Bridesmaid asked to pay for free room

[kellibabylove]

I probably am being unreasonable about this so havn't said anything to the 'grooms'. I'm a 'brides'maid at a wedding this summer for an old friend who I see quite alot so I know all about the wedding planning. Basically the hotel have messed up in a good way and gave them more free rooms at the hotel than they have paid for, contracts signed so nothing the hotel can do about it now.
So my friend has asked me to stay over after the wedding as he would like all the wedding party and family to stay, and id like to, although the venue is only 20 minutes taxi ride home so we don't really need to. My friend has asked me to pay for the extra free room 'at a discount'. I feel like they're trying to make a profit from the free rooms and it makes me feel abit
I'm spending alot of money for the day on my hair, accessories & shoes which of course I don't mind paying.
I don't know whether I should just get a taxi home afterwards because I feel taken advantage of considering it's a free room and the best men dont have to pay but I'm expected to.
Any thoughts?

[mammamic]

If I'm being honest, whether I misunderstood or not (which I don't believe I did), I'm of the same opinion as before.

It's good that you have the option not to stay. What I find a bit off is how someone's special day is turning into a sort of stand off, from the sound if things.

Every wedding I've been to has offended/annoyed /upset someone or other - it's the nature of weddings! I still think that, within reason, you have to let it slide and smile through it. It's probably the one event where we can justify bringing out our diva cheeky self and our friends will let us

I suppose it comes down to how much the friendship is worth when weighed up against the (perceived or otherwise) misdemeanour.

Whatever you decide, have a great day. In 6 months you'll only remember what a great time you had

[Aeroflotgirl]

Mimi just because it's their wedding day dies not give them the right to treat people badly, which is what is going on here. It is just not on, to treat some of the wedding party more favourable than the others.they have brought this on themselves! It is very telling that the other bridesmaids rather pay the hotel full price for a room, than the cheaper discounted room offered by the groom. It's principle that they don't want to be made mugs out of!

[DejaVuAllOverAgain]

mammamic have you missed the bit where the groom is trying to make it as difficult as possible to chose any option other than paying for the room? Quite frankly I wouldn't want to be friends with someone so cheeky and grabby as this groom is.

It's probably the one event where we can justify bringing out our diva cheeky self and our friends will let us

No. You don't have the right to treat your friends like shit just because you're getting married. (generic you)

OP if I were you I'd be a bridesmaid so they can't bitch about you letting them down at the last minute but after that I'd be letting the friendship slide into obscurity.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Yes I forgot about groom making it difficult for op just because she refused tge room and us making her own way there and back

[parentalunit]

I hope the groom is a very lovely person apart from this episode.

If not, then I'm afraid he isn't actually a friend.

I would drive, not drink, and leave as early as you wish.

[Fixitagaintomorrow]

YANBU I really hate it when people try to get money out of guests for THEIR wedding.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

It's probably the one event where we can justify bringing out our diva cheeky self and our friends will let us

But it isn't, is it? We already see posts on here about creating gift lists for little kids' birthday parties, and even requesting cash instead of gifts

I'd almost guarantee that the parents of those kids were cheeky/grabby/diva-like over their weddings, and so it spreads down the generations

A bit of courtesy and decent behaviour goes a long way