Party uninvite

[BatterseaGirl]

So I had an email inviting DD to a party. It's a joint party and between the two girls they have invited five children. It's quite a special day out. DD very excited and I replied straightaway with a yes (replied to both mums). Then this evening I had a text from one of the mums saying - "sorry there's been a mix up with the invites ! DD has already promised to others. I'll speak to you tomorrow" AIBU to be livid? And what should I reply?

Glad you sorted it out for your DD & the other party girls sake

But no way in hell would I even contemplate buying a gift for the mean mums DD - if I understood you correctly your DD has already had some problems with this girl ?? & this sounds very like her trying to call the shots over your DD again - in my book, actions have consequences & seems like a good time to teach such a lesson - I would just get her a card & tell DD to hold her head high & just reply "but you didn't invite me" if the other girl asks where her gift is

Good luck x

Has the party happened? If it was over the weekend, how did you get on with Nice Mum vs Mean Mum?

Not until 6th July. Mean mum is going out of her way to be nice to me at school so maybe she has learnt something from it. Nice mum has told me she won't be doing a shared party with her again!

LOL!!! I can imagine the stress that Mean Mum has been putting Nice Mum under about this...

Don't forget to come back and let us know how it all pans out

Strange how people like mean mum suddenly become super nice when the object of their manipulation refuses to play their game. Hope it all goes well on the 6th July, nice mum might need your support on the day though!

Have you discussed what mean mum said to you (about being uninvited and then having to pay) with nice mum?

I don' understand why you didn't go straight to nice mum when nasty mum first got in touch. Nice mum invited you, so she was who you should have been communicating with from the off. The first contact from nasty mum should have sent you off to let nice mum know what was going on. You were invited by one so what the other does is irrelevant. If you were invited to dinner at someone's house and then someone else said you weren't invited, the most you'd do would be to check with the first person; this situation is no different.

Still, it seems you've got there now, and your dd will be going and is and always was invited and never uninvited. Hope she has a great time.

I think nice mum had a few choice words with her, hence her bring extra nice to you.