I know would be mortified if she knew.

Ask her to explain why your daughter has been uninvited and not the 'one of the mistakenly asked in the playground lot'?

So let her know... you're double checking because you're sure she wouldn't want to devastate an 8 year old!

So:

mum 1 has sent dd the invite
mum 2 has sent the uninvite

Does mum 1 know?
Why not text her and explain what has happened?

Oh see I would be texting the other mum involved now something along the lines of "shame about the mix up I will treat dd to xyz to make up for it"

Text or ring mum 1 now. Why would you not?

Shitty behaviour. I would let mum 1 know what has happened.

I would speak to the mum who sent the email to clarify if your dd invited or not, as mum2 has uninvited her.

You said you'd replied to both mums-so what did mum 1 say?

Is it a day out thing? Clutching at straws, is it that they are both taking both parents and can fit 3 DCs each in the back of the cars, so limited to 6 in total, and both thought the other had invited your DD as an 'extra' (putting her in the front if their DP wasn't coming).

However, it's shockingly bad form to uninvite a child! If it's a transport issue, she could have called you and said so, you might have offered to drive.

You need to let the mother who sent the invites know.

Have had email back (from nice mum) thanking me for replying and saying the girls are really pleased DD can make it. Now what?

oh yes and talk to the other mum, she might have had one of "her" invites uninvited so that the other birthday girl can have extra, i'd be pissed off at that.

I would certainly ask mum 1 what's going on as mum 2 has uninvited dd. Mum 1 may not even be aware

Sorry I meant offer as in "do you fancy telling her?" not actually get her to do it IYSWIM. In the hope this may trigger some vague realisation of how shoddy her behaviour is and that this is a child she is letting down not OP.

x post, call nice mum and explain what's just happened. Sounds like that might be the first she's heard of it (and might be regretting agreeing to have a joint this with this mum).

Pick up the phone and call mum1 this needs to be sorted out.

Ignore mum 2

Email mum 1 back and say thank you, but checking that all was okay as mum 2 has said DD is uninvited.

Have had email back (from nice mum) thanking me for replying and saying the girls are really pleased DD can make it. Now what?

Tell Mum1 what Mum2 has done. It sounds like there's just been miscommunication. This can sorted easily if you speak to mum1.

Tell nice mum that great as meany
Mum had said she was uninvited.

Say to nice mum oh I am really confused, dickhead mum has told me she wasn't able to come?