to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

I'm imagining you in a plastic police helmet with a siren in the top now

No one has ever teased dd because tbh they just don't notice as they are all taking their own and she has refused from being four years old so I'm pretty sure her class know she doesn't eat them. Sometimes she will take one and give it to a friend and sometimes she will take one and bring it home but 9 times out of 10 she has refused. I don't think children really notice or care that much tbh.She has autism, wears glasses and is the smallest in the juniors even though she's one of the oldest and she doesn't get teased about them either which I think are far more noticeable
As for the teeth and weight then I'm not convinced that the treats after school on birthdays would have much impact as it tends to be something small anyway

Bad teeth and weight issues have stigma attached, as they are associated with bad diet and discipline

They are going to have bad teeth or be overweight heedless of these sweets given occasionally. It's what they eat the rest of the time that does that unless there's a medical reason. In either case the parents looking down their noses are the ones in the wrong here. Not the one giving out the haribo.

If a child at school is put in a position of having to say no in front of their peer group, kids want to know why

I don't like them. That's if they do ask which they probably won't if you just have teacher a substitute. They won't bloody notice as it's on way out of classroom. Your paranoid

It just opens up a route for teasing, even bullying taken to extremes

Then deal with the bullies!! Don't stop everyone else from doing things.
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The easiest thing to do, of course -the opt out clause for a parent who can't be arsed, is to just let them have the sweets.Every time.Go with the flow.After all its only one little bag.

It doesn't feel that I'm taking the easy path from where I am.

Regardless

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You're not the tread police That and if you post on a public forum you have to accept it when people comment on what you post.

If you want school to ban birthday sweets its to save you the hassle of stopping your DD from eating them. Blaming your "stigma" about overweight children and those with poor teeth being bullied for refusing sweets is simply silly.

I'm not teaching my children to lie, particularly when they have nothing to be ashamed of

Is it really better to deal with bullying once it happens, or try to put in place quite simple strategies to not give the ripe opportunity?

Flipping heck, just so sweets can be handed out, my child should lie, and be assured that if she's bullied,Mum will deal with it?

Get serious!

"No you have shown yourself up Dinosaur by being so utterly offensive and personal despite my posts which show the efforts I go to as a parent"

Well mum won't deal with it will she. Just ask school to take away the next thing that puts your child in senario where the words no thank you might have to be used to avoid dealing with things.

Goodness me yet another fiesty thread. It must be something in the water.

I'm afraid I can't see the link between birthday sweets and bullying to the extreme. Or it even being ripe opportunity.

Why do you think your dd will be asked? Dd is in a big school but has never been asked why she refuses sweets or chocolates. The autism would mean she couldn't lie so she would say she doesn't like them. I'd imagine any child who asked would assume that she didn't like that item rather than the whole lot of sweets and chocolates. Your child could say she wasn't allowed them, other children will have other things they aren't allowed do no need to lie.

OP: sweets bad, sugar evil, schools should ban it

Most posters: where's the harm, it's only a few haribo

Some posters: my poor child's genetically rotten teeth; sugar is evil, no place in our diets

Other posters: you clearly have ishoos

and round and round and round

and I am a nasty piece of work and should fuck off because someone misread my post.

That do it for you Maryz?

Well Maryz, basically, it's should the schools ban birthday-sweet-handing-out totally or should the individual kids and their parents choose to accept or not. So some they says aye and some they says nay ... And repeat for 26 pages.

My child is in a small school.
Everyone knows the last time anyone farted and why.
Trust me, she'd be asked

I doubt there will be any deletions as any poster who needs to tell other posters to "fuck off" (and I'm not the only one on the receiving end on this thread) is doing nothing more than showing how weak their arguement is.

Certainly nothing worthy of a deletion.

Actually, my life is starting to flash before my eyes so I'll leave you chaps to your disputations and go and stare at Game of Thrones instead.

Dont forget to take your bag of sweeets...

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Thank you for your observations Maryz

I told Dino I was not engaging with her in response to
her remark diirected at me which I am perfectly at liberty to do! I didn't tell her she couldn't post on a public forum!She had remarked upon my parenting ability in a way I found personally offensive.

Tbf Maryz I think assumptions abound.
I have dealt with teenagers as this is the second instalment of blended family.

lol Maryz, it was skittles here; the colours are so much prettier than washed out healthier smarties and you get a maximum sugar and E-number hit

I think,ThatBloodyWoman, that you are just arguing the toss now and have lost all sense of proportion. You really should walk away from this thread before you show yourself up some more.

I've reported your vileness to Dinosaur, goady as well as nasty.

It strikes me that ds and dd being late to learn their colours had nothing to do with the autism it was because they wouldn't eat the bloody smarties or skittles