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Travelling with HB abroad however teenage daughter not keen.

235 replies

MaartjeB · 02/06/2014 13:49

How can I convince my daughter to come with HB and myself without her constantly saying : I'm not going!
We'll be going to UAE and there are some amazing places over there.
Of course there might be some negative points but I like to believe the positive points outbalance them.
Does anyone have experience of travelling with a teenage daughter?
She has her friends here etc....It's a big chance . How to make moving abroad exciting for her?

OP posts:
OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 02/06/2014 14:55

"The bitter brigade" - hah! Well, if objecting to women being considered - and treated - as if they are second-class citizens is wrong, I don't ever want to be right.

Thenapoleonofcrime · 02/06/2014 14:57

Sorry, I meant to say elsewhere in the UAE other than Dubai, didn't make myself very clear.

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 14:57

You can't drive in UAE??? How the fuck do women get to work then? What a load of ignorant shite

SquirrelledAway · 02/06/2014 14:59

Errrrm - Dubai is one of the United Arab Emirates?

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 14:59

Isn't Dubai part of the UAE?

veiledsentiments · 02/06/2014 14:59

I have lived in the UAE nearly all my life. You can drive, you can meet your friends for coffee, you can work. And I don't live in Dubai. What a load of old rubbish. Why to people say things when they know absolutely nothing about it?

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 15:00

As I said, ignorant.

PrimalLass · 02/06/2014 15:00

Thenapoleonofcrime

That's all nonsense.

veiledsentiments · 02/06/2014 15:01

Totally.

Mrsjayy · 02/06/2014 15:01

Oo harshtheo I sort of ageee with your sentiment, any way are you intendung to live or visit how old is yoyr daughter

veiledsentiments · 02/06/2014 15:02

And I have two teenage daughters here with me. They seem to lead a pretty normal teenage life. And are not at all insular.

Mrsjayy · 02/06/2014 15:03

Ive a relative I uae she drives her friends drive her muslim women friends drive
and work, relative was working before her kids,

LaurieFairyCake · 02/06/2014 15:07

The foreign office advice states that unless you're married you can share a hotel room and could be arrested

They don't recognise gay marriage and it's illegal to cross dress or be under the influence of alcohol in public. No holding hands or kissing in public either.
No electronic cigarettes or drugs including prescription ones.

Those are the most 'extreme' advisory notes - nothing about driving if you're a woman or working or meeting in public

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/06/2014 15:08

Can everyone calm the Jeff down. Theo are you really suggesting that there is no way in which women are discriminated against in the UAE? Because that is bollocks. However, they can drive, meet for coffee and hang out.

Depending on the age though, a 'normal' teenager in the UK might wear hot pants and a crop top and drink cider in the park. Snog randoms and generally do stuff that would be an issue in the UAE.

I lived in a European city when I was a teenager. I am gregarious, outgoing and quick with languages. It still sucked for the first 6 months. I made friends but it was very hard and I didn't fit there, or in the UK when I went back. Very hard for me.

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 15:09

I live in Qatar drive, sponsor my husband, am the main breadwinner and manage a section of Arab men. Maybe someone needs to tell them I am supposed to be locked away not working or driving. They must have missed that memo. It doesn't matter where people live it is just sad that travelling across shitty china is cool(because how many people would want to be Chinese, especially a woman supposing you escape being aborted for being one) but anywhere Arab and suddenly every housewife is an expert in women's rights.

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 15:11

I am not suggesting anything and I don't really care just find the cheapness of insulting one region tedious.

veiledsentiments · 02/06/2014 15:13

Yes, you have to be culturally aware. The kids know that. My 16 year old daughter wouldn't be out in short shorts or cropped tops. She knows to take a cardi when she takes a taxi. She also knows it's illegal to be caught drunk. The British embassy frequently go into their school to remind them of the laws. The expat kids here are very switched on to what is appropriate and what's not.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/06/2014 15:13

Dubai is part of the UAE!

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/06/2014 15:14

Calling the whole of China 'shitty' and 'dirty' is just peachy, though. Read my posts, Theo I didn't insult your region. Turn it down a notch, why don't you?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/06/2014 15:14

My sis did have total freedom in Abu Dhabi - she did exactly as she pleased so it's wrong to say the women have no freedom.

AnnieLobeseder · 02/06/2014 15:14

Theodorous - there are plenty of other regions I could "insult" for their appalling human rights records, especially against women. But the OP asked about this one in particular, so that is what we're discussing.

AnnieLobeseder · 02/06/2014 15:16

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack - women having freedom and having basic human rights should anything go wrong are two very different things,.

GilmoursPillow · 02/06/2014 15:16

I've lived in the UAE for 10 years. It's a great place to visit; however, if you mean moving here, I sent my teenage DD back to the UK to boarding school - I don't think it's a great place for teenagers to live.

Theodorous · 02/06/2014 15:19

I really really hated China. I hated the culture, it was filthy and I didn't feel safe at all. I also don't like the way that people are treated and babies are abandoned/sold/aborted for being female. I have to go for work regularly and absolutely hate it. I am not just saying I hate it to wind you up, I really hate it. Travelling across it sounds like my worst nightmare.