Bridesmaid asked to pay for free room

[kellibabylove]

I probably am being unreasonable about this so havn't said anything to the 'grooms'. I'm a 'brides'maid at a wedding this summer for an old friend who I see quite alot so I know all about the wedding planning. Basically the hotel have messed up in a good way and gave them more free rooms at the hotel than they have paid for, contracts signed so nothing the hotel can do about it now.
So my friend has asked me to stay over after the wedding as he would like all the wedding party and family to stay, and id like to, although the venue is only 20 minutes taxi ride home so we don't really need to. My friend has asked me to pay for the extra free room 'at a discount'. I feel like they're trying to make a profit from the free rooms and it makes me feel abit

I'm spending alot of money for the day on my hair, accessories & shoes which of course I don't mind paying.
I don't know whether I should just get a taxi home afterwards because I feel taken advantage of considering it's a free room and the best men dont have to pay but I'm expected to.
Any thoughts?

They sound revolting. The hotel has mistakenly given them more free rooms than they need, and they're prepared to give them to anybody who's prepared to divvy up sixty quid, rather than tell the hotel they've made a mistake?
Cheap and shabby, and they wedding will probably be the same.

Thank you everyone. Yes Dolly I will definately be rethinking their gift.

I did subtly mention it to him (as if I wasnt talking about the room for me) and he basically said its away of getting some of the cost of the wedding back

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Keep us posted on how you get on after talking with the groom/wedding party.

Pumpkin... What's your opinion of these people?

I've heard of some grabby things relating to weddings on MN but, I am (evidently) with the minority here in thinking that charging something for the rooms is not grabby per se, more that they could go about it in a fairer way.

For instance, if I were going to a wedding that was quite a distance away and the couple were able to offer a discounted room, because they'd made a deal with the hotel, I would be pleased to be able to consider it along with the other options of drive/taxi/other hotel etc.

I think that it's reasonable that they offer some rooms at a bargain price to those who would be staying anyway ... i'm sure that they aren't thinking of it from the same viewpoint at all

Surely it's hardly reasonable to charge more than it's cost them, especially when some are paying and some aren't??

Regarding the way they're "thinking of it" they've already said it's to claw some money back, which sounds pretty ugly to me

Just tell them you're taking a taxi home, OP ...

This is deffo a thanks but no thanks situation.

How much would the taxi cost? Offer them that much.

I'll wait for them to bring it up which wont be long as they need to finalise things with the hotel in a couple of weeks. Ill be sure to make my feelings known. I'm guessing a taxi will cost about £15/20.

Hold on a minute. When she says "at a discount" does she mean the cost of the rooms that ARE being paid for will be reduced as the free rooms brings the average cost down? So everyone is paying the same, rather than some going for free and some paying? If so then she is NBU.

if your interpretation is correct though and she is basically asking you to pay or something she's got for free then I'd tell her where she could go.

Just offer the cost of your taxi fare instead? Or lower the amount you are giving them as a gift?

Omg, how can you be friends with a tosser like that?

I don't think there are any 'she's here except perhaps the OP.

Shamelessly placemarking.
I need to know how this pans out.

I would tell him though.
Accessores cost 50
Shoes 50
Hair 30
I was planning on giving you 50
A taxi fare is 20
So I have spent 200 already (I'm sure it's more than that)
And you now want another 60 from me.
I thought you were a friend. I was obviously mistaken!

What a dick!

Either what Internet said or deduct the cost of the room from the amount of money you were intending to give them.

Of course depending on the cost of the room that could mean you end up giving them a bill instead

Can the witty and clever vipers come up with a scathing retort for when he asks you again?

I am not sarcastic enough, I fear.

Ooooh yes please!?!?!

I'm guessing a taxi will cost about £15/20

And they want £60 for the room, plus whatever breakfast costs? Sounds like a no brainer to me

Don't forget that if you stay, they my well come up with more things you're suddenly expected to chip in for as the evening goes on; you could be getting a lucky escape here ...

Just say it like you've said here already. A taxi home will be perfectly fine and you're on a budget.

Cheeky Bastard.

Cheeky sod.

Yanbu

Cheeky beggars!

So 'ang on a cotton pickin minute. When I have stayed over at family weddings in a room at a discounted rate, that money has very likely gone to the happy couple.